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I am still immersed in the Winter Olympics, which brings endless joy and surprises to people.

In addition to her academic qualifications, good looks, and superb skills, Gu Ailing, who dominates the screen, is highly sought after. Her confidence and enjoyment in competition are particularly touching, especially after her fall in the qualifying round. Smiling.

Yuzuru Hanyu, who seems to have come from time-travel, is persistently fighting an unwinnable battle in the flowing clouds, poetry and dreams. Although he couldn't win the Bing Dundun that everyone was chasing, he bravely followed his heart and devoted himself to being himself, which made us still applaud him emotionally.

The 26-year-old French athlete Lucille Lefebvre was unable to complete the scheduled technical moves in the last competition due to a knee injury during the slopestyle competition, so she decided to dress up as a roaring tiger to complete the feat. The competition is just to be more interesting, happy, relaxed and humorous.

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Countless netizens said: It feels like the athletes are having a happy ice party in this Winter Olympics. Because we see happiness, satisfaction, happiness, and even “flow” from them.

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Back to reality, after watching the Lantern Festival Party, the traditional Chinese New Year has officially come to an end, and people from all walks of life are inconveniently getting into work with all their strength. From leisure to waiting for work to full of tasks, do you feel a sense of pressure rushing over you?

When faced with a task, can you concentrate on it, forget the existence of time, and be fully emotionally involved in selflessness? I believe some people can, and some, like me, cannot! Are there any techniques or methods that allow us to do this?

Of course, read the book "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" and experience the flow yourself.

This book provides a three-link principle: "clear goals", "immediate feedback", and "matching difficulty". It is to transform big tasks into small goals. Every time you complete a small goal, you will experience the positive feedback brought by achieving the goal, and each small goal must match your own ability. Through these three consecutive principles of doing things, you can experience the sense of accomplishment of concentration and challenge. This feeling is called flow in psychology.

The author Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is one of the founders of positive psychology. Through 25 years of extensive case studies, he discovered that happiness cannot be found by looking for it with intention! Happiness has nothing to do with money because money cannot buy happiness. Happiness has nothing to do with luck, and the Grand Prize of the Lotto cannot bring happiness. We can get some idea from China's tracking reports on the winners of the grand prize.

So what is happiness? Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi discovered that happiness depends on our interpretation of external things. Happiness is a state that requires adequate preparation (enhanced practice), deliberate cultivation and maintenance. Only those who learn to control themselves and their souls, and can truly be themselves, can truly enjoy happiness.

Yuzuru Hanyu is a person who knows what he wants and works hard in this direction. Even though he knew that 4A was the ceiling for figure skating, he still insisted on going his own way. What he wanted was feeling and inner harmony, not just medals. Although there are regrets, people who live in harmony, no matter what they do or encounter, will not waste their mental energy on doubt, regret, guilt and fear. They transform life into a seamless flow experience, realizing the meaning of life and enjoying it in the process.

Flow is not exclusive to sports stars. The general public can enter a state of flow in daily life, leisure and entertainment, work, interpersonal relationships and other aspects. For example, as a teacher, in order to make the PPT more pleasing to the eye during class, I lost track of time when modifying text, searching for pictures, and searching for Hai Xun cases. Even though my eyes were sore and my back ached, when I saw a satisfactory PPT turned out, the joy and satisfaction I felt was indescribable. . It is easy to experience flow when we are doing something that we like very much, that is challenging, and that we are good at. Climbing mountains, swimming, playing ball, playing games, reading, playing musical instruments, working... We are in happiness.

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After reading this book, I have a deep understanding: the preface occupies nearly one-eighth of the content of the book, but the preface is a must-read content, and it is a must-read. Read the content carefully. Because some terms used by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in the book are not annotated, it is easy for people to get confused, such as "spiritual entropy", but several psychology gurus or celebrities who wrote the preface have made very For a detailed explanation, the preface by Mr. Zhao Yukun, director of the Positive Science Research Center of Tsinghua University, is very clear.

The biggest gain from reading this book is: if you want to truly gain happiness, you must have the determination to be yourself. It is very difficult to think about it. Faced with so many temptations in the world, do not be attracted or confused, be yourself calmly, and do not forget the original intention of doing things... For example, Yuzuru Hanyu, just to dance 4A.

I never tire of reading a good book a hundred times. When you have free time, read it several times and experience the flow of your heart and happiness.