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The psychology of adolescence can be described as a flurry. Students are full of enthusiasm and ambition, but also full of idealism and lack of understanding of reality. Because of their ambitions and ideals, students are ambitious, daydreaming, but the reality can easily make them disheartened and even worried.
Seven manifestations of teenagers' mental health
Adolescence is a transitional period from childhood to adulthood, and there are many physical and psychological changes, such as emotional fluctuations, love for the opposite sex, and easy transfer of interests. Students' mental health is mainly reflected in the following seven aspects:
1. Like everyone else.
Everyone is similar. If a person's ideas, manners, hobbies, clothes, etc. They are all too different from others, so his psychology may not be healthy enough.
Appropriate age
Human behavior changes with the development of body and mind. People of different ages have different ideas, interests and behaviors. Adolescence should be energetic and positive.
3. Be good at getting along with people
Everyone lives in society and is a member of it. One can't exist alone without society. In adolescence, when the social scope is expanded, we can learn from each other's strong points in communication, cultivate the spirit of mutual assistance and cooperation, enrich the group life experience and exercise the ability to adapt to others.
Optimistic and enterprising
A happy mood indicates mental health. An optimistic person is aggressive in everything and is not afraid of any difficulties. Even if you encounter unfortunate things, you can quickly re-adapt and not be depressed for a long time. On the contrary, people who are sentimental and often depressed are psychologically unhealthy. Moreover, the lower the mood, the heavier the degree of mental unhealthy.
Moderate response
Everyone's reaction to things is different in speed and degree, but the difference will not be too big. If he overreacts, it means that he is mentally unhealthy.
Face the reality
Only people with mental health can face the reality. When encountering difficulties, they always have the courage to admit the reality, find out the problems and try to solve them. On the contrary, people who are mentally unhealthy often adopt escapist methods because they can't adapt to the environment. These can't solve practical problems, but can only achieve the effect of self-deception, which will develop into a pathological condition over time.
7. Logical thinking
No matter what you do, mentally healthy people are step by step, methodical, conscientious, and have the determination and perseverance to overcome difficulties, rather than half-hearted and endless. They think logically and speak clearly, instead of rambling and forgetting what they said.
Five, the main psychological problems in adolescence and their characteristics
With the drastic changes in physiology and physiology, students' psychology has also experienced a turbulent period. Due to the backward psychological development and insufficient preparation of individuals, adults, others and society, adolescence seems to be an accident-prone area on the road of life development, which deserves our deep consideration and serious treatment. To sum up, the common psychological and behavioral problems at this stage mainly include:
1. Time difference dislocation of physical and mental development
In adolescence, physical development is rapid and mature, while psychological development is relatively slow, which leads to the incompatibility between people's psychological maturity level and social experience accumulation and the rapid maturity of physiology, and the phenomenon that psychological age is separated from physiological age. In this way, there will be many psychological contradictions: personal requirements and dependence, self-design and teacher requirements, ideal goals and realistic possibilities, personal consumption and economic ability, consciousness and social behavior. This subjective desire and objective possible psychological contradiction have caused their inner troubles and uneasiness. Therefore, adolescence is prone to psychological imbalance and physical and mental dysfunction, which is mainly manifested in abnormal attention to one's physical function and excessive exaggeration of certain diseases, that is, full energy input, dissatisfaction with one's drastic physiological changes will lead to extreme anxiety, thus subjectively conceiving diseases or symptoms.
2. Emotional problems
Mainly manifested in the intense and changeable emotional experience, often unbalanced, difficult to control, emotional bipolar experience instantly transformed, depressed. If negative emotions are not resolved for a long time, symptoms of depression and anxiety persist, and troubles and loneliness cannot be let go, suicidal thoughts and behaviors will occur.
3. Confusion of gender roles
The so-called gender role confusion refers to the confusion of the corresponding positions, behavioral norms and patterns of the two sexes in social and cultural regulations, that is, the phenomenon that boys are like girls and girls are like boys. The gender difference between men and women is not only manifested in the physiological basis, but also in social adaptation and social behavior. Adolescence is a critical period for gender role differentiation and gender identity. If handled carelessly, it will cause problems such as feminization of boys and masculinity of girls.
4. Personality conflict
Due to the imbalance of students' physical and mental development, there are many contradictions in psychological development, resulting in personality conflicts. For example, students are resistant and dependent, closed and open, brave and timid, arrogant and inferior, and their personality characteristics are rebellious, paranoid and extreme. If you can't integrate your personality well, there will be personality conflicts and even divisions.
(1) The contradiction between independence and dependence
The most prominent manifestation of students' psychological characteristics is their sense of adulthood, which enhances their sense of independence. If you are gradually unwilling to be taken care of or interfered by your parents in your life, you will feel bored psychologically; When judging the merits of some things, they are unwilling to listen to their parents' opinions and have a strong desire to express their opinions; If you disagree with some traditional and authoritative conclusions, you will often make radical criticisms. However, due to the lack of social experience and life experience, they often run into a wall and have to look for ways, methods or help from their parents. In addition, they are not financially independent, and the authoritative role of parents forces students to rely on their parents.
(2) The contradiction between the sense of adulthood and the sense of naivety
The outstanding performance of students' psychological characteristics is the sense of adulthood-thinking that they have matured and grown into adults. Therefore, in some behavioral activities, thinking understanding, social interaction and other aspects, it shows the demeanor of adults. In my heart, I long for others to treat him as an adult, respect him and understand him. However, due to the limitation of age, social experience, life experience and knowledge, they tend to be blind in thinking and behavior, easy to do stupid things, and obviously naive.
(3) the contradiction between openness and closeness
Students need to communicate with their peers, especially with the opposite sex and their parents, and they are eager for others to treat each other with an open mind like themselves. But because everyone's personality and ideas are different, students can't find someone to release this desire, so they have to hide it in their hearts. These heartfelt words, because of self-esteem, don't want to be known by others, so they form ambivalence that they want to be known by others and are afraid of being understood by others.
(4) The contradiction between desire and depression.
Because of the development and maturity of sex, students have the desire to communicate with the opposite sex. For example, I like to be close to the opposite sex, want to know about sexual knowledge, like to show myself in front of the opposite sex, and even have hazy love ideas. However, due to the constraints and restrictions of schools, parents and public opinion, students are in a state of depression and contradiction in their understanding of emotion and sex, and they are both eager to express themselves and embarrassed.
(5) the contradiction between self-control and impulsiveness
Students' consciousness and self-control have also been strengthened while their psychological independence and sense of adulthood have emerged. In the interaction with others, they subjectively hope that they can consciously abide by the rules and do their best, but objectively it is often difficult to control their emotions well, and sometimes they act rashly, which makes them fall into the contradiction of strong self-control but impulsive.
5. Interpersonal conflict
Students often find themselves in conflict with their parents and other adults during adolescence, and the generation gap is obvious. More importantly, with the increase of heterosexual communication, the problem of heterosexual communication has become increasingly prominent.
6. Sexual psychological problems
Due to the lack of knowledge of sexual physiology and psychology, students often have problems such as sexual confusion, confused sexual values, weak awareness of sexual health care, sexual errors and sexual deviations.
How to spend adolescence
1. Peer communication of young students
Friendship is becoming more and more important in the lives of young students. Adolescent students gradually shift their emotional focus to close friends. Students believe that friends should be able to share joys and sorrows and get support and help from each other. Therefore, there are special requirements for the quality of friends. Friends should be honest, reasonable, caring for others and keeping secrets. In daily communication, good friends can often tell each other the most important secrets. This kind of communication is of positive significance to students' psychological development, so that students can better understand their inner world and what is happening through others.
The consistency of views and behaviors is also one of the important conditions for the psychological proximity between young students' friends. On some occasions, good friends often have to work out a consistent course of action, and if they violate it, they will be severely condemned. Loyalty to agreements and friends is a very important measure of friendship. Students also have a multi-level feature in making friends. As their hobbies develop more and more widely and their inner lives become richer, it is even more difficult to meet their needs in all aspects with a friend. The friendship between friends in adolescence is more straightforward and easier to observe than that between friends of different ages in the future. The friendship between boys is stronger, while the friendship between girls is softer and more delicate. With friends, students will show more enthusiasm, enthusiasm, confidence and courage, and can better develop various social skills.
People live in various interpersonal relationships. Communicating with people is a psychological need of people. The more advanced the society, the more interpersonal relationship will show its unique value. Communication is of special significance to the growth of teenagers. We should hold the attitude that we can make friends and you can make friends. People who have this attitude of making friends think that others can do what they can, tolerate their shortcomings and appreciate their advantages. I will not pursue perfection for myself or others. He is easy to get along with people, and others like to associate with such people. So, what should we pay attention to when interacting with peers? In interpersonal communication, everyone will have their own communication principles, which determine how to communicate. Generally speaking, we must abide by the principles of sincerity, mutual assistance, trust and tolerance in our communication.
The so-called principle of sincerity means that in interpersonal communication, everyone can treat each other with a true and sincere attitude, without any falsehood. To care about your peers sincerely and get along with your friends, you must be sincere and frank. This is the popular person. People who are hypocritical and worldly are very annoying and it is difficult to make good friends. It is a normal need for people to hope for the care and attention of others. When a person feels that the classmates around him are very concerned about him, he will have a sense of warmth and security in his heart, and he will be full of confidence and happiness. Since he is concerned by others, he will also care about others, so it is easy to have a friendly and intimate relationship with each other. Sincerely care about your classmates, full of enthusiasm. When your peers want something from themselves, as long as it is legitimate, you should try your best to meet each other's requirements. Seeing that others are in trouble, we should take the initiative to help, care and be considerate. Of course, it should be selfless to care about your classmates sincerely, and try to avoid bringing problems to your peers.
The so-called tolerance principle means not demanding others and not imposing on others with your own views. In interpersonal communication, we should be tolerant of peers, understand other people's different hobbies, behaviors and opinions, and make self-sacrifice for others. Tolerance of others is a person's virtue. When you learn tolerance, your sentiment is also cultivated and improved. Tolerance is a personality characteristic that modern people should have. Explain that a person is generous and tolerant of others, regardless of the small gap, and can tolerate dissidents. Life is full of contradictions, and it is inevitable that things like being misunderstood, envied and talked about behind people's backs will happen between peers. We must be tolerant and polite to others.
The so-called trust principle means that both parties can trust each other's behavior and dare to entrust. People who don't keep their promises are not worthy of trust and communication. Trust is the bridge of friendship, and loyalty is the core of friendship. We should treat our companions sincerely and never betray the trust of our friends. Otherwise, you will not only lose the trust of your friends, but also lose your friendship. Therefore, friendship without trust cannot last long. Hoping to be praised by others is a psychological need of people. It is not difficult to praise others, because everyone has something to praise. It is important to praise others sincerely.
The so-called principle of mutual assistance means that students can help each other in the process of communication. When one party is in trouble, the other party can do its best to help them and provide them with all possible help. This is by no means the mutual benefit that some people understand. If I help you, you must help me, otherwise it is not mutual assistance. Or just loyal, regardless of the standard of right and wrong, I will help you as long as you need it. Even regardless of the merits, regardless of the help of law and discipline. Students in particular should learn to say "no" at some critical moments. People always hope that others can affirm themselves and cater to themselves. So yes is more popular than no in life. People often worry that if I refuse him, I won't continue to maintain friendship. So I gave in to my friends for friendship and didn't say "no" when I should refuse. Make a commitment to what you can't do. If you can't do it, you can't explain it to others, let alone win their trust. If you force yourself to do something you don't want to do, you will be in a bad mood because of inner contradictions and conflicts, and you can't treat others honestly and sincerely. On the contrary, it will affect the harmonious relationship with friends and even cause things that you regret. It takes more courage to refuse than to obey. It is a great thing to dare to say "no", which shows that students are principled, determined and opinionated when things go wrong. It shows that students can grasp themselves, have the intention to judge things, have confidence in doing things, are not influenced by others and have brains when things go wrong. It also shows that the students are brave and have personality and more personality charm. Rejection is an art, which can win the respect and trust of friends and deepen friendship if handled well. When we say mutual help, we really want to be responsible for the growth of good friends, and we really want to help each other and make progress together.
Students should also take the initiative to associate with their peers. Interpersonal relationships are linked and changed in "interaction". Interpersonal relationship should be close, and mutual communication is its premise. The higher the communication level, the easier the interpersonal relationship, and vice versa. Therefore, after the intense study and life, you may wish to take the initiative to talk with your peers, discuss some problems, exchange some views and pass on information to each other, which can deepen mutual understanding and trust.
In short, if you know how to communicate with your peers and keep learning, you can build a bridge of communication and find a smooth road to success. I hope that students can do it in their communication: know themselves correctly and like themselves; The appearance should be consistent, not "two-faced"; Respect others and don't damage their independence; Learn to appreciate others and see their advantages and strengths; Take the initiative to make friends with others; Pay attention to the different roles of both sides and master the discretion of getting along; Make friends widely, and be able to communicate with most people, including people with different tempers, different ideas and understandings, and even people who often turn against each other.
2. Adolescent students' heterosexual communication
After entering adolescence, the relationship between boys and girls has new characteristics. Both sides begin to realize the gender problem and gradually become interested in each other. But in the initial stage, on the surface, students are not close, but mutually exclusive. By the middle and late adolescence, boys and girls gradually began to get along well. And some boys and girls will have a friend of the opposite sex they like. But boys and girls generally don't disclose this kind of emotion. In many cases, this is just a permanent secret. Because, with the passage of time, with their development and maturity in all aspects, with the constant change and adjustment of values, this emotion generated in adolescence is likely to gradually fade away or even disappear completely. Therefore, adolescent love is very immature and lacks a solid foundation. But as long as it is handled properly and controlled within a fairly limited range, this feeling is also meaningful, because it can promote students to strive to improve themselves. But if this relationship continues indefinitely, it will hinder the normal progress of students.
The pleasure of mutual attraction and communication between the opposite sex is a good and positive emotional experience, which can stimulate people's potential and make them agile, positive and enterprising. How should students make use of this objective effect? First, learn from each other's strengths in personality development-for example, girls should learn from boys who are not limited to trivial details and don't care about gain and loss; Boys should learn the advantages of girls' flexibility, euphemism and carefulness. Second, improve learning efficiency-for example, boys' thinking focuses on abstraction and generalization; Girls pay attention to visualization and detail, and they can inspire and discuss each other in their study and research, thus sparking a spark of wisdom. Third, strengthen self-evaluation ability-adolescent students pay special attention to the opposite sex's evaluation of themselves. Fourth, cultivate good temperament-adolescent students hope to get the favor of the opposite sex by virtue of some of their own characteristics or specialties, thus forming good masculinity or excellent femininity. If boys become decisive but not arbitrary, calm but not dull, firm but not reckless; Girls become fit but not frivolous, calm but not lonely, elegant but not fancy.
Boys and girls should adhere to two principles in their communication. First, we should advocate collective communication, not only oppose "giving and receiving without kissing", but also adhere to the principle that men and women are different. Students should pay attention to cultivating collective friendship, avoid one-on-one intimate relationship between boys and girls, and especially don't date the opposite sex privately inside and outside the school. Secondly, it is most important to advocate civilized communication, boys and girls act together and respect each other. Frivolous language and behavior are uncivilized manifestations of lack of education. In communication, we should also pay attention to proper appearance, don't dress too adult, but keep energetic.
In daily study and life, students can do two things: one is to learn to choose, and the other is to keep poise.
First of all, life is colorful and the world is colorful, but students' hearts are immature and pure, so they must have selective communication with the opposite sex.
(1) Select the correct object.
Like-minded, consistent personality, people are destined to be bosom friends, and the quality of personality determines the quality of communication. Because students lack social experience, poor judgment and self-control, they often can't stand the temptation to be deceived or even go astray. If students are not sure about each other's character, they might as well listen to the opinions of parents and teachers.
(2) Choose healthy content
Healthy communication content is helpful for boys and girls to develop their respective strengths, improve their communication ability and make their body and mind develop happily and healthily. On the other hand, if you just pursue some kind of stimulation and satisfy some unhealthy desires, it will not only affect your studies, but even be physically and mentally exhausted, and the consequences will be unimaginable.
(3) Choose an appropriate occasion
Youth is beautiful and short-lived, and heterosexual communication is not the only and all of life after all. People's energy is limited, and the main task of middle school students is to study, so we should grasp the degree of discretion and communication and not indulge in it. In addition, because students' mental development is not mature, they often can't grasp themselves or resist all kinds of temptations, so they should choose appropriate occasions, places that are not suitable for teenagers' communication should not be set foot in because of curiosity, and heterosexual communication should be carried out in schools and other youth activity bases.
Secondly, the interaction of students of the opposite sex should be graceful. Boys and girls should dress according to the identity of the students when they communicate; In communication, we should master the spatial discretion; When the two sides communicate, the language expression should be appropriate; Girls should behave dignified, steady, decent and gentle in communication; Boys should pay attention, don't move, be calm and generous.
3. Adolescent students' parent-child interaction
The relationship between adolescent students and their parents began to alienate. Entering junior high school means bidding farewell to childhood. Drastic physical and mental changes have broken the peaceful inner world of childhood. The remarkable feature of junior middle school students is "change", and great changes have taken place in physiology and psychology. With the increase of social life practice and the expansion of activities and knowledge fields, students' self-awareness, curiosity, independence, self-esteem and sense of maturity gradually mature, and they begin to observe the world and judge things with their own eyes.
(1) There is a lack of communication between students and parents, and there is a sense of distance.
Contrary to children's dependence on their parents, after entering adolescence, students want to get rid of their past dependence and seek independence from their parents. When I was young, I was in close contact with my parents. Parents' excessive doting, intimate contact and darling status began to make students feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, which would cause ridicule from their peers, so they began to alienate their parents. The lack of communication between the two generations is an important factor that cannot be ignored. In an urbanized society, people's life is getting faster and faster, and parents and children are busy with each other and spend little time together. Students don't want to exchange ideas with their parents. When they encounter problems in life, they are willing to discuss them with their peers or write them in their diaries. Parents are no longer counselors and friends. Students want to get rid of dependence on their parents and their help.
(2) Psychological sense of adulthood
Students have their own opinions, and their desire for independence and freedom becomes very urgent and obvious. They want to think independently, eager to get rid of the guardianship, control and bondage of adults, unwilling to be taken care of or interfered by their parents too much in life, and gradually get tired of their parents' repeated exhortations and arranged substitution. Students feel that they are adults, they should have independent rights like adults, and they hate that their parents interfere in their "privacy" too much.
(3) Generation gap formation
Young people have their own world, their own standards for judging the good, evil, beauty and ugliness of things, and they like to imitate, be excited and admire easily, and also like to be unconventional. The views of parents and teachers are no longer the golden rule that is always correct, and the relationship with parents is not as close as when I was a child. In order to show that they can be independent and don't want to be completely at the mercy of others, students often deliberately oppose their parents, even if they know that their parents are right, they should consciously or unconsciously resist. This desire and consciousness of pursuing independence is the only way to maturity, but because it is difficult for students to take care of their parents' thoughts and feelings, they often conflict with their parents' care and interference.
(4) Doubt and challenge the authority of parents
Students no longer rely on, attach to and worship their parents as they did when they were children, but show no doubt about their trust and respect, and try to look at everything around them, including their parents, by their own standards. With the expansion of contact and knowledge, students have enriched their inner world and formed their own values. These values are sometimes different from those of their parents. When they are opposed by their parents and cannot be understood, they will look for * * * songs among their peers, and their parents will become less close.
(5) rebellious psychology and behavior
The phenomenon of students' rebellious psychology and confrontational behavior towards parents' discipline is increasing day by day, and sometimes even parents' well-intentioned practices will be rejected by students. There are three reasons for rebellious psychology: curiosity, opposing emotions and psychological needs. Students often contradict face to face; Without saying a word, I am dissatisfied; You say yours and I'll do mine.
(6) Independence and dependence
Although students have a strong sense of independence, due to the lack of social experience and life experience, they are immature and imperfect in all aspects and often hit a wall. The formation of world outlook and outlook on life is still in the primary stage, and there is still a big gap between needs and practical ability. In addition, they are not financially independent, and the authoritative role of parents forces students to rely on their parents. Students' behavior is full of contradictions between independence and dependence, and their consciousness and naivety are complicated.
(7) Conflicts with parents
The contradiction between most students and their parents is due to great psychological changes. In all interpersonal relationships, conflict is very natural, because everyone's needs and opinions are not always the same. In the relationship between students and parents, it is not important to avoid conflicts. What is important is how to solve conflicts when they occur. Students begin to have their own opinions, willing to solve problems by themselves and not relying on adults. However, opinions are often incorrect. It's easy to be extreme and one-sided, thinking that everything is good if it is good, and nothing is good if it is bad. When dealing with some problems, no matter whether it is really reasonable or not, stick to your own opinions stubbornly. You can do some work independently, but once you are frustrated or fail in your independent work, you will be disheartened, feel inferior, blame yourself and stop trying.
Judging from the process of human growth, teenagers generally do not consider their parents' education, occupation, origin, moral character and so on when they are young. They generally trust and rely on their parents. But in adolescence, the living environment has expanded, and parents are no longer heroes in children's minds, so teenagers may feel that their friends know themselves better than their parents at this time, and parents often can't understand themselves, stick to the rules and keep up with the trend. In addition, the teenagers in this period have awakened their self-awareness and longed for independence very much, but they still depend on their parents economically, and they can't live without their parents' care, and they face many problems and puzzles in the outside world. Such as academic performance, test pressure, contradiction with classmates, curiosity about the opposite sex, etc. Therefore, they often have emotional instability, depression, inferiority, anxiety, helplessness and other emotions, which will breed rebellious psychology and hostile attitude among students.
Therefore, when getting along with parents, students should pay attention to: first, always remind themselves to cherish their parents' love and care. For students, parents are the only people in the world who love you. Parents always think of you everywhere and sacrifice themselves. Even if their parents don't agree with you and do something wrong, they must have good intentions. Secondly, we should actively express our wishes and ideas to our parents to eliminate potential misunderstandings; Learn to choose the right time and place to talk to your parents, be modest to your parents, and don't lose your temper at will; Respect parents' advice and guidance, and actively seek parents' understanding when there is a contradiction with them.
Students should also actively communicate with their parents. As students grow up, their psychological distance from their parents and relatives gradually widens. They often think that their parents are long-winded and bossy to themselves. After all, they have grown up and have their own ideas and plans. Parents may not accept this idea, but they are biased in the content and methods of education. As children, in order to get their parents' understanding, they should take the initiative to communicate with their parents and often tell them some interesting things that happened in school and class, so that they can get emotional satisfaction with themselves. When parents criticize themselves for being correct, they must admit their mistakes and correct them quickly; If your criticism is groundless and you can't listen to your own explanation, you might as well put it aside in advance and point it out when your parents are in a good mood. If you are not clear, you can communicate with your parents by letter.
Students can use empathy in communication with their parents. It is characterized by being able to put yourself in the other person's shoes, putting yourself in the other person's mood and situation, but not giving up your correct point of view. The language used should be able to affirm the goodwill and kindness of the other party, and the tone of speech should be harmless and calm. The idea of empathy communication should be that although it sounds uncomfortable, you know it's for your own good. If you feel that your parents have problems, you can exchange views on appropriate occasions. In behavior, students should respect, be polite and smile to their parents. In strategy, first, seek common ground while reserving differences, that is, find similarities with parents and try to understand them; Second, seek common ground while reserving differences, that is, allow you to reserve your different opinions.
The development process of interpersonal communication is from simple to complex. Before adulthood, parents are the people who have the closest relationship with their children and have the greatest influence on them. The first cause of many mental diseases is also the influence of family on children. Many psychologists believe that parents' attitudes and behaviors shape the personality model of children in the future. At the beginning of adolescence, parents are still an important factor affecting the psychological development of teenagers. Although this has a lot to do with parents' parenting style and family atmosphere, it is also important whether parents can have a positive influence on their children.
4. Young students' teacher-student interaction
For teenagers, teachers are the adults who have the most contact with them except their parents. The interaction between teachers and students has a far-reaching impact on the development of teachers, especially students. However, unlike primary school students who are generally obedient to teachers, adolescent students gradually have their own unique views and evaluations on things and people, and begin to critically evaluate teachers, sometimes showing reverence for some teachers and rejection or even disgust for others. How to get along well with teachers in a natural and correct manner is related to the healthy growth of teenagers. So when you get along with teachers, you should pay attention to:
On the one hand, teachers, like other adults, are neither perfect nor omnipotent. As students, we should consciously adjust our views on teachers. If we are dissatisfied with the teacher's personality, or worship the teacher too much, it will affect our knowledge learning and the formation of a sound personality. With the correct attitude towards teachers, we can listen carefully to the teachers' teaching of our knowledge and their guidance on how to behave, and enrich ourselves and improve ourselves by constantly learning from them.
On the other hand, we should know that the relationship between teachers and students is equal. If students stay away from teachers, they will lose many opportunities to communicate with teachers. In fact, teachers are generally willing to establish close and trusting relationships with students. Therefore, young students should not always passively wait for the teacher to pay attention to themselves, but can actively communicate with the teacher, discuss academic issues, and talk about their inner thoughts and learning experiences in order to get the teacher's teaching in time.
Finally, students should learn to open their hearts. Exposing a "true" self to the teacher is the basis for establishing a good teacher-student relationship. Truly express your thoughts and feelings, sincerely expose your shortcomings and deficiencies, and match words with deeds. Students can give full play to their talents and let teachers and students know you better. For those whispers that are inconvenient to mention in person, you can open your inner world in the form of a weekly diary.