When a student is at home, he can tell his parents everything. That's because he regards his parents as backers and umbrellas. He is unguarded, so he can open his heart. So if he is at school and you are his head teacher, do you make him feel safe? Does he dare to tell you the truth? It depends on whether we, as class teachers, treat him sincerely every day, put down our airs and communicate with him on an equal footing. Students nowadays can't stand you by beating and cursing. Only infinite care and love can arouse their kindness and their obedience to you. For example, on the first night of this semester, I went to check the dormitory and found that few people in the boys' dormitory had slippers. After taking a shower, everyone jumped around barefoot in the dormitory. I asked why they didn't have slippers. They said, "I didn't bring it back last semester, but my aunt took it away." Then a classmate said, "Teacher, can you help us buy some pairs in Sanmao?" I said, "Yes!" Later, I bought them some pairs. When I came back this week, another student said to me, "Teacher, I'll pay you back the money I bought slippers last time. Don't give me any extra money yet. Can you buy me some snacks in the middle of the week? " I said, "Let's talk about it then, as long as you don't play dirty with me." Another classmate immediately teased me and said, "We know that Teacher Lu is easy to talk to, so our class never engages in intrigue. If you don't give you money, you will quietly order takeout and be found by the school. Aren't you more sad! " I heard it at that time, and I thought this classmate was quite frank, so I thought: When you treat students at ordinary times, you should give them full care and treat their little things as big things, so that they can tell you the truth and you can become their mentor. On the contrary, if you are above others, it is difficult to enter the inner world of students.
Second, treat every student equally and fully respect their personality.
For students, no matter what, it is always different and unbalanced. Since I took this course, I have no right to choose students. Our Class 9 (4) can be said to be a very special class in parallel classes, especially because there are many special students. These students are all stupid except that they can't study. For example, when the sports meeting was held last semester, I dropped their advance payment from the finance office to let them know if they could get the advance payment. A student repeatedly begged me to help him take out all the advance payment, and then he gave me half (almost more than 2000 yuan). I asked him why he did it. He even said that the money he couldn't get out was not his money. This semester, we have physical exercise after school in the afternoon. He wants to buy a watch to keep time. His parents took him to the watch line to see it. As a result, he actually chose a piece of more than 200 thousand (inlaid with sapphire) At that time, his parents didn't buy it for him, but called me to express their helplessness, hoping that I could do a good job in children's ideological work. Such a student, a little silly, can still play with his classmates and won't worry me. Another name is Yang. It can be said that there are no such students in any class. This classmate was transferred from Yunfu last semester. He should be a freshman. Because of his poor grades, he was not recognized by his teachers and classmates. I heard that Kamino changed the child's personality and came here. The child is introverted and won't play with anyone. When you communicate with him, he is always free and can't find the theme. He doesn't even give other students a look at the things in the dormitory cupboard, just because of his relationship with his classmates.
Imagine that the teacher assigned homework and asked him to write the first question, but he only wrote the second question and asked him to write the second question, but he only wrote the third question. N times a day, he went looking for trouble, didn't take a tissue in the toilet class, and asked me for a tissue. When I come home in the middle of the night, I will call and ask what I am doing. You said that such a classmate was not accepted by his classmates. If our head teacher is simple and rude to him and doesn't respect his personality, he may not stay here. Therefore, we should fully respect the personality of students with physical and mental defects, and we should not have bad feelings because of their differences. We should treat every student equally, let them feel that your sense of responsibility and love are always poured on them, let them fully trust you, and even tell you their inner feelings.
Third, pay attention to details when talking with students.
As a class teacher, it is essential to talk to students every day. Sometimes chatting brings you closer to him, sometimes you know his family or life background, and sometimes you want to teach him a lesson after getting information about his violation of discipline from teachers or class cadres? But no matter what kind of conversation, I think the first thing is to find a good time and place for the conversation. For example, you find that a classmate has made a common fault (being late, dozing off, etc.). ) You can use the morning meeting or class meeting to have a group conversation these two days, because such a conversation does not hurt the students' self-esteem, which is acceptable to students. If a student is dating, taking something from others or making a serious mistake, it is necessary to choose a good place to speak. Generally, I won't be in the office, because students are most afraid that his privacy will be known by other teachers. If you communicate with him in the office, the expected effect will not be achieved. Students will only perfunctory you. When you ask sharp questions, it may arouse his disgust and resistance to you. I usually choose a corner in the corridor or dormitory when I study at night, so that students will be willing to communicate with you and tell you the truth.
Fourth, give students more steps, and don't invite parents easily.
Calling parents when students make mistakes is a way of education. This method is suitable for students who violate discipline seriously, but it can't be used often. When students make a little mistake, they call their parents to school, which shows that we are too stingy, which will lead to students' rebellious mentality over time and make their future work more passive. This semester, we signed a mobile phone agreement with our parents. Not long ago, something happened in our class: when I was reading early, I found a girl secretly playing with her mobile phone, so that I didn't even notice when I approached her. I was very unhappy at that time, thinking, you signed a mobile phone agreement, why don't you give it to me? So I started to compete with her: I said, "Give me your phone!" " "But she just won't pay. Instead, I put it in my pocket. I think: she is not a fuel-efficient lamp either. If I let her hand it over, it will inevitably intensify the contradiction, what's more, I can't reach out and search her pockets. So, I said to her, "You have two choices now. Give me your mobile phone first, and I'll inform your parents to come to school after class to deal with the problem. "Second, you should put away your mobile phone now, but you must ensure that you don't play with your mobile phone in class later and ask her to keep her word. I know she will choose the latter. In fact, this is also a step I gave her. Then, she said decisively, "teacher, I promise it won't happen again!" " I said, "Good! I trust you. "So it's over. When I checked classes these days, I found that she not only didn't play with her mobile phone, but also listened carefully in class. Therefore, I think that sometimes when dealing with students' problems, we should learn to give them a step, don't be serious with them at every turn, and invite parents to school at every turn. In this way, students will be convinced of you, and it is also the basis for entering the inner world of students.
Fifth, learn to praise and let students get close to you.
Flowers have the beauty of flowers and leaves have the glory of leaves. Every student has his own advantages, even the worst students want to be praised and affirmed by the teachers, especially the students in Class 94, who have never won any honor along the way. If you always compare Class 3 and Class 5 with them, or always talk about their homework, endorsements and monthly exam results every day, they will feel very timid. When they see you, they will feel scared and can't concentrate on talking with you. Therefore, in the face of such students, we should learn to find the bright spot from them, even if it is trivial or far-fetched, and don't be stingy with praise, so that students can fully realize that their existence is still valuable. For example, last time we held the "100-day swearing-in meeting for the senior high school entrance examination". After the meeting, a classmate named Li Jiaqi from Wuzhou took more than 4,000 exams in Duanzhou District (only 4,700 candidates). She asked me carefully: teacher, please help me analyze my grades. Can I be admitted to Mei Jia High School? I took out her scores and failed in Chinese, math and English, but I analyzed with her against my will. Which subject do you think can improve 10 and which subject can improve 15? This kind of communication made her happy. During this time, she is particularly interested in learning and is also very concerned about class affairs. She took the lead in running a blackboard newspaper. For such a poor student, your teacher criticized her countless times, but it was not as effective as a sincere praise. Therefore, give students more affirmation and praise in class at ordinary times, and they will be full of confidence and more willing to approach you and make friends with you. If you want to enter the inner world of students, you must start with constant praise for them. In short, only when our head teacher puts down his airs and makes friends with the students can the students pour out their inner world to you. Only when teachers enter students' inner world and open the door to their hearts can they know themselves and know each other, your class work can be targeted, your education can be the most effective, and you can get twice the result with half the effort, so that students can truly "be close to their teachers and believe in their ways."