Hello dear, I think hard work as an ordinary person is the most important. If you want to become a top person in the industry, talent is the most important.
The level of effort determines your lower limit, and the level of talent determines your upper limit. We ordinary people have no option to change our talents and can only make our lower limit not so low through hard work.
In the 1990s, two Stanford University professors conducted a psychology experiment on fifth-grade students in the United States.
Students were divided into two groups, A and B. After they completed a task, the researcher took two encouragement measures to them.
Group A was "You are so smart." ", Group B is "You work so hard".
The experiment found that if students are constantly praised by "You are so smart", they will avoid tasks that they are not sure about, pay too much attention
to their own rankings, and ignore specific skill mastery. . Researchers speculate that they do this to keep looking smart and avoid the risk of making a fool of themselves
.
If students are constantly praised for "you work really hard", students will be more inclined to choose challenging tasks and refer to other people's methods and techniques.
In their view, failure is because they did not work hard enough, so increasing their efforts is a good choice.
The researchers wrote in the experimental report: "When we praise children for being smart, we are telling them that in order to stay smart,
don't take the risk of making mistakes."< /p>
When a child does something well, and you praise him for his hard work, or tell him that success is due to the combination of external efforts and his own wisdom
, he will feel, "Well, I Success makes sense. If I work hard next time, I can succeed again.” If you praise him for being smart, he will think, “Damn it, my success is due to internal reasons. It doesn’t matter whether I work hard or not.” No matter how hard you work, you will succeed. Who makes me a genius?"
If things go on like this one day, if the child who is praised for "hard work" fails one day, he will feel that he did not work hard enough and will just try harder next time
; while the child who is praised for "smart" will If a child fails, he will give up on himself, because the talent of "smartness" has expired, and others are "much smarter" than he/she, and he may be unable to recover from his failure.
In daily life, there are two types of people who emphasize the role of hard work and underestimate the importance of talent.
A person who graduated from Tsinghua University and Peking University has only hung out with alumni for a long time. All he can see is that only those who work harder will achieve greater success. Laziness will only lead to greater achievements. Create a gap between people. Therefore, he felt that hard work was more important than talent.
A person who enters the national table tennis team is not a top player, but his table tennis talent is enough to crush most
people who were not selected. However, when he summarizes his sports achievements, he will emphasize that he does not rely on talent but hard work.
People with high talents emphasize that hard work is more important. That is the conclusion of a small circle of high IQ people after comparison. Most people should not believe it; people with average talents emphasize that hard work can change their destiny and put in the effort. , we should respect them; those who are not talented but do not work hard
are destined to live a life of mediocrity.
It is worth noting that China has a history of thousands of years of imperial examinations, which has gradually made society familiar with the beneficial direction of personal development
. I think this cultural atmosphere that emphasizes hard work and diligence is a simple summary of experience.
Emphasizing the importance of hard work will reduce the anxiety of academic losers and attribute their failure to temporary problems
For fun, as long as you keep your mind and make progress, There is still a chance of success.
In a culture that emphasizes hard work, people can accept failure more calmly, are more inclined to challenge themselves, and pay more attention to methods of doing things.
The hard work seems simple, just more than ten hours of desk work a day. In fact, it is difficult, because working day after day requires at least patience and perseverance.
Anyone who achieves success must go through long-term training and work, and sweat and sweat before he can achieve success. This is a universal and unchanging situation.
When I was in high school, seats in the class were assigned based on academic performance. Those in the back row always looked down on those with good academic performance. They always say that so-and-so can only learn stupidly, but if I take it seriously, I can also learn well.
In their view, talent is very important, and hard work can come easily. However, they dare not try, because the hard work may not be the same as others, and it will be a slap in the face.
My cousin was always praised for his intelligence by the teacher. When he was a child, my uncle also thought that his ability to dismantle toys and restore them was very good, which meant he had a high IQ
From elementary school to high school, all his teachers said that he was smart and that if he worked harder, he would definitely be on par with the first place.
As a result, he always felt that he could maintain good grades without working so hard, but he had never won first place.
He would also panic when facing some big exams, but he would still pretend not to care in front of his classmates and quietly read the books and memorize formulas when he got home.
He did not dare to let others know that he was also working hard, because he wanted to maintain an image in front of his teachers and classmates. Even if he did not work very hard, his grades would be good.
This mentality has been with him throughout his student career. He will never work 100% hard and diligently, and he will never get what he wants.
According to current research, children with an IQ higher than 140 account for about 1% of the entire population. Most children actually belong to the 99%
Normal level and intelligent level Level does not determine the size of a person's achievements or happiness in life.
Praising children for their intelligence will make them feel proud of their natural advantages, but in fact it only creates a false sense of self-confidence. For most of the problems that children face, intelligence alone is not enough. When this natural advantage becomes less obvious, children feel as if they are not smart enough. This self-confidence derived from "smartness" is also destroyed.
The child mentioned in "Injury to Zhongyong" was extremely smart when he was a child. Everyone praised him, and even went to the extent of performing everywhere.
When he grew up, he was just "disappeared into nothing" Everyone".
However, I still want to say but. If it is a child who is not that smart or even has a low self-esteem, it is necessary to praise them for being smart, because they need to build self-confidence and need to be recognized.
Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is an important principle of education.
There are no ineffective children in the world, only parents who use the wrong method. I hope every child can become the kind of adult they want to be.