The national average divorce rate is close to 40%.
The divorce rate is getting higher and higher, which is followed by more social and family problems.
At the same time, there is also an argument that is full of women groups: Never divorce, divorce is second-hand, and no one dares to divorce.
After a woman's divorce
Nobody wants it?
Recently, a variety show "Heartbeat Again" caused a heated discussion, and divorced female guests such as Crystal, Bai Bing, Olivia and Joey ·CHUA were invited to start a new "heart-pounding" journey.
Some time ago, Olivia and her date admitted that they had a 7-year-old child, and posted a photo of themselves and their son on Weibo, which was the first hot search.
In the program, Olivia told Wu Yongen at dinner that her past self might be crazier than he imagined, just as the media said: she has a child.
Wu Yongen was shocked to hear that he had a child at first, so he left his seat for a while. When he calmed down, she returned to her seat, hugged Olivia and said, "I care about you very much."
In the interview after the program, Wu Yongen also said: "Having a baby is not a big deal."
Olivia, on the other hand, said that at the beginning of a relationship, you still need to explain your background clearly, otherwise it is disrespectful to others' feelings.
In recent programs, their relationship is getting closer and closer. In playing games, they all admitted that they liked each other.
Olivia showed Wu Yongen photos and videos of her children, and he praised and recognized them.
Recently, someone photographed the two of them traveling in Sanya. Many netizens said: It's so sweet! We have to be together.
But a group of people left a message saying, "If you have children from your ex, how can you be qualified to be with unmarried men?" "If a woman gives birth to a child, no one dares to give birth."
Can't divorced women have children?
Everyone has the right to pursue happiness. In a relationship, if the pain makes you unable to stay any longer, why hurt each other?
As Joey ·CHUA said in Weibo:
"Divorce is my experience, but it cannot be my definition. I want to tell you, especially those girls who laugh at themselves because of divorce, that they must be themselves and love themselves. Our lives are in our own hands. Now it is more important to take every step. If you want to do something you want to try, do it boldly. No moment or experience can stop us from starting all over again. "
Divorce is not fall in price, but disappointment and leaving in time.
Leave in time
Is to stop the pain
Fangfang has been married for 6 years and has a 3-year-old son.
Recently, she told us that she wanted a divorce. The reason is that her husband has no sense of responsibility and doesn't care about family.
Once upon a time, they were very loving, with similar education and work, but everything changed after marriage.
Fangfang works while taking care of the children. Because she has her own future plans, she is very enterprising.
On the other hand, my husband muddled along. When he comes home, he stays up playing games and never takes care of the children or does housework. He is getting more and more perfunctory in his work and making no progress.
Worst of all, her husband was later fired, stayed at home doing nothing, and often lost his temper with her.
She feels that this kind of life is becoming more and more boring, which is also contrary to the original intention of pursuing happiness.
But after she asked her friends, someone advised her: "Don't divorce, divorce is a stain on women, and others will dislike taking their children to other people's homes."
Leaving in time is to stop suffering.
He Jiong also admitted in the program: "Few people will say that this man is very successful, but he is divorced; But it will be said that this woman is very successful, but divorced. "
I firmly believe that women should not have such prejudice.
I saw a vibrato video before. A woman married to Beijing and her parents liked her very much.
The man has a decent job, a house and a car in Beijing, but after she married him, she said that she was not happy at all.
Because her husband often says the wrong thing for her mother, she usually doesn't understand her mother's hard work, and she feels like a free nanny.
She has been struggling at home and complained to her parents several times, but her parents advised her not to leave, because it was too shameful to say so, and she felt that the man's family was decent, so that their family would have face.
Until one day, she couldn't stand it anymore and divorced her husband.
She said: "On the day of my divorce, I felt really liberated and really free. The life I want has just begun. "
It is better to live by yourself than to live with people who are not nice to you.
Divorce doesn't mean that someone will love you only if fall in price loves herself.
In reality, there are indeed many women who are tortured by their families and are afraid to leave because of the eyes of their children and others.
What makes you tired is not marriage, but making do.
When you begin to ask yourself whether your life is happy or not and doubt whether you want to leave, it is that he doesn't love you, or that you can't feel love.
Leaving in time is a choice to love yourself.
Seek happiness
Is our ultimate goal.
Zhang Xinyi once got married, but not long after, she divorced because of her work and personality.
Zhang Xinyi once said in The Venus Show that her father said to her:
"As a divorced woman, don't feel how expensive you are. Find a peace of mind that is good for yourself and better for other people's parents. "
Later, she met Justin, who was one year older than Justin. At first, netizens didn't think highly of the couple.
She told Justin what her father said. Justin blushed and promised to treat her well.
In a program, Justin showed kindness to his wife, cooking at home and bathing the baby.
I will also do some romantic things, such as inviting all her friends to a party on Zhang Xinyi's birthday and finding her autographed photos of her favorite stars.
Some people say that when you meet someone who loves you, your eyes will glow and your mouth will be full of smiles. This is their love.
Even if you have experienced failure, it will not affect a person's continued pursuit of love.
Pursuing happiness is the goal of each of us.
Don't lose your most beautiful self.
Divorce is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you gave up yourself and the pursuit of happiness.
Marriage is not a shackle of life, but a icing on the cake.
The best marriage does not require the sacrifice and fulfillment of either party.
Find yourself and glow.
Just be yourself, and naturally someone will love you.
May you find someone who knows your joys and sorrows and fully protects you. He understands your past difficulties, understands your hardships, shares family chores with you, and gives you a romantic feeling.