Introduction: Huawei President Ren Zhengfei said this: Only "shameless" people can become successful people. Face is a shield used by the incompetent to protect themselves. Excellent children pursue the truth, not face. Only shameless people can become successful people. To be reborn and become a real person.
Recently I am following a drama - "The Great Military Advisor Sima Yi: The Tiger Roars and the Dragon Roars".
I have been watching the Romance of the Three Kingdoms since I was a child, and I didn’t have a good impression of Sima Yi. He was ambitious and had ulterior motives, usurping power and stealing the country.
The entire Three Kingdoms is like a circle of mahjong. 80% of the time, three players are short of one, and three players, Cao Cao, Liu Bei, and Sun Quan, are playing on the card table, bumping, exploding, and making moves, as wise as a crouching dragon. Feng Chu, Wu Ru, Lu Bu and Guan Yu all acted as chess pieces in the card table. The clouds were turbulent and the waves crashed on the shore.
Until the three heroes passed away and left with regrets, finally one person, Nozuka Tiger Sima Yi, climbed out of the hospital bed and went to the card table to play a round of mahjong with the juniors, but he lost his mind. At this point, the Three Kingdoms returned to Jin. The three heroes have spirits in the sky, and they will spout blood and die again!
The filming of this drama is very good, and the plot also subverts the impression of Sima Yi's drama.
The first part of "Strategic Alliance" has more than 40 episodes, whitewashing Sima Yi into a white lotus, serving the country, the people and the family, with the light of an angel above his head. Generally speaking, women from good families want to lick Uncle Wu Xiubo's mustache. Where is the traitor you promised!
Until the second part "Tiger Roars and Dragon Roar" came out, I followed it for more than 30 episodes, and Uncle Bo was still sitting on the white lotus, like a Guanyin. What about the darkening you promised? Director, I have taken off my pants and you want to show me this?
It wasn’t until the end of the play that I finally saw Sima Yi, who was in his 70s, dressed in red, holding a knife under the moon, with his wolf looking at him, and saying: I have been a knife in other people’s hands for decades. , this time I am the knife wielder! The audience finally climaxed.
Put up your pants and get back to business.
Tell me why it was Sima Yi who conquered the Three Kingdoms and unified the world? In terms of force, he is not as good as Liu Guanzhang, in terms of intelligence, he is not as good as Wolong Fengxiao, and in terms of general strategy, he is not as good as Cao Mengde. All the big names failed half way through their business. How can Mr. Sima rule the world with such virtue? I am not a historian, and I do not analyze the time, place, and people. As far as a single personality is concerned: Ya is so shameless! So it worked!
Sima Yi’s greatest skill in this play is: shrinking. Cao Cao recruited him to serve as an official, so he broke his leg and pretended to be ill. During the two dynasties of Cao Pi and Cao Rui, she could only tolerate the struggle in the court. I was ordered to fight Zhuge Liang, and he couldn't leave the camp. I allowed you to yell and curse in front of the battle line, and gave women and clothes to provoke the generals. You can only tolerate a single word. Finally, he came up with a clever plan to defeat Zhuge: boil Zhuge to death! Zhuge Liang died of illness in Wuzhangyuan, and Sima Yi returned in triumph! Cao Fang proclaimed himself emperor and became a tutor. Faced with Cao Shuang's humiliation, he could not bear it at all. In the end, he simply stayed in bed and pretended to be sick to save his life. Finally, he waited for the opportunity of the Gaoping Ling Incident. Oh, old man! Just imagine, if you were a hero of the Three Kingdoms and wanted to crawl out of the grave to say a word to Sima Yi, what would you want to say? I would choose to say: Y is shameless, don’t play like this!
Throughout history, most successful people have a shameless spirit! In order to prevent public criticism, Qin Shihuang burned books and harassed Confucian scholars! In order to force Liu Bang to surrender, Xiang Yu wanted to cook Liu Bang's father. Liu Bang joked that he would share a piece of the pie with me. Tang Taizong Li Shimin shot his own brother to death during the Xuanwu Gate Incident and became king! . . . . . . Too many to write!
Wait a minute, what I want to promote here is not the thick and dark philosophy that people are ruthless and unjust, and that people who are humble are invincible! There are truths and lies in history, and they are the dregs of feudal society. We must look at them critically and dialectically. In reality, many words have semantic extensions, blurred boundaries, and mixed reviews! For example, in the 1980s, if you said you were a "poet", a truckload of fan girls would come to you for autographs. Now, if you say you are a "poet", you are equivalent to being unemployed and poor! Girls in the past were advised to marry a good man. Now you tell the girl that I have nothing, but I am a good person. The girl's answer was an adamant refusal.
So the shamelessness I want to talk about here is positive, has boundaries, and treats it in a way that takes the essence and discards the dross.
1. Being shameless does not mean being without dignity, but being shameless.
Lu Xun once said: "Face is the spiritual program of the Chinese people." If you don't give people face, your spiritual program will be damaged, and it will be difficult to measure right and wrong.
Chinese people want to save face, pay attention to courtesy, and be well-matched. Face is a kind of social currency. I save a little with you, and you save a little with me. The upper side of face is favor, and the lower side is vanity. Didn't you know that favors and face are necessary? Otherwise, why don't you go and ask Jack Ma for face? Face is given. If others don’t give it to you, you don’t want it. People give face often without asking for it. Whether it’s based on feelings or value and interests, in short, it’s given and not asked for. When the time comes, you have to say: Can you give it? I have a face. The other party often shows embarrassment or refuses outright.
As for vanity and face, it is indeed what you want, but this is also what it means to have face and suffer. If you want to be rewarded, you have to pay, and if you want to be vain, you have to pay some pain. Therefore, if you ask for face but cannot get it, and if you ask for it but feel uncomfortable, is it okay to not want it? Forget about face, but do good deeds and others will reward you.
Dignity is underwear, the bottom line of personal shame. Don’t always confuse face with dignity. Those who want face want to put money on their own faces, and no one will put underwear on their face.
2. Being shameless does not mean not having a bottom line, but not having a glass heart.
There is a very popular best-selling book on the Internet called "Don't Let Embarrassment Kill You", and several books have been published. It can be seen that being embarrassed has indeed harmed many people. When you are embarrassed when chasing a girl, you end up becoming the wife of Lao Wang next door. When you were looking for a job, you were embarrassed, but you found out that your classmates all mentioned that you had been the student union president on their resumes. When you want to ask your boss for a promotion and a salary increase, you feel embarrassed, but in the end, those shameless people who are not as good as you get the job. In the end, I was surprised to find that even those who don't want to be shameless can do well, but I have read a lot of poetry and books, but I don't have any talent. The problem may be that I am too conceited, afraid of being criticized or rejected by others.
Some time ago, a colleague chatted with me and said that he was afraid of being scolded by his boss. I said that I wanted to understand one thing: it is a good thing to be scolded by the leader. It shows that you are doing something well and your boss is paying attention to it. It is almost impossible not to be scolded. Think about it, you have been scolded by your parents at home. You must have cursed God when you were unlucky. You must have called your boss stupid behind your back. Then you go out and take money from the boss and don’t want to be scolded by the boss? So, smash the glass heart yourself. Stick to the bottom line, do not violate laws and disciplines, and be shameless in any space above the bottom line.
Have you still not understood why those people who you think are shameless in their tricks have done better than you and have not been punished by God? Their space is bigger than yours, but your bottom line is too high.
3. Shamelessness does not mean seeing through the ugliness of human nature and surrendering, but recognizing the truth of life and still loving life.
I have many sales colleagues around me, and I find that most of them live a free and easy life. When working, he displays his wolfish nature, walks on the edge of the rules, flatters customers without sincerity, and makes a lot of orders, making his career very successful. When you return home, you can still play your role as a good family member. You can post photos of various family travel and delicacies in your circle of friends.
Human life is sunny, and I feel that they all have an ability: the ability to draw boundaries and switch roles. See through human nature, use human nature to complete sales tasks, but do not bring home the ugly negative emotions of human nature. They know the boundary between the workplace and family, and of course there are some who do not cut it well. They turn eating, drinking, whoring, and gambling into life hobbies, causing family tragedies. This has nothing to do with whether you can see through it, but to do with your own realm.
So, life is already difficult and hard, so it is better to be shameless, let go of your confusion about life, and embrace life.
May we all be a little more shameless, relieved, and insensitive in 2018, and life may be a little easier.
Left Bank Notes: Yan Jiehe, the former president of Pacific Group, said the same thing as Ren Zhengfei: "We who do big things have never been shameless. We can tear off our skin and throw it to the ground, kick it a few times, and walk away with disdain." Gu. "Wei Wei, the editor-in-chief of economic publications, also believes that "it is the most shameless thing to insist on mistakes for the sake of face." It can be said that people who love face are very fragile inside, and their little self-esteem cannot withstand the slightest disturbance. In fact, how others view you is none of their business.
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, others will still think of you. You can't live for them all your life, right? Although some people are very important to you, sometimes the more you behave, the worse the results may become. You are you, what is there to be afraid of?