Why do many boys end up with a "good friend card" label when they are pursuing someone with their heart, and they don't want to take the initiative when they meet someone they like?

Today's article is for boys who are shy or feel inferior, and dare not or don't want to take the initiative to pursue girls.

Just through this article, I can tell you my experience.

First of all, I summarized the following points in my own way: 1. Is it wrong to actively pursue girls?

that's right! We can take the initiative, but enough is enough.

Some girls are worth chasing, but some girls are just green tea. The more serious and diligent you chase, the more embarrassed she is, and the less she knows who she is.

aren't you chasing a black hole when you meet this kind of girl? After catching up with the last game, you still leave a capital SB impression in the other person's heart.

why bother? 2. How can we be together without active pursuit?

I used to be this sand sculpture logic, thinking that chasing girls means taking the heart, giving and taking the initiative.

Share some stupid things I have done:

I don't even want to eat in the canteen, so I save money to order KFC takeout for girls;

I don't drink milk when I come back from fitness. Every time I buy her a favorite egg tart, I put it on my chest and bring it back to her.

I can't bear to buy my favorite clothes and shoes, so I saved money to give them to her favorite hands ...

What happened? I don't have to tell you.

then how did I finally get rid of the bill?

it was because of my sudden realization at that time.

I think it's better to love anyone than myself. I can't control anyone, but I can control myself. Why not be nice to myself?

After that, I began to eat well, dress well and use well, and do what I like.

It's funny that some girls are chasing me, and some of them are really good.

Some people send drinks when playing basketball, and from time to time, some people secretly ask me for WeChat.

I suddenly found that when I have no sense of demand for girls, I feel more confident in chatting and joking with them, and gradually found that they are no better than me. Why should I chase them?

bitter pursuit. isn't that bean?

to sum up, some people say that the core of chasing girls is not chasing, but attracting. I agree with this.

You make yourself miserable like dust for someone. Not only does she look down on you, but others also look down on you, and finally you all look down on yourself.

if a person doesn't even love himself, who will fall in love with you? To tell the truth, if you choose to grovel for one person, you may lose a sea of people.

there's nothing wrong with running your own business! ! 3. do you want to pursue it actively?

initiative must be important. But there must be principles and moderation.

first of all, we should understand whether this person in front of us is worth chasing, and whether you can catch up with him.

a green tea, from the beginning, treats you as a fool to pass the time and pay, and you still chase it. Isn't that insane?

or, he is a rich and beautiful woman, and we are children from a three-no-family who moved bricks temporarily on the construction site. You are still chasing after him desperately. Isn't that gambling with your life?

If you win the bet, be a winner in life for a while and have fun; Losing the bet hurts self-confidence, not to mention that the previous efforts not only put pressure on themselves, but also made the other side Alexander.

to sum up, it is ok to take the initiative, but you should be clear about the situation, have principles and know how to be moderate.

What I said above is not profound truth. It is all my own experience after many times of practice. What I said is chicken soup and truth. Those who have really experienced it read it, and then laughed and turned it over. There is really no nutrition.

In fact, the answer is obvious:

You are a diaosi, and the audience is really that big, so you can only chase. The more you chase, the more tired you get, the less confident you become. Finally, you have to admit that you are a loser in your feelings.

But if you can pay more attention to yourself, don't be lazy, tidy up your image well, and have one or two skills that you are good at, then you will be well received.

When did Wang Sicong and Edison Chen ask: Do boys have to take the initiative to chase girls when they fall in love?