Especially those married couples, even if they really break through various obstacles and come together, their hearts are not really together, so once something happens, they can see each other's hearts.
I was really embarrassed to hear a colleague talk about the experience of a friend around her the other day.
Yan Na is 36 years old. Now her husband Li Bo is her second husband. Speaking of it, she is also a woman with some bad karma. She lost her father at an early age and lived alone with her mother.
I still remember when I was a child, other children laughed at her as a child without a father, so they always bullied her. Whenever she heard someone say that, Yan Na attacked others like an angry little lion.
Over time, Yan Na felt that no one could be trusted, so she worked hard, whether at school or in her future work, in order to make herself stronger and let her mother live a better life.
When she got married at the age of 25, Yan Na married the man she loved with the dowry she prepared for herself. Married life is as happy as imagined. Yan Na was glad that God still cared about himself and finally gave himself a warm home.
It just backfired. After five years of happy life, the husband and wife went out once and died unexpectedly. After learning the news, Yan Na didn't eat or drink for several days. I can't believe it's true.
More importantly, Yan Na didn't stay with her husband's children. She swallowed all the pain by herself because she didn't want her mother to worry and get angry.
After several years of single life, relatives and friends around her advised her to find another one. After all, she is still young, and she can't just die alone, without even a child.
At first, Yan Na refused other people's blind date suggestions, until one day, her old mother fell ill, and after she took her mother to the hospital, she finally got through the difficulties.
Yan Na sat by the bed holding her mother's hand, and her mother said weakly, "I'm glad to have you as a good girl. My mother is not afraid of death, and she is old enough to support herself, but she doesn't trust you. You are lonely. Now you are young and good. What if you are as old as your mother in the future? " Nobody takes care of you. "
After listening to her mother's words, Yan Na began to seriously consider remarriage, and felt that what everyone said was reasonable. Besides, after all these years, I believe her husband in heaven will also want her to be happy and taken care of.
Therefore, under the introduction of others, Yan Na met Li Bo, a very gentle man. Li Bo lived alone after divorce from his ex-wife, and she had no children. Yan Na thought she hit it off, and Li Bo appreciated Yan Na's independence, so they got a marriage certificate soon.
She is no longer a little girl, and this is her second marriage. Therefore, their life after marriage is very peaceful and comfortable, which makes Yan Na feel that remarriage is the right decision.
Yan Na has his own career, and Li Bo is also a university lecturer. Both of them have high incomes, but they manage their property separately after marriage, and even have a notarization before marriage. Even the daily necessities at home are made of AA.
At first, when Li Bo put forward this proposal, it was explained that it was for Yan Na's consideration. She didn't want Yan Na to misunderstand that he was trying to figure out her property, so Yan Na was moved for a while.
But something happened not long ago finally made Yan Na feel Li Bo's indifference, which can't be measured by money, and also made her feel that the second married couple was just so.
That night, Yan Na, who had fallen asleep, was suddenly awakened by a severe abdominal pain. At first, she thought it was something bad, and it didn't get better after taking the medicine. The pain got worse and worse, and finally I couldn't even stand up.
Woke up with a start, Li Bo asked her if she needed to go to the hospital. Yan Na nodded easily and told him to call an ambulance.
After the ambulance took Yan Na to the hospital, she was diagnosed with acute appendicitis after the doctor's examination and needed immediate operation. At this time, the nurse gave the list to Li Bo, asked him to pay the fee, and then came back to sign it before she could operate on Yan Na.
But Li Bo paused. He told Yan Na calmly, "You must pay a deposit of 10,000 yuan for hospitalization. Do you have your cell phone? Transfer the money to me first, so that I can pay you. "
At that moment, Yan Na's eyes blurred with pain, and he clearly saw her husband. She has never seen the man in front of her like this.
Yan Na didn't say anything. She took out her mobile phone in her pocket and directly transferred it to him, saying that it was not only medical expenses, but also his hard work.
Without saying anything, Li Bo accepted it directly. Yan Na recovered quickly after the operation. During this period, establish resplendence ardently hired a care worker for her with the money given by Yan Na, saying that she was too busy to come and take care of her every day.
After leaving the hospital, the first thing Yan Na did was to find a lawyer and asked Li Bo for a lawyer. Because of the notarization before marriage, the divorce procedures of the two were also very happy, and there was no division of property.
As for Li Bo, in the face of Yan Na's divorce, she didn't show too much surprise and agreed without much thought.
Yan Na, who regained her freedom, seems unaffected. She still lives strong and independent, but when she can't sleep at many nights, Yan Na thinks, why can't a married couple be happy? Why can you be so indifferent?
In real life, although every couple first wants to grow old together when they enter marriage, there are always some factors that lead to separation, and remarriage has become the choice of most people.
However, in this group of married couples, there seem to be too few examples of happiness. Living habits, children left by ex-husband/ex-wife, property problems and so on have all become factors that affect the happiness index of second-married couples.
Too many married couples are married, but their hearts are not together Once their hearts have a distance or even a crack, no amount of money and superior material life can make up for the emotional lack.
When the emotional bond is broken, there will naturally be no happiness.
Therefore, since you have decided to get married and tie the happiness of the rest of your life to this person, you must treat that person sincerely and treat this marriage. This is the real grasp of happiness. Even if you get married for the second time, you can reap the love of growing old with your children.