Some people couldn't stand it and called her "holding a chicken feather as an arrow" in front of her. She was even more angry and just tore up the manuscript. But it is also because of picky that Abby's manuscript quality has always been the best in the magazine.
Besides, according to the gossip of colleagues, a man who has been close to Abby can fill three or four tables. Many of them are rich and powerful ... but Abby's sister just said, "No eye contact!" " "
Her signature is: "I am no one's shadow, let alone the second best choice." Everything I do is what I want, and I won't live according to anyone's idea. "
It was last autumn when I met Abby again. I almost didn't recognize her when I saw her, but she had long hair, wore a gray trench coat and held a bundle of folders in her hand, completely losing her momentum.
After chatting for a while, I realized that in recent years, because she was old and her temper was smooth, she finally got married without being better than her family. Later, in order to take care of her family and children, she took the initiative to apply for transfer to the leisure administration department, commuting from nine to five every day, and getting a decent salary comfortably at the beginning of the month. ...
Although Abby's personality has softened a lot, her work has stabilized a lot, and her relationship with colleagues has eased a lot, I still vaguely feel that she is not happy.
When leaving, she said to me seriously, "Don't compromise easily. Compromise seems just to save energy. But as long as you take a step back, even a small step, it will be difficult for you to move forward. "
My in the mind suddenly a surprised, it happens!
One really can't compromise or reconcile easily. If you think you compromise once and reconcile once, you are likely to compromise and reconcile for life. And the more backward, the more limited the space to breathe; The more you show, the farther away some happy things will be.
Sometimes, take a step back and broaden the horizon; But sometimes, taking a step back may be the abyss.
2
Around us, people and things that "settle for second best" are staged every day!
You wanted to get into a first-class university, but you didn't succeed, so you can barely get into a second-class or third-class university, but how can a third-class university have a first-class dream?
You missed a person who made your heart beat, so you found a similar person to make do with it, but there was one person in your heart who never forgot. The person you meet again becomes a "will", and no matter how good it is, it can't fill the vacancy in your heart.
You took a fancy to a pair of high heels, but it was too expensive to buy them, so you bought a pair of cheap ones. But with the most beautiful pair of shoes in your heart, the others became "inferior", and even the cheap "inferior" ones could not make up for your inner regrets.
You always thought that the world would make room for you with a little compromise, but you found that you got nothing but losing more and complaining more!
In fact, behind every compromise, there is a real purpose: either afraid of losing, or making peace, or unwilling to work hard ... When you think that lowering the standard will make it easier to get the result you want, you are doomed to not get what you want.
Remember, the bottom line you set determines that you will not lose anything. Once the bottom line is lost, it will soon be wiped out. The more serious consequence is that what you want will be lost.
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There is a very popular cartoon: a group of people are struggling with heavy crosses on their backs. On the road, there was a man who thought he was smart. He cut off a part of the cross, which made his back much easier. After walking for a while, he cut another piece. In this way, he easily surpassed many people. I didn't expect to meet a deep and wide ravine on the road later. He stopped in front of the ravine and felt extremely anxious, blaming God for his difficulties.
At this time, the person who was overtaken by him slowly caught up. Others put a hard-won cross on the gully and easily crossed it. This man wants to do the same, but his cross is too short. ...
You see, it's your laziness, your luck, your opportunism, your second best, which is quietly destroying you!
In the process of growing up, everyone carries his own cross. It may be your study, your job, or your feelings. However, it is these heavy things that constitute the reason and value of your existence in this world and are the tools for you to face difficulties, setbacks and pains alone in the future.
Remember, there is no shortcut in life, and your laziness today will inevitably become your misery tomorrow. Don't wonder, "after listening to so many reasons, how can it be bad?"
The answer is, referring to those principles, others have worked hard, and sometimes they have only gained half. You've only worked half-way. Why can you live a good life?
four
At the Harvard graduation ceremony in 2008, President Foster said this to the graduates:
I've heard you talk about the future and know your troubles. I also know that you are worried about income, career choice and whether the meaning of life can be realized. What I want to tell you is that you won't know until you try. Whether it is painting, biology or finance, if you don't try to do what you like, if you don't pursue what you think is most meaningful, you will regret it. Life is a long road, and there will always be alternatives, but don't settle for second best at the beginning.
She also compared the psychology of "settling for second best" to "parking space theory". Don't park your car 20 blocks away from your destination just because you think there must be no parking space. Go straight to where you want to go, and come back if the parking space is full.
A person is like a flower, born to bloom. If you choose not to blossom because you are afraid of death, or choose to die, then you waste the goodness of God.
So, don't give up easily, but with the first time, your life is used to shrinking, but after overcoming it, your life is used to riding the wind and waves. This seemingly simple choice actually has a great influence and brings a completely different life.
Growth is a process of continuous upgrading. If you don't knock down the little monster in front of you, you may be eliminated by this game, because the reality is so cruel. But at the same time, you can't always fight small monsters and avoid those powerful monsters. Because everyone around you is trying to overcome big difficulties.
I'm scared. A few years later, you complain to those friends who are better than you: "Why is life so unfair? Why are others so powerful and so lucky, and I am always so unlucky and so unlucky?"
In fact, there is nothing unfair. At the same time, you are standing still, while others are overcoming challenges.
You have to force yourself to see more possibilities! If 10,000 people are unwilling and don't get an "attempt", you deserve to regret. Because, any escape can't be rewarded!
Wang Xiaobo once said: "When people are young, the biggest headache is to decide what to do with their lives. All in all, everything is good, but doing this is human value and dignity. "
Living, the biggest failure is not falling, but never running!
If you can't be hard on yourself, it's life's turn to be hard on you. But anyone who is bored is because he is too good to himself!
So, don't believe anything like "girls can be white, not beautiful, and have a bad figure", because one day, when you are finally thin and beautiful, you will find that your life is just like hanging up. If you think the article is good, remember to share it as soon as you like it!