Modern society has entered the era of global village, information explosion, people's communication is very convenient and fast. In such a pluralistic society, there are huge differences between people and countries, with different religious beliefs, different lifestyles and even different social systems. Therefore, we need to understand. Only by understanding can we eliminate barriers and differences and move towards communication and unity.
"Taishan doesn't care about the soil, it can get taller; Rivers can only grow bigger if they don't choose small streams. " We should be as calm as Mount Tai and as broad-minded as rivers and seas. We should understand others like "a big belly can accommodate all the difficulties in the world". We can understand any cunning, selfish, insidious and hypocritical, and we can accept love. Only in this way can we be great, broad, firm and powerful.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Bao understood Guan Zhong's selfishness and his fear of death, and recommended Guan Zhong to be his boss, which was passed down as a beautiful talk in history.
Because of the understanding that "a hundred flowers blossom and a hundred schools of thought contend", the literature of the Warring States period can flourish.
Because of the suspicion of "ousting a hundred schools of thought and respecting Confucianism alone", the cultural decline in the post-Han era occurred.
Because of understanding, Lien Chan's "ice-breaking trip", James Soong's "bridge-building trip", the cordial talks between the party chairmen on both sides of the strait, and the arrival of a new era in cross-strait relations. Although there are many differences between us, we are all from China. Under this premise, everything can be understood.
Society is complex and colorful. People with different personalities, hobbies and experiences should understand each other. Parents should understand their children in order to eliminate the generation gap; Teachers must understand students in order to eliminate obstacles; A boss needs to understand his subordinates in order to unite people.
But there are also many negative examples in history:
Because Empress Dowager Cixi did not understand the changes of the Reform Movement of 1898 in Kangliang, it led to foreign invasion and civil strife.
Because Jiang didn't understand the peaceful national plan of the * * * production party, the three-year cruel war of liberation was possible.
It is particularly worth mentioning that during the ten-year catastrophe of the Cultural Revolution, society was full of suspicion and total ignorance. Some people accuse that it is selfish to plant some private plots and sell a car full of vegetables in the street. Wearing a flowered skirt and singing some folk songs, he was criticized as bourgeois. At that time, the production and lifestyle were extremely simplified, and tragedies of friends estrangement and relatives turning against each other were everywhere because of incomprehension.
The deep sky can understand the temporary raging of lightning storms, and the sun is shining; The vast sea can understand the temporary madness and boundless waves.
Nowadays, people are more accustomed to the pursuit of individualization and liberalization of life, which requires us to strengthen understanding to understand and eliminate hatred and deepen friendship. As long as each of us can understand, then our society will become a beautiful world without suspicion, resentment and war.
We need to understand
"Long live understanding, long live understanding ..."
This is the mantra of adults, who always want us to understand them. When we understand them, do they understand us? Do they know what our door is saying?
"Examination, the teacher's magic weapon. Points are the lifeblood of students. " This is the cry of students in the 20th century. 2 1 what are the students shouting? They are shouting "examination, the magic weapon of teachers, names, the lifeblood of students." (Note: The name is ranking. )
"alas! Very not easy to finish the exam, finally can relax ... "Words didn't say half. Because there will be an exam the day after tomorrow, and we will rank after the exam. If you count down, you can't lift your head in front of others.
"The score has been changed." The whole class rushed out of the classroom with a bang and ran into the office. When they came out, some were ecstatic and some were depressed. Back in the classroom, I took out my computer and clicked to calculate the total score. What is your total score? "What's your total score? "Wait until all the questions have been asked before ranking yourself.
The ranking table was posted and rushed over with a bang, some from above and some from below. I saw my eyes almost jump out, as if I could improve my ranking a little bit with another look.
Ranking is of course important, and what is more important is our acceptance. Some people may study hard because of ranking, others hate studying because of ranking, and even give up exams.
What we need is not the result, but the process. Adults only see the results without the process. We grow in the process, not in the result.
What does the ranking represent? Does it represent hard work and struggle? Does it represent progress and retrogression? Does it mean good or bad? Ranking can only represent us in the eyes of adults, not ourselves.
Please listen to our hearts! More care and love.
Build a bridge of the soul
I used to feel bored and disrespectful because of my mother's chatter; Because of the teacher's severe criticism, I feel deeply ashamed and resentful; I once broke up with my friend because of his impulse. I once got angry and cursed because of a stranger's carelessness.
Indeed, there are too many misunderstandings and recklessness in life. The human mind is like two banks of a river, separated by a mighty river, and the two banks of the river are always parallel, not touching or intersecting. However, people need to understand each other, and people's hearts need to communicate with each other, just as bridges need to be built on both sides of the river to cross the barrier of the river.
Only by building a bridge of hearts can people understand each other; Building a bridge of the soul, there is a tacit understanding between people; Only by building a bridge between hearts can people be happy. The bridge of the soul is the channel of emotional communication, the bond of soul dancing, the connection of beauty and the eternity of love.
Dayu's understanding of his family gave him the determination and courage to overcome the flood demon. Yue Fei fought against gold and fought in the battlefield, and his life and death were uncertain. It was the understanding of the old mother that gave him the lofty sentiments and righteousness of loyalty to the country. Blind Helen Keller has lost the window to perceive the world and has been accompanied by darkness for many years. It was Anne's understanding that gave her the belief and hope of survival. An old man who is over half a century old on the Loess Plateau has endured countless scorns and misunderstandings in pursuit of the lofty art of human beauty. It was his wife's understanding that gave him persistence and tenacity in pursuing art.
Yes, understanding can bring back the dead, and understanding can make ugliness shine. Imagine that if the world doesn't understand, maybe the whole universe will suffocate.
Love and hate are the two most basic feelings of human beings, but if there is no bridge between heart and heart, maybe you will be at a loss before love and hate. A pair of lovers who broke up met by chance a few years later. She said to him, "I have been hating you all these years!" " "What will happen after he heard this sentence? If he doesn't understand this kind of hate, maybe he will smile coldly and leave a sentence "hate it, I don't care!" " "Then go away and never look back. However, if there is a bridge between him and her, then he should know that this hatred is only a manifestation of love. Imagine that a person who doesn't care about each other must have forgotten him completely. Where can there be any hatred?
Flowers bloom and fall, clouds roll and clouds are comfortable.
What is understanding?
Understanding is the wind that blows away the veil of smoke before the war;
Understanding is rain, dripping on the heart blinded by hands and washing away the dust.
Understanding is wind and rain, or it may be ... but it is eternal, essential and self-cultivation. ...
In real life, we often complain about the injustice of fate, the helplessness of life and the hardships of life, but this is not the case. Tao Yuanming, who "sees Nanshan leisurely under the hedge of picking chrysanthemums", still lives out the space he wants in the secular darkness and pedantry of officialdom. "The birds love the ancient forest, and the fish in the pond miss the ancient garden." He chose a paradise with gorgeous leisure. So is Li Bai. "Oh, how can I solemnly bow and scrape to those high-ranking officials whose sincere faces will never be seen?" He, a bohemian, is a hero, but he knows that he understands the true meaning of life.
Understanding is a bridge to communicate the mind. People and life need to understand, and people need to understand more.
Do you understand mom's hard work? Once, did you slam the door because of a harsh criticism from your mother? However, have you noticed more and more white hair on mom's temples and more and more prominent wrinkles on her forehead? "The thread in a loving mother's hand makes clothes for her wayward son", which mother doesn't love her children! We can see that mother's words and deeds are full of love, but we can't see, we can't see the caring heart, we can't see the bitter tears, we can't see … Mother understands you, so do you understand her?
Friends also need to understand. We often have a big circle of friends, but how many people have met * * *? "We are not happy-until the end of the day, we met. We understand. What is the relationship between acquaintances? " . If you are sincere, if you understand, why care about the length of time? Understanding is the basis of maintaining friendship. Only by understanding each other can we advance together and make our friendship last forever. When your friend hurts you because of an unintentional remark, will you turn your back on others? When you disagree with your friend because of a misunderstanding, will you understand her? Maybe, maybe not. ...
Look at the flowers in front of the court, look at the clouds in the sky, open considerate flowers, and care more; Expand the cloud of understanding and be warmer.
Deep down, this understanding
Understanding is a kind of taste, an interpretation of the heart and a call of the soul;
Understanding is like tasting tea, which is bitter and sweet;
Understanding is like a warm fire, melting the cold heart bit by bit.
He stood in the golden sunflower field, and the wind roared past his ear, and the wind kept moving forward. Even if it is cut into pieces by pieces of sunflower leaves, it still moves forward. So he found the true meaning of life. But at that time, can such a person understand him? He is like a blindfolded child looking for and chasing the setting sun, and he has no dependence. He took his own life with a gun in his hand. However, a hundred years later, his works spread all over the world. He was finally understood and respected by the world. Van Gogh, do you accept this late understanding?
At that time, the tacit understanding between Yu Boya and Zhong Ziqi was amazing. What kind of mourners and happy people are these? Like the death of the hippo chef, Boya was also hit, so he broke the phoenix-tailed harp to sacrifice to the hippo chef. It turns out that the friendship between two people who know each other is so deep that the world praises it.
Understanding can give people warmth; Understanding can lead to harmonious feelings; Understanding can relieve pain; Understanding can purify the mind.
Zhao is a small country, so there are two generals.
At that time, Xiang Ru, who was not afraid of the violence of the king of Qin, went to the State of Qin. The king of Qin had no excuse to attack Zhao. After returning home, the official worshipped Lian Po, and Lian Po was dissatisfied. Without the understanding of Xiang Ru, there would be no prosperity of Zhao, and without Lian Po's understanding of Xiang Ru, there would be no reunification of the two countries.
Therefore, we can see that mutual understanding is also a kind of unity and strength.
An understanding is to make a child prodigy.
Su Shi was once worried about his bumpy career. However, in the end, he chose Chibi, and Chibi helped him. He understood the true meaning of life, resolutely out of the dark officialdom, to understand Chibi, to understand his piece of heaven, that piece of land. So there was the open-mindedness of "the great river east went to the waves and scoured out, and it was a romantic figure through the ages."
Understanding is a clear spring that awakens people who have been hungry for a long time. A cup of tea in it is always sweet after hardships. So, open your heart, let yourself understand others, and let others understand yourself.
We need to understand
Modern society has entered the era of global village, information explosion, people's communication is very convenient and fast. In such a pluralistic society, there are huge differences between people and countries, with different religious beliefs, different lifestyles and even different social systems. Therefore, we need to understand. Only by understanding can we eliminate barriers and differences and move towards communication and unity.
"Taishan doesn't care about the soil, it can get taller; Rivers can only grow bigger if they don't choose small streams. " We should be as calm as Mount Tai and as broad-minded as rivers and seas. We should understand others like "a big belly can accommodate all the difficulties in the world". We can understand any cunning, selfish, insidious and hypocritical, and we can accept love. Only in this way can we be great, broad, firm and powerful.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Bao understood Guan Zhong's selfishness and his fear of death, and recommended Guan Zhong to be his boss, which was passed down as a beautiful talk in history.
Because of the understanding that "a hundred flowers blossom and a hundred schools of thought contend", the literature of the Warring States period can flourish.
Because of the suspicion of "ousting a hundred schools of thought and respecting Confucianism alone", the cultural decline in the post-Han era occurred.
Because of understanding, Lien Chan's "ice-breaking trip", James Soong's "bridge-building trip", the cordial talks between the party chairmen on both sides of the strait, and the arrival of a new era in cross-strait relations. Although there are many differences between us, we are all from China. Under this premise, everything can be understood.
Society is complex and colorful. People with different personalities, hobbies and experiences should understand each other. Parents should understand their children in order to eliminate the generation gap; Teachers must understand students in order to eliminate obstacles; A boss needs to understand his subordinates in order to unite people.
But there are also many negative examples in history:
Because Empress Dowager Cixi did not understand the changes of the Reform Movement of 1898 in Kangliang, it led to foreign invasion and civil strife.
Because Jiang didn't understand the peaceful national plan of the * * * production party, the three-year cruel war of liberation was possible.
It is particularly worth mentioning that during the ten-year catastrophe of the Cultural Revolution, society was full of suspicion and total ignorance. Some people accuse that it is selfish to plant some private plots and sell a car full of vegetables in the street. Wearing a flowered skirt and singing some folk songs, he was criticized as bourgeois. At that time, the production and lifestyle were extremely simplified, and tragedies of friends estrangement and relatives turning against each other were everywhere because of incomprehension.
The deep sky can understand the temporary raging of lightning storms, and the sun is shining; The vast sea can understand the temporary madness and boundless waves.
Nowadays, people are more accustomed to the pursuit of individualization and liberalization of life, which requires us to strengthen understanding to understand and eliminate hatred and deepen friendship. As long as all of us can understand, then our society will become a beautiful world without suspicion, resentment and war.
Know what you need to know. Everyone is eager to know themselves and others, and even more eager to be ignored by others. Without the understanding of others, it is often difficult to get rid of the shadow of loneliness and depression; In fact, true emotional connection is not easy. It is difficult to understand others, and it is even harder to be understood.
Old people blame young people for being too open, and young people think old people are more conservative; Northerners don't understand the softness of southerners, and southerners don't understand the roughness of northerners; People who like to be lively can't stand the loneliness of one person, and people who like to be quiet are not used to the hustle and bustle of the environment ... These are trivial things such as lifestyle, personality characteristics and personal preferences. Why should others understand them? As long as you take out a broader mind than the ocean and look at different personalities with an inclusive eye, you can pass by with a smile even if you lack an understanding.
Qu Yuan, who loved his motherland, was exiled to Xupu, a sparsely populated place. Lei Feng who forgets himself is often called a "fool" by some people. Bruno, who insisted on the truth, was burned to death on the cross; Lincoln, who liberated slaves, was assassinated in the theater ... Imagine what they can do to defend the truth if they pursue everything to be understood. To learn from the sages, we should learn from their courage to pursue integrity, their faith in truth, their determination to uphold justice, and their spirit of striving for progress in an puzzled eye.
In reality, how many people can understand the true meaning of "understanding"? They deliberately pursue understanding, take others' feelings as the theme, take others' words as rhetoric, and take others' reactions as embellishment, and write an absurd life of indecision and no opinion.
People are independent individuals; People don't need to live for others; People should have the courage to say "Long live understanding" and say: "Why not be understood!"
At night, everything is silent, and occasionally there are a few insects, which adds to my inner loneliness. I looked up at the window. In the ethereal sky, the stars are looming, and the bright moon is covered with filar silk clouds. May the night be quiet and I am awake.
Monday, March 2 1 Sunday is cloudy.
"All 12 years old, what animation are you watching!" Mom slammed, the TV slammed off, and my heart dropped to freezing point. "Do your homework! What's the use of all this mess? ! ""That is, you never understand your parents' pains and forget everything all day ... "Dad echoed. I sighed silently and went back to my room. I have just come out of that pile of books for less than ten minutes, and I am going back to that pile of books in a daze.
"Alas ..."
It rained on Tuesday, March 22nd.
Oh, my god The book "Flower Season and Rainy Season" under the pillow is gone, which makes me scared. Will this book be "shredded" like the last book "Selected Works of the Times"? Will it be "buried in the basin" like "honey in the wheel box"? Or was he killed like Harry Potter? ..... I dare not think about it. ...
"Look, if you have money, you can buy these no three no four books! Is my hard-earned money for you? Can you do Olympic math problems? Will history be memorized? Do you remember English words? ..... "Dad roared.
"You are so carefree! I won the first place in the exam. What about you? What a shame! " My mother's sobs in the next room made me afraid to make any noise.
The book was torn to pieces and thrown into the trash can. I dare not say anything, but watch it "completely broken". I really want to cry!
It will be sunny on Wednesday March 23rd.
The handwritten newspaper is finally finished. I can't help sighing. Looking at your masterpiece, I feel a sense of accomplishment from the bottom of my heart.
"Draw a handwritten newspaper? ! "Looking at my happy appearance, my father asked sharply. His face was unhappy, his brow furrowed, and his sword-like eyes seemed to read my mind easily. I shivered and replied falteringly, "well ... yes." "Didn't I tell you to resign? Team members don't draw, they push everything to you! You should study hard! Where did you get the time to get these things? Why are you getting more and more disobedient? "
"no! I don't want it! Aren't you enough? Deprived of my hobbies, separated all my books from me, and even gave me a TV and computer. Now even I am not allowed to do anything for the class. Didn't you always teach me to be a generous and responsible person? But ... "I couldn't help myself anymore. I cried and tears welled up in my eyes. Mom and dad looked at me in surprise and finally fell silent. ...
For a long time, my father looked at my mother and said slowly, "It seems that ... we are too lenient ..."
Soft moonlight filled the whole room, and naughty stars flashed. What a beautiful starry sky. I feel more comfortable and relaxed than ever before.
It feels so comfortable to be understood, haven't you ever experienced it?
As a ninth-grade student, every exam at school is a test of our ability and learning situation, so everyone pays more attention to our grades. However, this achievement is against my will now. It is always playing hide-and-seek with me. I remember I did so badly in the first exam when I was in the ninth grade. But that time, my parents didn't blame me too much, because they thought I had grown up and should know my mistake, but their attitude still worried me. I feel heavy on my shoulders. I'm scared, too. I'm afraid of exams. So I failed again. Although, I have made a little progress than last time, but only a little. I know I made a big mistake, I angered my mother, and I almost have no face to blame her. She loves to nag, but I know she loves me too much and has high hopes for me. This time, my mother stayed up all night for me. Dad is very busy. I don't know what he should do to me. As a result, I was ready to bear the wind and waves, ready to attack me mercilessly with that sentence. I won't blame them, because they have worked hard for me after all. Besides, everyone else can do so well in the exam. Why can't I? Besides, I'm regressing. Those days, I lay in bed and thought a lot. I carefully screened my performance in school this semester. What should I do? I asked myself.
That night, my father came into my study and he sat by the bed. I know a storm is coming. However, it seems that my father thought for a long time before telling me about my grades and my school situation. Strangely, I didn't feel the smell of blame in my father's language at all, only understanding. "... the teacher said that you are under too much pressure, so you should face your study easily. ..... If you have any difficulties in the future, let me know. Although I am very busy, I will sit down and listen and help you solve it ... You should also find the reason, and don't blame yourself too much ... "Yes, it's time to find the reason. I can't always tell my parents that I am a loser.
"Dad, I will." Looking at my father who is trying to choose a language, I almost want to tell him. How lucky I am! I have a father who understands me and my heart is cheering.
It turned out that my father learned about my study at school from the teacher. Now, my father no longer looks at me coldly, and I no longer panic, because my father understands me. From what he said, I understood that in the future, I should go into battle lightly and not have too much burden, because too much burden will make it difficult for me to move forward. After listening to my father's words, I feel warm and confident, because I will study hard just for my father's understanding, and I will not be lazy again, because my father's understanding has given me confidence and courage.
I appreciate understanding, and I appreciate my father's love.