I am already in my 30s this year, and I have lived a happy life after marriage. Although I don’t have much money, I have a house and a broken car, so I can live a leisurely life. Judging from the current development, I don’t expect to be promoted and make a fortune. As long as I can provide food and clothing, I will be satisfied. After all, material cannot replace the spirit (Ah Q spirit). When I was young, I dated many girls. Some of them became the leftover girls today, and some were leftover girls at the time. Let me give you a few examples:

Girl A, who was 4 years younger than me at the time, He is a relative of a friend, I know him. He is pretty, thin, and narcissistic. He often looks at his photos endlessly. He has a childish personality (the kind who loves to dream and watch Korean dramas...) and doesn't understand the world. Of course, I'm not much better than her. The development between us went smoothly at first, but it stopped after a few months because I'm not very good at sweet talking or creating a romantic atmosphere. She may not like me. This kind of honest type has always been in a state of neither salt nor water. Finally, I finally realized that I couldn't drag it out like this any longer, so I let it go. As far as I know now, she is still alone, maybe she hasn't met the person she thinks is suitable yet, I think so for now.

Girl B was 2 years younger than me when we started dating, which meant she was basically a leftover girl at that time. I was 30 at the time. She has a good personality and is very affectionate. As long as she is dating her boyfriend, she is very affectionate. She had a long-term boyfriend before, but the relationship ended without any problems after several years. She is very good to me and very satisfied with me, and I am the same with her. Our relationship is developing well. She is a very suitable wife. She respects her elders, is good at housekeeping, likes cooking, and is loyal to her friends. If we continue to develop , we should be able to get married soon, but unfortunately, his father is strongly opposed to us because we are in different places. Another reason is that his father has some mental problems. Because her mother died early, his father has always been very kind to me. She resisted, so she was caught in a dilemma. In the end, I took the initiative to quit. Now it seems that I did the right thing. The long-term pain is not as good as the short-term pain, haha. It is said that she is still alone now, a woman over 30 years old, and her career is not bad, so if she wants to be a good match, she should not be too careless with men. I hope she can meet someone who can marry her soon, and I also hope her father Don't cause any more trouble for her. Although she is a leftover woman, she does not have the characteristics of those leftover women at all. It can only be said that she met someone unkind when she was young, and later did not seize the opportunity to get married due to various reasons. In fact, she really wanted to get married and have children, so it can only be said that she was unlucky.

C girl, a typical leftover woman, fully conforms to the basic characteristics of leftover women in today's era. I was 27 years old at the time, still relatively young. We met online. At first, we just ate together and hung out together. Later, I tried to date her. Mainly because I am not too young. She may look pretty good, and her looks are okay. In fact, it is because of her Makeup can scare people at first, but over time I found out that I am smarter and shrewder, I come from a family with high intellectuals, my temper is not the gentle type, I am rather arrogant, our work styles are similar, and we have many topics to talk about. The situation between us is that if I ask her out, she is willing to come out to play, but she is fine with eating, but she is more resistant to playing with us for two reasons. Well, if you don't agree, I will stalk you. But as time went by, she still had the same strategy of asking me to ride the donkey in search of a horse. She would not say that I was not good or that I was good, and she would secretly date others behind my back. Well, then I would give up. As a result, after I stopped looking for her for a while, she came to pester me again. She even called me frantically to turn off the phone. Damn it, she treated me as a substitute! She probably came to me because someone else didn't want her. I saw her at a party recently. Age is not forgiving, and she can no longer wear makeup. My friends said that she is still wearing it, and her temper is still weird. Although she is a senior white-collar worker, a man of her caliber will Marry her? Why are there so many young, gentle and beautiful people looking for her instead of looking for them? I was secretly glad that I wasn't with her at that time. When looking for a wife, you still need to be gentle and virtuous. It's easy to talk about other things, otherwise I won't bore you to death for several years. Maybe career is the best destination for them. Even if they get married, they may not be as comfortable as being single. After all, they still have something to pursue.

Female D, 2 years younger than me, has an okay appearance and figure, not outstanding. According to someone’s introduction, I had a boyfriend for a short time. He had a similar job type to mine, and his hobbies didn’t share much with mine. He had a quiet and gentle personality, and he had a large circle of friends. He was quite popular. I used to hang out with my friends a lot. Eating and playing ball, I quickly entered their circle. Someone had introduced him to her before, but she didn't like it very much. She always felt that no one wanted to go on a blind date. Moreover, she did have certain requirements, and there were not many suitable ones. However, we both felt better after we got together. She said that I was more honest and reliable, and felt that I was at ease. Other conditions were okay, and she didn't expect to have much money. She said I could at least maintain a certain standard of living. Our relationship developed relatively well, and both parents were very satisfied. Both parents were relatively practical people, and their family situations were quite similar. Finally, we got married, and we are living a good life now. After a few years of marriage, it has been more sweet than sour, especially after having a baby. Although we are very tired and can no longer go out to play as often as before, the happiness cannot be expressed in ordinary words.

When my wife and I met, we were probably considered to be men and women. I was 30 years old at the time, especially my parents and people around me were very anxious. My wife and I had the same mentality, but we still said verbally that we must do it. Find the right one. I once discussed with my wife, if we had met a few years younger, would we have gotten married? My wife said maybe not. She was very demanding at that time. I think I was the same way. When I was young, I paid too much attention to appearance. To put it bluntly, it was all about saving face. In fact, now that I think about it, the most important thing in marriage is not appearance. It’s not about material things, or whether they have the same hobbies, but whether the two people’s personalities and tempers are compatible, whether the conditions of both parties are similar in all aspects, and the family relationship of both parties also plays a role in the success of their children’s marriage. It has an important influence, that is, we must pay attention to the right match. Before my wife met me, we both liked to hang out in the circle of friends and rarely ate at home. It was different after we got married. Everything was family-centered. Our transformation was quite natural and fast. They say that being single is free. I still feel much happier now, although the relationship between us may have slowly turned into a family relationship. When it comes to regrets, I can only say that I regret that it was a little late to get married.

In addition, I have met some leftover women, so I won’t go into details. So regardless of whether there are leftover men or leftover women, the reasons for the remaining ones are the same as those I have seen. Among the leftover women, there must be those with weird tempers, those with unreasonable demands, those who are too idealistic, those who are waiting to sell, and those who are narcissistic. Extremely strong. On the other hand, there must be such people among leftover men, but there are also leftover men and leftover women who are unlucky. It doesn’t matter whether it is left now, what matters is whether it will always be left. Of course, to be honest, after the leftover men and leftover women pass 30, the pressure on men is still much less than that on women, because men have a much wider range of choices. Women over 28 years old, especially those with a small career or above, have the most choices. Narrow, the reason is something everyone wants to know, and it cannot be said that their demands are unreasonably high, because this is the way this society is, and marriage must be well-matched to have a solid foundation. So for boys and girls who are still in their prime, it is better to listen to the advice of people who have experienced it. Love is a very complex and simple thing. Love in real life may contain many conditions, but if you sum up rationally, it is also Just a few things: appearance, personality, temper, educational background, job, income, etc. If you want to get married, you also have to check whether the family background is compatible. I think everyone has their own scale, but each factor is more or less problematic. Some people have more of this parameter, and some have more of that parameter. But who you choose in the end, in fact, as long as the deviation in conditions is not too big, it basically doesn’t make much difference to who you marry. As for the difference in your future life, it also depends on luck. In fact, it doesn’t matter whether you listen to these suggestions or not. How can you understand the depth of water without trying it yourself? If these life experiences could be completely inherited by the next generation, our human life might not be what it is now. So from ancient times to the present, many of the same stories have been played out every day, with many joys and sorrows, and this will always be the case in the future.

Finally, let me give you some suggestions: I didn’t care so much about leftover men and women before. From now on, choose your own life according to your own wishes, including your future partner. If you If you can endure the single life until you grow old, then you can live your own life and make choices in your own way. If you feel that time is running out, you might as well change yourself a little. Maybe you can have a different life. Good luck to everyone. Of course, it's just a suggestion. Whether you listen or not doesn't necessarily mean you are right or wrong.