"People have no self-confidence and life has no foundation."
With confidence, you can set sail bravely at the high tide, not be overwhelmed when the storm strikes, and you must be calm at all times.
Then what is your confidence?
Even if you have nothing, you are not afraid to live as long as you have the ability. Ability is your most reliable confidence.
The Oscar hit movie Chasing Happyness inspired many people. It is based on the true story of African-American investment expert chris gardner.
Gardner grew up in a poor family and didn't read much. His wife left him because of life difficulties. His career failed, he had no money to pay taxes and was homeless. He was forced to take his son to the streets and sleep in cheap hotels, parks, train station toilets and desks.
Although he was penniless, Gardner became a stockbroker with his flexible mind and tenacious drive. Without experience, contacts and diploma, I won the training opportunity, passed the exam and became a licensed stockbroker, and finally opened my own stockbroker company in Chicago.
As the saying goes, "Don't bully poor young people". Poverty is only temporary. No matter whether you have the mind to study, the skills to cook, or the beautiful eyes, as long as you have the ability, you are not afraid of being poor for life.
Anyone can leave you, so can wealth. Only your ability, will not betray you, let you have the confidence to face the monstrous storm.
Zhang Xiaohui, known as the "No.1 gold digger in Hong Kong", was criticized by the Hong Kong media for "buying" two men worth over 100 million yuan. After the financial crisis and the failure to invest in real estate, her ex-husband Zhong Zhentao divorced her and filed for bankruptcy. However, Zhang Xiaohui, who has always relied on others, bravely assumed a debt of 250 million yuan.
Zhang Xiaohui went to a lawyer to reduce his debts, and with his expertise in fashion and literature, he worked as a buyer for rich women in supermarkets during the day and wrote columns at night.
Because he was immersed in fashion since he was a child, and he also studied art history, philosophy, English literature, fashion design and museum management, Zhang Xiaohui's aesthetic vision was outstanding. All the brands mentioned in her column can cause a fashion trend.
After more than ten years, she not only paid off those debts, but also did a good job in the official WeChat account. Although she is a "grandma" figure in her 60 s, she still becomes a fashion blogger with 654.38 million fans after 00.
The world is changing too fast, especially in the face of global epidemic, trade friction and economic winter. No job is insured and no property is permanent. But as long as you have the ability, you can keep up with the wheel of the times instead of being ruthlessly run over by the annual rings of the times.
As Dickens said: this is the best time, this is the worst time; This is the season of light, this is the season of darkness; There is everything in front of people, and there is nothing in front of people.
As long as you have the ability of self-confidence, any era is the best for you.
The surest confidence is to have money in your hand and not panic in your heart.
This money won't make you rich and free, but it will give you confidence to choose not to compromise on life and not to do things you don't want to do, but to pursue your dreams and try different possibilities.
Liu Yuling, a well-known Chinese actress in Hollywood, once said that when she first made her debut, there were few opportunities left for China girls in Hollywood, so no matter how bad her role was or how low her salary was, she had to take it. She works hard just to save some "confidence". When someone tells her that she must do something she doesn't want to do, she has the confidence to say: Fuck you! I quit!
Money can not only give you confidence in choosing a job, but also give you confidence in being respected in marriage.
Many stay-at-home mothers, even husbands who cheat in the face of domestic violence, are afraid to divorce because they have no money. Even if you divorce, you can't fight for custody, you can't support yourself, you can't support your children. They can only live in a suffocating marriage.
Although you may not really resign, you may not really divorce, but when you have self-confidence, you don't have to be afraid of threats, you can straighten your self-esteem under the pressure of life, you can not be outdone when facing the ugliness of life, and you can also avoid our panic when we encounter changes.
Ada told a story. One year, her father spent his 70th birthday in the hospital because of poor health during the Spring Festival. Although being hospitalized during the Chinese New Year and her birthday cast a shadow over her joy, she was very happy and proud because she had enough financial ability to give her father the best medical conditions.
Some people say that if you feel that life is bitter, you should go to the hospital. Hospitals not only have all kinds of places where you are going, but also all kinds of sadness of not paying the bill.
We want money, not to be rich or expensive, but to have the confidence to choose our own life and provide protection for our families and ourselves against risks.
Even if there is no money, there is no ability. Family, lovers and friends are your confidence. They give you support and comfort, trust and encouragement, accompany you and support each other across the sea of life.
When I was a child, my parents gave me the confidence to hold up a sky for you and shelter you from the wind and rain. When you are in trouble, you know that even if they hit you hard, they will still help you clean up the mess. When you are bullied, slandered and wronged, they take you to trial. You will feel at ease when you are behind them.
When you grow up, your parents' bodies gradually shrink, and they can no longer shelter you from the wind and rain, nor can they help you in your career.
But as Gao said, you still have to be accompanied by your parents when you are alive.
When I was unhappy, I heard the parents on the phone say, it's a big deal for you to go home and have your parents.
Although I didn't really go back, you know, with my parents, even if I fell badly, I still have a home. So you can dry your tears and keep trying.
Love gives you confidence, which is mutual help, wind and rain, and * * *. Even if the sky falls, someone will support you.
Some time ago, Luo Yonghao's live broadcast was a hit, and everyone thought it was amazing that he could pay back more than 400 million yuan in two years.
He said: Because I have a reliable wife.
Luo Yonghao loves to toss and turn. New Oriental resigned after becoming a famous teacher, and failed to start a business three times. It is because of the bankruptcy of the hammer mobile phone that it bears a huge debt of 600 million. His wife, Sister Long, has been with him all the time. When his company's capital chain broke, she signed a 96 million loan for him without hesitation.
She not only supported him in his career, but also resisted him when he was in trouble, which was his spiritual comfort. No matter how stormy it is outside, just go home and chat with her and smell her, and he will feel at ease.
With the confidence of your lover, you can fight confidently, no matter how others question you and laugh at you, but the person around you understands you, accompanies you when you are proud, and helps you make a comeback when you are frustrated.
Friends give you confidence because you know their doors are always open for you. You can be strong for the whole world, but in front of them, you can take off your disguise.
They will be happy for you to find a job, will accompany you to drink when you are lovelorn, will give you encouragement when you are confused, and will not hesitate to contribute when you are in danger.
A few years ago, actress Tamia Liu suffered a drastic family change, and a financial crisis turned her husband from a rich man into a loser. Faced with a husband who has lost confidence and tried to commit suicide countless times, and a pair of small children, Tamia Liu can only be strong and force herself to be a desperate third mother to support her family.
However, regardless of the reputation of a "good wife" or a "overbearing female president", Tamia Liu is also a woman. She will be very fragile and sometimes she will not survive. It was Amanda who was always behind her, giving her spiritual comfort and helping her come back.
Tamia Liu said Amanda is a person she can't live up to.
Some people say that the happiest thing in life: parents are alive, two or three friends, lovers who can't be stolen. Everything else is an illusion, don't care too much.
That's true. When you have them, you have the courage to face the troubles of this world. Even if the whole world is against you, there are still people fighting with you.
Buffett once said: You don't know who is swimming naked until the tide recedes.
People who have no self-confidence drift with the tide; When the tide recedes, you can only be at a loss.
In the third spring after being demoted to Huangzhou, the poet Su Shi got caught in the rain on the road in Hu Sha and wrote a poem "Ding Feng":
Life is sometimes stormy and sometimes sunny. I hope that when the storm comes, you can also have the confidence to say: who is afraid!