Do you know why most of the relationships built across the screen are illusions?
Some time ago, a friend who had not been in love for a long time sent me a message saying that he had met the right person. The two of them had added each other on a social software and chatted every day. They had many similarities. Among her hobbies and interests, she likes a certain popular star, likes to watch niche movies, and likes to eat hot pot only with vinegar and no sesame sauce. She said that she has been single for many years and finally met the person she truly believes will be her lifelong partner. But in fact, the two of them have only known each other for a month, and they have reached the point where they are committed to each other for life, which is inevitably a bit unbelievable.
Nowadays, everyone still thinks that being able to chat is very important. When someone appears who you can chat with very well and has many of the same things that you like, they think that the other person is that person. Destined person. Especially for people who have been single for many years, it is easy to fall into two extremes. One is not calling anyone, and the other is being too affectionate and showing affection after just a few days of chatting.
Is the emotion expressed just through the screen really believable? When my friend told me the words "Mr. Right", I rationally advised her to be careful and try not to mistake the feelings on the screen for true love. Sure enough, I just told me yesterday that the other party has not contacted me for a week, and I feel that I have met a playboy. In fact, he is not a scumbag, but he easily falls into the illusion of love. He thinks that just by chatting on WeChat for a few days, he can be determined for life. The relationship just talked about is not trustworthy at all.
Recalling that I saw a short video posted by an emotional blogger a few days ago, she met a boy on a social software. At that time, the boy had just fallen out of love. She would chat with the other person and comfort the other person. After chatting for a long time, she fell in love with the boy. When she thought she could replace her previous one in the other person's heart, she came all the way to another city to find a boy. It meant that the other party had reconciled with her ex, but by the time she responded to the message, she had been blocked.
At that moment, I didn’t feel sorry for the girl, I just thought it was a little funny. The funny thing is that the feelings you think are actually for others, they are just a tool to accompany them through a difficult period, and they are insignificant. Until the other party goes through that period of loneliness, they will abandon you without hesitation. Most of the relationships built across the screen are illusions, and the true love you thought was just an empty joy in the end. 1 Talking is the cornerstone of love, but it is not the whole story
Liao Yimei said: In this life, it is not uncommon to encounter love and heat resistance, and liking means encountering mastery. It is not easy to meet someone who truly understands you in a sea of ??people. You meet many people every day, but you can't chat with them. Even if the distance is just silence, the chat is not on the same channel at all. Nowadays, when people treat relationships, they no longer just want physical and warm companionship. Instead, they care more about inner communication. This is also the development of love, but we should not pay too much attention to the norm of being able to talk. And ignored other things.
I do not deny that being able to chat is very important and is the cornerstone of a relationship, but it is not all of love. When choosing a person, in addition to being able to chat, you also need to look at the appearance and behavior of these people. Whether you are very young and whether you have a sense of responsibility should be considered from many aspects, not just based on spiritual communication. It is not known whether the two of you are suitable. 2. If a person really loves you, he won’t just chat with you on the screen
People often say that a person’s words about loving you are not reliable, it depends on his execution ability. So, why not? Will you fall in love with someone on the screen? The main reason is that there will be a kind of artistic beauty across the screen, which makes you ignore the reality. In addition, the other party happens to know you very well and will give you spiritual comfort during countless lonely days, giving you the illusion of love. .
I have also felt attracted to a person through the screen, but every time at this time, I always return to rationality and switch to the way adults treat love, instead of being like a child, easily Just fall into the whirlpool of love. If a person has feelings for you, he will not only be willing to chat with you on the screen, but will try his best to meet you. Especially for boys, he really likes someone and wants to meet you. If he doesn't Don’t believe the urge to see you. 3. The feelings that come out of chatting will be broken as soon as there is no contact.
The feelings that come out of chatting are like dandelions. They will disperse as soon as the wind blows. If you are caught off guard, you will not respond at all, and the other party will also not respond. It has long since disappeared from your life, as if it had never been there. In the beginning, we chatted every day, just like lovers. We would say good morning and night to each other. We would talk to each other immediately when something happened. We would share interesting and troublesome things with her, and the other party would also Very considerate and got the reply I wanted.
Later, you will become more and more accustomed to his existence, which will make him dependent. As long as he does not reply to your message in time, he will start thinking wildly, and you have integrated yourself into the other party. For the other half, if things go on like this, you will really have the illusion of being in love, but this is just one of your feelings. Compared to the other party, you may just be bored.
Until one day, you no longer take the initiative to contact him, you will find that he will not take the initiative to find you. When he stops contacting you, you will find that there is no one between you except on the mobile phone. Know all the contact methods. As long as you don't have a mobile phone as a communication device, you are just a passerby. The relationship that came out of chatting will gradually end if there is no contact for one day or two days.
Don’t fall in love with someone through the screen. It’s not reliable at all. It’s very likely that the other person is just lonely for a while and wants someone to chat with her, but you happen to be there. Even if it’s not you, there will be someone else. . Don't mistake temporary loneliness and expatriation for true love. Relationships require two people to trust each other from a distance. Only after judging the overall characteristics of this person can you judge whether it is worth getting married.
Across the screen, just chatting for a few times cannot make you see a person clearly. If you are moved so easily, you can only freeze him quickly, which is not trustworthy. I advise you to be cautious about love, try not to fall in love with one person, give each other more time to get along, and slowly meet and feel love.