Zhang Ailing wrote in Half-Life:

"A middle-aged person often feels lonely because when he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who depend on him, but there is no one he can rely on."

In fact, middle-aged men have another name, that is: father.

When people reach middle age, they are old in the world and young in the world. Whoever has experienced such a life will be "annoyed". If your children have grown up, you will find that the role of the father is often "silent" on the road of children's growth.

Many times, it's not that my father has nothing to say, but that he doesn't want to say anything. After a whole day's work, everyone should sit in the car for a while and catch their breath before going home.

All grievances must be shouldered by yourself, and no matter how tired you are in the workplace, you will be wronged. Learn to smile when you get home, and try not to bring your emotions home. When the child shouts "Dad", the father's heart will "warm up". It seems that all the efforts are valuable. It seems that we need to be a little tired tomorrow to create better conditions for our children.

If you look at it from the child's point of view, do parents really live well? Is father really omnipotent?

Father is the loneliest person in the world, but you just can't feel it. As Bing Xin said: "Father's love is silent. If you feel it, it is not father's love!" "

02

You are growing, your father is getting old, and your father is still carrying a heavy load.

My father is a very strict man. Every time he comes home, the family atmosphere takes a 360-degree turn. Just talking and laughing, we suddenly became cautious and stopped talking loudly.

Father is strict because he is "to the letter". What he said is the "imperial edict" of the family, and no one can disobey it, including himself.

When I was in junior high school, my sister was in senior high school and my brother was in junior high school. The expenses of a family are increasing day by day. For our three siblings to study, the family has been heavily in debt.

Every few days before school starts, my father has the cheek to borrow money from relatives and friends. Relatives said, "If you ask them to read less and go to work earlier, it will be easy."

My second uncle's family also has three children, but they all went to Dongguan to work after finishing junior high school.

One day, my second uncle came to my house for a drink. He said to my father, "Brother, I'm not talking about you. No matter how children get along, you will never be reliable in the future. " You'd better not borrow money. It is the best policy to find a way to arrange their work. "

My father suddenly got angry and threw away the glass: "If I can't borrow money, I will go to work in a small coal mine."

Later, father really went to a small coal mine. Every day my father comes home with a black face, a full face of soot and black clothes.

When I grew up, a friend contracted a small coal mine and invited me to have a look.

When I got to the coal mine, I gasped. The coal mine roadway is only more than one meter high, and everyone has to walk in with a cat around his waist. The light inside is very dim. If you are not careful, you will hit your head. The stone under your feet is also very sharp, and you may trip at any time. As for what the innermost part of the coal mine looks like, I dare not see it.

In fact, there is also a saying in the village: "Those who go to small coal mines are all rich men." This sentence is implicit, that is to say, in those days, it was dangerous to work in a small coal mine, as if it meant to exchange one's life for money.

My father never said what it was like to work in a coal mine. Only in those years, he became more silent, with more white hair on his head and his waist seemed to be unable to stand up straight.

03

If you really know your father, you will find his silence very helpless.

I saw a short story in a circle of friends: a girl of seven or eight years old came home and said, "There will be a sports meeting at school this month. Let's buy a pair of running shoes."

Mom said, "You have to ask your father about this."

The girl didn't know that her father's business failed, and the family not only had no money, but also owed a lot of foreign debts.

Father was silent for a long time, then said, "If you ask the teacher to give us two days' grace, we will definitely buy running shoes. "

Two days later, the running shoes were bought back. Father's hand, but more than some wounds. In order to buy shoes, my father, who has never done manual labor, actually dug in the construction site, and his palms were full of blood bubbles!

Perhaps, many people can't understand their father's difficulties, because his father is at home, like a mountain, and he seems to be omnipotent.

In fact, dad is very tired, but he has nowhere to tell. When he starts to say that he is tired, it will make his family panic. Father loves a mountain, even if he is thin, he must live like a mountain and cannot fall down.

04

If you really appreciate it, you will find that your father's love is lonely and beautiful.

Many fathers always bury their love for their children in their hearts. They are not good at expressing, but if you feel it with your heart, you will feel warm.

My cousin Su, after graduating from college, went to work in Shanghai. In order to communicate with her father, she specially bought her father a smart phone, but when chatting on WeChat, her father often adopted a "caring attitude".

Asu sent a WeChat to ask her mother: "What's wrong with Dad, always ignoring people?"

Mom said: "Your dad, his fingers are not flexible and he can't type a word for a long time, so he is too lazy to use his mobile phone."

Asu asked again, "What happened to Dad's finger?"

Mom said, "Hey, your father used to cut down trees in the mountains, and his fingers were often injured, so he couldn't stand straight."

Sue was suddenly silent with tears in her eyes. ......

Yes, my father worked hard all his life. If he doesn't have a skill, he can only do rough work. Even if he does rough work all his life, he still has to support this family. Your back is bent, so support it with your body.

When you were young, did you look at your father's hands carefully? Do you know how hard his work is?

Cao Lun said: "Father loves mountains, quiet and heavy. Give my most sincere wishes to my father who is not good at expressing love. "

How to describe fatherly love, you can never find gorgeous words, but you can always find sad pictures.

The pictures in this article are from the Internet.