Wen Jingbei

1.

A few days ago, at around 2 o'clock in the morning, my best friend Xiaoqin posted this on WeChat Moments: "Fate is deliberately entangled. It’s yours that keeps you company, gives you warmth, and gives you eternity; it’s not yours that leaves you alone, breaks up with you, and says goodbye to you. Good night to the whole world, except myself.”

The picture is of her. The photo of her wearing a red dress and standing on the beach with her back to the camera is located in Bali.

A week ago, she and her boyfriend had just embarked on a warm and romantic pre-wedding trip. Seeing this circle of friends, I secretly felt worried about their relationship.

Sure enough, when she came back, she told me that she had completely broken up with her boyfriend of three years. She made the decision the night she posted that post on WeChat Moments.

She said that she stayed up all night that night and thought about it for a long time before she discovered a truth: Traveling reveals three perspectives. A man who is selfish, irresponsible and only thinks about himself during the journey is not worth entrusting him with his life.

Because it was a long-awaited trip, Xiaoqin wanted to take more photos with different styles, so she brought a few extra sets of clothes, cosmetics, a SLR and her favorite snacks.

When packing, her boyfriend said: "The suitcase is basically all your stuff, so you are responsible for carrying it, I don't care." Xiaoqin thought it was a joke, but Xiaoxiao didn't take it seriously.

But when she went out, her boyfriend went out with a small bag on his back, so she had to drag the heavy suitcase around alone.

On the second day after arriving in Bali, Xiaoqin suddenly suffered from unbearable stomach pain. Not only did her boyfriend not take care of her, he complained that she had too many things to do and that hanging out with her was too fun. Then he left her lying in the hotel. Xiaoqin went out to play alone.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said in "Fortress Besieged": "The best way to get to know a person is to travel with him." Traveling is the most direct way to understand a person. Time reveals a person's heart, travel reveals a person's character.

The travel photos in your circle of friends are a magnifying glass that also hides your truest inner self.

Whether he loves you or not, your circle of friends will know.

2.

Komori, a college classmate, likes traveling very much. No matter how busy he is, he always sets aside special travel time every year to free himself from the shackles of the nine-to-five job and concentrate on Experience a quiet and slow time.

Komori also likes photography. Every time he travels, he will record the scenery along the way and his mood when viewing the scenery in his circle of friends. His classmates all joked that he had traveled through most of China in his circle of friends.

A few days ago, the class monitor suddenly said to the classmate group: "Komori is in love." He added a "witty" expression.

But as far as I know, Komori has been single for many years, and even his signature has always been that of a "carefree young man." I have never heard that he is single!

The squad leader said that it was Komori’s travel photos that were exposed, and he declared to the world in his own way: “I am in love”!

Looking through Komori’s Moments, it seems that he has been posting recently. I took a lot of travel scenery photos, but if you look closely at the shooting angles and composition patterns of these photos, you will find subtle differences from before.

It turns out that Komori posted a set of photos from his trip to Xiamen: There is Xiamen. There are the university, Nanputuo Temple, the beach and the sea, as well as Gulangyu’s specialty shops. The nine pictures are arranged in a neat nine-square grid. The middle one is not a landscape photo, but two cups of Zhang Sanfeng milk tea placed side by side.

Not only that, he also captioned this set of travel photos: "Fortunately, I met your peach blossom face, and from now on, the world will be filled with warm spring. ”

Sure enough, on the last day of the trip, a graceful figure wearing a white dress walking on the beach appeared in Komori’s circle of friends. Her face was slightly tilted toward the camera, as if she was using her gaze. Chasing the person who took the photo.

A writer once said that when you really like someone, you will want to share all the beautiful scenery in the world with him and leave you in every romantic place. You can’t help but tell the whole world whether you love her or not.

3.

Last night. , my cousin suddenly called me and asked me if I knew a lawyer. She was getting divorced.

I was shocked. In my impression, my cousin’s husband was a gentle and family-oriented man. They had been married for 5 years. A beautiful daughter is a "model couple" in the eyes of relatives and friends.

In fact, the cousin and the cousin's husband have completely different interests and hobbies.

She has a lively and active personality, and likes to exercise, dance and travel, and also likes to try all kinds of new things; her cousin-in-law is very homely and would rather hide at home and play chicken games on weekends and holidays. After having a daughter, her cousin-in-law also criticized her for being "crazy and crazy." The world is running around, and I don’t look like a mother at all.”

Every time my cousin goes out to travel, she has to go through a lot of trouble to ask her cousin-in-law to accompany her. Even when she reaches the destination, most of the time her cousin-in-law just hides away. Playing games in the hotel; later on, my cousin no longer forced her to go on a trip by herself. But every time she happily posted the beautiful scenery she took across the country to her WeChat Moments, her cousin-in-law would leave a sarcastic message.

During the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday two days ago, my cousin took her daughter to Fantawild Adventure alone. The 5-year-old daughter suddenly asked her: "Mom, why are the other children playing with their parents, but I am the only one with my mother? Dad is obviously on vacation too?"

My cousin said, At that moment, her heart suddenly hurt and she almost shed tears. Facing her daughter's innocent face, she didn't know how to answer.

I felt very sad when my cousin relayed this incident to me on the phone. Although she is already a wife and mother, she still has a dream like a little girl - to travel with her beloved.

Among her friends, no matter how beautiful the scenery is, it can only be matched with a solitary selfie and a slightly sad text. Perhaps she also expected to be one of those men and women who held hands and traveled together in pairs.

Whether you like traveling or not seems to be just a hobby, but in fact it reflects completely different values:

People who like traveling often have strong curiosity People with a strong heart, the courage to explore and like challenges; such people are always full of positive energy.

People who don’t like to travel tend to be conservative and traditional. They like to enjoy a sense of order and stability. They are very satisfied when they are immersed in their own world and do not want to look for the meaning of life elsewhere.

These two values ??are not necessarily better or worse, but those who adhere to these two concepts will inevitably experience a painful and long adjustment if they want to live together.

When a person’s passion for traveling is blocked by the closest people, it means that your outlook on life has not been understood and recognized; your hobbies and interests have not received enough support. Tolerance and respect. What is precious in your eyes is contempt in his eyes.

A journey alone is certainly beautiful, but who doesn’t want to experience the most wonderful scenery with the person you love the most?

Those who are absent from the travel photos in your circle of friends must also be absent from your spiritual home. If he is absent for too long, your whole heart will become cold and there will be no need to appear again.

4.

There is such a Weibo post with millions of retweets:

"When you were writing the PPT, the Alaska cod was jumping out of the water. You When you were reading the report, the golden monkeys in Meili Snow Mountain just climbed to the top of the trees. When you squeezed into the subway, the mountain eagles in Tibet kept circling in the clouds. When you were arguing in the meeting, the Nepali backpackers sat together by the fire. < /p>

There are some roads that cannot be walked in high heels, there are some air that cannot be smelled by perfume, and there are some people that you will never meet in an office building. ”

For the rest of my life, How can you be willing to devote all your time to work?

If you have never seen the world, where do you get the worldview?

The surprises in life come from your down-to-earth love for it and your understanding of it after integrating into it. Real travel is never about checking in at Internet celebrity tourist attractions, but a practice of seeing the world, seeing all sentient beings, and seeing oneself.

Good-looking skins are all the same, but interesting travel companions are unique.

Good women and good men all over the world should experience the fatigue of traveling, the crowds of people, the dilemma of acclimatization, and all the trivial and annoying things during the journey. If you don't see each other through or dislike each other, but you are still willing to hold each other's hand and go on forever, this kind of love will never break up.

I think any couple who has traveled together will understand the practicality and peace of mind that two people feel when traveling together.

People who love each other will definitely travel together.