[This issue of "Lu Yu You Yue" will be premiered on Phoenix Satellite TV on February 29th, 65438]
Yi xiaoxu, his father.
On February 23, 2007, 42-year-old Chen gave up his fortune of over 100 million yuan and left his parents who were over 70 years old to get a haircut and become a monk at Xinglong Temple in Baiguo, Changchun.
My son's daughter-in-law was going to become a monk, and my mother-in-law was lying down.
Lu Yu: When did you know that she had such an idea?
Xiao Xu's father: In 2005, she told us that it was necessary to keep quiet and awake when chanting Buddha. You can't let everything go until you wake up. She said that I was practicing while working in the company, which was not letting go. One day, I will put down my company and my family, so that I can really practice in the western paradise and die. I asked her, will you become a monk? She said yes, I said when are you going? She said at that time that she would become a monk if she had the chance.
Lu Yu: Did she leave home early, or did she give you short notice?
Xiao Xu's father: She has arrived in Changchun on the second day of this year. Hao Tong told her in-laws to kneel on the ground and kowtow first. I thought it was a New Year greeting. He said that Xiaoxu would become a monk on the sixth day. If I say such a big thing, it will be over if I inform us. Why not discuss it in advance? Her mother-in-law sat there crying, and Hao Tong knelt down and continued, I also became a monk on the 16th day of the first month, so her mother-in-law simply lay down. My son and daughter-in-law are monks, and this family is finished.
I don't want to be treated by western medicine, because I don't want to be smashed after chemotherapy.
Lu Yu: She was in poor health at that time.
Xiao Xu's father: Yes, I'm already ill.
Lu Yu: Do you all know that she is ill?
Xiao Xu's father: I know it's late. She kept it from her family for six months.
In 2007, Chen's breast cancer worsened and bone metastasis appeared. As a result of refusing treatment, her health is getting worse. On May 6th, 2007, Chen finished her last journey in a Dojo in Shenzhen.
Lu Yu: If she wants to get timely treatment, she should be able to. ...
Xiao Xu's father: Yes, it will be fine. After I found out that she was seriously ill, she said to me, Dad, if I use western medicine, then I will choose to die.
Lu Yu: Treatment and conflict of faith?
Xiao Xu's father: She said that after treatment and chemotherapy, people will become deformed. I don't want that. I chose death. This man loves beauty too much to end up in pieces. She won't have the operation. Later, a doctor in Beijing said that she could cure her illness and sent eight bottles of medicine to Shenzhen. I asked her aunt to force her to eat. If she doesn't eat, I will go to Shenzhen to force her to eat. Later, I talked with Master Kong Jing, and after the talk, I agreed to let her take medicine. I chatted with her again, and she said, Dad, no matter what I do, you and my mother must not be sad. After a while, she said bluntly, Dad, I want to die. I said don't talk nonsense, you still have a lot of things to do, treat the disease well, and forget it. What do you want the world to think of you after you die? She said it doesn't matter, whatever you look at. He can have more experience when people scold me. I don't understand this statement. After her death, she said on the Internet that the number of breast cancer patients in hospitals increased by 40%. In connection with this statement, I said that this child is not what I thought.
Tell the reporter to close the door.
Lu Yu: What is Xiaoxu's life like in the most popular scene in A Dream of Red Mansions?
Xiao Xu's father: She has a hard time. She doesn't have much money. She borrowed a small bungalow from a friend, which is less than 10 square meter. She also basked in the sun in the west, and it was particularly hot in summer. At that time, if she wanted money, she would have money immediately. 1990 or so, when my salary was only 100, an enterprise wanted to buy her portrait right with 600,000 yuan.
Lu Yu: Advertising, right? 600 thousand is already a lot.
Xiao Xu's father: That's astronomical. She didn't do it. She ate half a pig's trotters with Hao Tong, but she couldn't afford it. She bought half and ate instant noodles. I don't think it's expensive to ride a car, so I'll ride a bike. She took the subway to work when she started a company.
Lu Yu: Will you be recognized in the car?
Xiao Xu's father: He is often recognized. People ask, are you playing Daiyu? She agreed, so she signed it. She is most afraid of meeting reporters. She was rejected three times out of three dates. Journalists are still my friends.
Lu Yu: You promised the reporter, but Xiaoxu didn't agree.
Xiao Xu's father: People came back to me in a hurry and said, "What kind of daughter are you? I've never been rejected as a reporter for three times in my life, and I haven't seen you at home for three times in a row. What's the big deal? " I called Xiao Xu and said that you are not suitable. You must meet someone, or my friend.
Insist on not eating with customers when doing business.
Lu Yu: Isn't it difficult to do business with such a character? Doing business, especially in the initial stage, requires eating and socializing with others. What should I do?
Xiao Xu's father: That's how she does business.
Lu Yu: How to do business?
Xiao Xu's father: I seldom see customers. I want to have dinner with her, but she won't go. She lets others go and sometimes offends customers. After studying Buddhism, the big client came, and she made a table of vegetarian dishes for people to eat, which made her popularity bad.
Lu Yu: (to the audience) But sometimes, if you are alone everywhere, others will think that you are honest and your company is reliable. Although we have different habits, we are still willing to do business with you. Later, Xiaoxu's business quickly became very big and successful.