I have never had a sense of age, and I have always said that I am just a girl. But at that moment, I was really scared. I kept touching my face, then turned on the camera of my mobile phone, took a photo and asked myself, am I really that haggard?
This may be related to my usual maintenance, a series of bad living habits, and staying up late that week to prepare psychological research reports. But I'm really nervous.
A few days ago, my friend asked me to take a photo. When I finished reading the original, I was scared by some close-ups. Compared with me in the camera of my friend two years ago, I seem to be really old.
I began to think, is it because the age of 30 is approaching, and all aspects of my body are beginning to decline? Even if the slope is slow, it will take a long time. There is no doubt that I will become older and uglier in the next time. This is a fact that I should accept.
So, I began to think about what preparations I need to make in the next period of time near the age of 30.
When I was a child, I would fantasize about what it was like to be 30 years old. I must have a lot of love, earn a lot of money, have my own stable and powerful career, have my beloved pet, have a lover who is willing to accompany me all my life, and even have my own baby. ...
I think very well about my life when I grow up. Describe your 30-year-old life as a fairy tale in which a prince and a princess live happily together. Therefore, when I was a child, I was particularly eager to grow up quickly.
In my dreams, I never thought I would grow up so fast.
You want to ask me, is it far from my childhood dream? I want to tell you that I am so close that I almost realize all this.
But almost at the same time, when I approached, I encountered a big change in my life. I began to look at myself. If I die like this, will I? Is there anything I haven't done?
I found it as if I had done nothing. All winners in life are just illusions.
I don't have much love and money. My so-called career also makes me angry, then sad and finally disappointed. So I did a series of things to return to zero. Even after I feel like I'm dying, the real me will appear and start to shine.
So most people express their regrets and regrets to me without exception. How good my major is. Why did I turn around and leave when my career reached a "minor celebrity"?
What I understand is that I don't feel very happy or even deeply uncomfortable under the envious eyes of others. Others will think that you are not satisfied and failed your lucky arrival, but I suddenly realized that this is not what I want.
So, do you still want to ask me if I feel bad after zero? Yes, from time to time, I will think of the past "glory" and the present "gloom", and from time to time I will feel the feeling of falling from the tip of the pyramid into the mire. But if you ask me, will you regret it I will tell you, no, although these feelings will make me painful, they are only fleeting. Because I know what I want.
It seems that I was only 30 years old after several years, and now I am standing up again, which is quite difficult. Moreover, I feel that I am 30 years old and time is particularly tight. I'm afraid I won't reach a certain height when I'm 30, but I also know that what I want is difficult and it takes time to accumulate. I'm trying to get close to it, too. It takes some courage, don't you think?
Time flies. We often use "standing at 30, not confused at 40, knowing destiny at 50" to describe that life has reached a certain stage, so you should do so.
The realistic environment seems to be that family and social concepts are too bound, so we have to consider how far our role has gone. There are too many trivial things in life, and the pressure of survival is too great, so we have to spend time and energy in exchange for filling our stomachs; Information is overwhelming, and we haven't had time to find our own direction in life. The torrent of life urges you to hurry, hurry, hurry. ...
I used to be one of them. I've been refueling. Tell yourself to stand up quickly But in fact, it's not that all the previous ones were in vain, but that time was really spent at another fork in the road. I'm thinking that if I go back to that time, I might still choose this road. It is after these years that I will be more determined to walk on this difficult but truly free road.
Some people are afraid that people in their 40 s, 50 s or even 70 s may really not stand up. Therefore, I will also invent a set of statements to convince myself and others that I have really established my position long ago. But he always looks depressed. Maybe tell him the truth.
The key is, how to solve this matter? This is not for others to decide, and you know best. Because we can fool anyone, the most important thing is ourselves.
I think it doesn't matter whether you are 70 or 80 years old, but you still haven't reached your own standards and are on the way to reaching them. At least looking back on this life, you are self-sufficient and willing. I won't cry on the day I leave. I hate myself for not being brave one day.
Or to put it mildly, standing only represents economic independence, independent personality and firm stance. Then you have the right to use your own will to choose, you are willing to bear, have courage, gentleness and courage.
Zhang Ailing said that she should become famous early, but there is also an idiom that she is a late bloomer. Learning is still divided into morning and evening, and so is life perception. Therefore, there is no absolute conclusion as to whether the 30-year-old is successful.
It doesn't matter whether you are twenty, thirty, forty or any point in your life, sooner or later.
Standing or not is your choice, and even not choosing is a choice in itself. However, one day, it is inevitable that you will face these choices and bear the corresponding price. And how big the cost is and how strong the commitment is, are the derivatives and by-products you choose.
Singer Li Jian said: It is very difficult to stand or not-"According to my personal understanding, from the etymological point of view, the word' stand' means that people live between heaven and earth, but' top' and' top' tell us that we must have some light and some wisdom when we are alive."
So what is your light and wisdom? Let it illuminate you, and then, realize it.
When I was collecting topics, I wrote this:
As the saying goes: stand at thirty. In my guess, most people-less than 30 years old-firmly believe that they can stand to 30 years old. Almost thirty years old, I am confused about whether I can stand up. Just after 30 years old, I found that 30 is actually not so ceremonial. It is not a hurdle, and it may not be a time to stand. Long after thirty, recalling thirty may be no different from twenty-nine, thirty-three and thirty-seven.
I am very pleased that many people will actively participate in the second, third or even more times after participating in more than one topic. They told me that they were very grateful to let them start to look at themselves and start to think and change through these topics.
I didn't help you. I just provided a small "screen coffee bar". I don't want to judge or blame you. It is here that you can start to think about sorting yourself out, and you can also see from what angle others look at the world and things related to you. And willing to continue to participate in the topic, continue to think about finishing, it is your own choice and decision, awesome, it is you. And I, too, have benefited a lot from every finishing. Thank you all.
Everyone's answer is also very interesting: many people feel that they are still young, even if their actual age is almost 30 or how old they are; Some people refused to talk about this topic and clearly conveyed this message to me; Someone summed up what happened in the past life at the age of 30; Some people say that age is not a problem for them; Others said that they were very scared. ...
And I think, on the one hand, I look calm-age will make my beautiful figure gradually disappear, replaced by growing wisdom; On the other hand, I look scared-and the fear of being 30 will make me grasp the possibilities in life to the maximum, because the cost will become higher if I catch it one day later. Then I will remind myself not to forget to enjoy the scenery along the way while pressing it.
Next, let's take a look at what everyone talked about-
1 "is not as terrible as everyone thinks, and of course it will not be particularly happy. Different people, different choices, different questions. "
@1October 6th, 30-year-old female new media practitioner.
I'm 30 years old this year, 654381October 6.
Not as terrible as everyone thinks, and certainly not particularly happy. Is 30 a watershed? I think it depends on the path you choose. If you are a doctor, at the age of 30, your career has just begun; If you are a journalist, at the age of 30, your career may face a bottleneck; Different people, different choices and different problems. If we must find some sex at the time node of 30, I think there are three points.
First, parents are old. For a 30-year-old man, his parents are over half a year old, and the time is so unreasonable! 30 is just around the corner. I reduced the gatherings between friends and increased the gatherings between family members.
Second, there are new members in life. Getting married and having children is not the only way for everyone, but most people will experience these two life events when they are 30 years old. The emergence of new members is a meaningful thing. Whether it is a partner or a child, his/her appearance is like suddenly getting a brand-new notebook. You can write it from scratch and record it.
Third, I'm smaller. Everyone who has experienced 30 years of spring, summer, autumn and winter has his own way of understanding the world. Naive, sensible, open-minded and interesting are not important. The important thing is that you will find yourself insignificant in any way of understanding. Not the kind of smallness that can't change the world, but the kind of smallness that finds a small piece of soil and unswervingly changes it.
"In short, if you are sure of yourself, you can stand firm. This is thirty years old. "
@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫 Male freelancers over 30 years old
Standing at the age of 30 may be standing, just like when I was a child. After standing firm, I can explore the world independently, walking, running, jumping and flying, and the wonderful life has just begun; It may also be established, with its own goals and directions, and a clear road for the next decade; May immediately, with the savings of the previous stage for an outbreak; It may also be a position, which has its own special views and understanding of people and things.
Whether it is tenable or has a certain status, in short, it is that you can stand tall. This is thirty years old.
3 "I am only three years old."
@ Li Sanniang, daughter 3 1 year old? Barista, shoemaker
Why should I answer this question? I'm only three years old.
4 "panic, because of poverty."
@ 丨丨丨? 29 years old? designer
I'm going to be thirty soon. I'm scared because I'm poor.
I only wish that my thirties, fifties and eighties are still young, confident and love life. ? "
@ Xiaoer丨 23 years old? rascal
I am a person who can't plan, so I have no idea about thirty. Because of today's topic, the first time I imagined 30 years old, it was still fruitless. I am not an imaginative person, or I am afraid that I think too high, I can't reach my goal and let myself down. If I think too low, I underestimate myself. For me, thirty years old is nothing more than the difference between the third year and the fourth year. I don't want to ask what kind of state my family and career should reach. I just hope that my 30-year-old, 50-year-old and 80-year-old are still young, confident and love life.
6 "Constantly summarizing the past 30 years may be a zero."
@ Convenient Life Male 20+ years old media person
I want to live for another 500 years and 30 years! Perhaps it is a definition that everyone gives himself life! It is a ruler, at this node! Constantly summing up the past 30 years may be a zero. Roll up your sleeves and start all over again! Thirty years old means something to me! Panic.
7 "I forgot when I was 30."
@ 丨丨丨? 40? Media practitioners
I'm not confused this year. I forgot ... when I was 30.
8 "Thirty is just a number. Why compete with a number? "
@Lee？ Hey, buddy? 28 years old? Television migrant workers
Never thought about standing or not. To me, 30 is just a number. Why compete with a number? No matter how old you are, you are filial to your parents, healthy, have enough money and have a girl you like, that's all.
9 "The change of appearance is naturally bad, but the change of personality is round, and it is judged by others."
@ 丨丨? 3 1 year? medium
By the age of 30, people have become mature in appearance, personality and speech. The change of appearance is naturally bad, but the roundness of character is judged by others. Now I live carefully, and every step feels like walking on thin ice! All representatives are thirty. It has been said in "University" that those who want to govern the country must first put their families in order. If you want to keep your family together, you should trim your body first. If you want to cultivate yourself, you should be upright first. Your heart is so noisy, how can you cultivate your morality and keep your family together? ...
10 I just turned over this year 18.
@Lisa's little happiness? Daughter? 3 1 year? medium
It just turned 18 this year, hahaha.
1 1 "Even the steps of getting married should follow the raiders. Are you tired? "
@yohoone？ Hey, buddy? 26 years old? medium
I would like to make the following comments on this topic.
1. I'm still far from 30. I always say this question is simply too early.
2. I think China people are so obsessed with these inherent concepts that they don't even know their destiny when they are 30, and they don't even know their destiny when they are 40 ... even the steps of getting married should be followed. Are you tired? I'm not against these things, but I don't think we should be too persistent about them. Although living according to the old calendar will not be exaggerated, I still want to live freely. Being alive is already very tired, and we have to follow the raiders. It's too explosive. But at least have some respect for these old things.
I don't care, so what if I'm 30? My pants are still in second gear, and I'm still wearing Jordan shoes. The only change may be, if I have a doll, let him wear Jordan with me.
You arrived at 30 earlier than me, so you should think about it first.
12 "I have more."
@ 丠丠丨? 23 years old? Iqiyi employees
The LUN family is thirty years old, and there are seven years left.
13 "Many people care because social concept, family concept and cultural concept give it too many titles."
@ Jack Summer, male, 28 years old psychologist
I think 30 years old is nothing more than an age. Many people care because social concept, family concept and cultural concept give it too many titles. So it's just a testimony of growth, a more mature age than your twenties, and there's no other meaning.
14 "Age doesn't matter."
@ 丨丨? I don't remember how old a media person is.
No sense of age, just a few years older.
15 "The problem is, after it is finished, it may fall again."
@ 丨丨丨丨丨 49-year-old media person
Before I was 30 years old, I often said: If you don't get rich at 30, if you don't get rich at 40, a person will basically be ruined. Of course, this includes their own experiences, efforts, or other factors. There are many aspects, such as happiness at work, happiness in marriage and happiness in life ... It depends on your understanding.
In my thirties, I should be the most modern person in my life. The problem is, after it is finished, it may be counted out again.
16 "I don't want to write."
@ He Hao, 30+ years old cobbler.
The topic is good, but I don't want to write it.
17 "There is no road in life, and 30 years old is only the first step of the Long March."
@ All of them are 3 1 year-old reporters.
Upon receiving this question, I replied, "I am a 30-year-old unmarried woman." To be exact, I am an unmarried woman in my thirties, but I don't want to talk about feelings this time.
I remember that on the eve of my 30th birthday, my signature on WeChat was "If I am wonderful, the breeze will come". I remember when Natsume was thirty years old, he once said, "When you are twenty years old, you will know the benefits of life;" And know that where there is light, there is darkness; As for today's thirties, I know there are many dark places, and when I am happy, it is also very heavy. "
Now in my thirties, "wonderful" can be said to be a good wish, and it is not easy to live hard.
Standing at the age of 30, you should stand, start a career and start a family. Once upon a time, such as yesterday's death; In the future, such as today's birth. There is no road in life in vain. Thirty years old is only the first step in the long March.
18 "Hurt people."
@ Li Xiong, a 28-year-old media person.
This theme is too hurtful.
19 "The traces of years are not only engraved on the face, but also branded on the heart."
@sunny, the hostess
A 30-year-old woman is born of heart, only 30 years old, and everything has just begun ... 30, less publicity, more introverted; Less youthful and frivolous, more understanding and consideration. The traces of years are not only engraved on the face, but also branded on the heart.
20 "You will forget your age after thirty."
@ 丨丨 7 female 3 1 year old? host
You will forget your age after thirty. That's me, hahahahahaha.
2 1 "If you have a lovely young heart, you won't waste time."
@ Miu Miu's daughter? 3 1 year? Media workers
A girl in her thirties-I, a worker who has been looking for a part-time job and will be laid off at any time, didn't realize the powerlessness of life until I was thirty. The first operation in my life, the first time standing on the edge of being laid off, holding a meager salary, the monthly salary is not enough for the follow-up treatment of the operation. The heart is higher than the sky, but it can't reverse everything, and negative energy is bursting. However, the cheese cat saved me, Gezi wine saved me, and crayon Shinchan saved me.
Yes, people always die and can't take anything with them. Why do we have to live so hard? Why can't you die without dying? Because there are so many places in this world that I haven't been to, so many cartoons that I haven't read and so many delicious foods that I haven't eaten. So I plan to find a part-time job. I'm going out to have a look. Even if you can't live where you like, you must have a lovely young heart to live this life. So, who introduced me to a part-time job?
22 "at the age of 30, I can understand that it is difficult to take care of both."
@ 畺甸 male? 30+ years old broadcast host teacher, drama actor
At the age of 30, I learned to cherish and understand that what I lost must be gained, and it is difficult to have both.
23 "I have passed in confusion, and what's worse, I won't be confused."
@ Chen Yuming, male? A reporter in his thirties
How time flies! I'm in a daze, and what's worse, I'm about to get lost. To make matters worse, I can't remember some things ten years ago. Suddenly feel like a failure.
In my opinion, everyone has different living environment, different knowledge and different growth. There is no need to ask yourself what to do when you are 30! I think children's physical and mental health is parents' greatest achievement. So, it really doesn't matter whether she can stand up or not.
24 "I am still a baby."
@ 丨丨? 27-year-old subway civil servant
It's not 30 yet. Talking about 18 is ok. After all, 18 is forbidden. I am still a baby.
25 "live into a vast starry sky, I don't care about other people's universe!" "
@ It doesn't stop raining? A reporter in his thirties
Standing at thirty, I suddenly feel that these four words are a bit heavy. At the age of 30, my life is already halfway through. I have never stood or stood. I just live a comfortable life as I please. Although I have lost my courage when I was young, I still don't care about the past and am afraid of the future. Whether I am 30 or 40, I don't care about other people's universe!
26 "Don't insist, don't pay attention."
@e-energy, male? 30-year-old IT employee
Thirty wants to build a career, love and family. I can control my career by myself, but love can only follow fate. My attitude is neither demanding nor particular. At the age of 30, I pay more attention to the independence of thought and the maturity of mind.
"I don't want to talk about this topic."
@ Convex is blacked out? 29 years old media person
I'm only 16 years old, and I don't want to talk about it.
I like my youth, but I don't cling to it.
@ 丨丨丨 male? 39 years old media person
Twenty years old, I feel thirty years away, and I don't want to arrive unconsciously. Then, pinch your fingers and count, it should be nothing. Suddenly panicked, my god, are you thirty years old?
Looking back on the years after grade three, it is a self-treatment course in general. Looking at some of the words I said before, I feel my face is swollen, but I also have a kind of joy of talking to myself. I like my youth, but I am not persistent. I felt that all the farts at that time were fragrant.
Some people just get pushed, or occasionally want to climb. When they see those passionate lives, they really want to applaud each other, because they know how difficult it is. I applaud you, too. I've been struggling with what you did for so many years. You just do what you want to do and learn from you.
Now think about some people and things I missed, and time can't go back. From now on, I just want to keep my heart and make the rest of my life more exciting.
"Now we have a proper package, but a tired core, an absurd mask, but a real face."
@ Stainless Steel Jellyfish? 29-year-old airport staff
I remember that I have gone through 29 years, shouldering more and more responsibilities, holding a salary that doesn't match the workload, struggling to weigh my career and marriage, and reluctantly establishing contacts. At this overwhelmed age, it seems that everything is so unsatisfactory. Now I have the right packaging, but I have a tired core and an absurd mask, but I still have to stick to it, because I am afraid that I have failed to live up to my hardships and I can't lose the place I originally wanted to reach once or twice.
What does it mean to be thirty?
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