I really hate my question.

People who love tears, when something happens, lose nine points in the gas field and six points in emotional intelligence, looking extremely innocent and super naive.

If you meet a kind-hearted person, tears may make the other person feel a little sympathy for you. If you meet a vicious person, you will feel that you are easy to bully and will step on you more.

What's it like to cry? -all kinds of truth, words to the mouth, but was forced back by two lines of tears. I have no fighting capacity and negotiating power, and I feel particularly inferior and wronged.

Every time my mother meets me in tears, she is always sad: "Is this thing worth your tears?" The tone was full of contempt, as if I were a coward.

Whenever this happens, I want to say, "Hurry out and let me cry quietly and happily for a while, okay?"

For those who love to cry, crying is a means of healing, just like a trapped animal always hiding in an empty corner, licking its wounds and regaining its glory.

In fact, I am often despised for being caught in tears by others.

In high school, the class teacher found my problem. He also talked to me specially. I remember he told me seriously: "The more girls, the less likely you are to cry."

I understand that he thinks that a tearful girl looks too weak and makes people feel bullied, so she has to suffer a lot of grievances.

Actually, it's true.

The personalized signature I used on the official WeChat account was "an older man with a weak appearance and a tough heart."

When I just graduated, I really got a lot of blame from others because I was soft, kind and crying. I met some people with ulterior motives.

I remember when I was an intern, I was repeatedly framed by an old employee with extremely bad means. I am angry and want to talk to her about it. As a result, before I could speak, the wronged tears actually came out first! Seeing that I am weak, the other party is more arrogant, and my teeth are sharp and sharp. I was very angry with her fallacies and kept crying. The more excited I am, the more I want to cry. As a result, I didn't say a word

After that, I was annoyed, ashamed and hated. I felt that I was a big joke and a big idiot.

In fact, people who love tears are not necessarily fragile, they just need to use tears to vent their surging emotions.

I am like this: I never thought about giving up when I met anything, no matter how sad I cried at that time. After crying, I began to think about the solution to the problem. So many difficulties in life, regardless of the outcome, have survived one by one.

Friends who don't know you very well will say, I can't see that you are quite strong.

I think this "invisibility" is not only because I have a baby face in Zhang Yuanyuan, but also because I love to cry.

In fact, sometimes, tears really have nothing to do with fragility. It only shows that our temporary emotional control is not good.

So, don't think that people who cry will be bullied. Don't think that people who cry can't bear anything.

But it's really a bad behavior to say 1000 words and 10000 words, and to cry too much.

Especially in the workplace, tears can easily leave a fragile, naive and emotional impression. Once you leave such an impression on the leaders, I'm afraid it will be difficult to entrust them with important tasks in the future.

However, emotional control does not mean that we have it. What shall we do? Let's give some suggestions.

1 hide and cry

If you really can't hold back your emotions, try to hide in a place where no one is there, or cry in front of someone you can trust.

Being hit by someone you don't know very well and crying is not only embarrassing for yourself, but also embarrassing for the other person!

Wait until you have cried enough, vent your emotions and calm down completely, then talk about things and deal with problems.

Never talk about a problem with emotion. People who love to cry, if they are emotional, tears will fall as soon as they open their mouths.

Consciously practice your ability to control tears.

How to practice? You can practice by watching movies and TV works.

When watching some sad works, don't be busy crying, you can consciously exercise your ability to control tears.

When the plot is sad, tears come immediately. See if you can hold back and retell the story clearly.

After a period of conscious training, emotional control will definitely improve.

I have always wanted to get rid of the habit of crying. Although I haven't got rid of it yet, I have made some progress, that is, even if tears can't stop flowing, I won't let the sad mood spread, but I can stop crying in a short time. Why does it still sound so lame? )

3 a firm psychological suggestion

Before talking about the problem, take a deep breath, give yourself firm confidence and tell yourself "I can do it". Replace sensitive and changeable hearts with firm psychological hints.

This method may not always work, but at least it will help you win the opening minute.

4 to deal with the problem from the perspective of bystanders

When encountering something, don't substitute too much emotion, but analyze the problem rationally and learn to analyze the problem calmly from the perspective of a bystander.

People who are already emotional, too many emotions are substituted, and it is easy for them to fall into self-pity.

Although people who love tears look timid, they are usually soft and sentimental inside. Maybe they are not smooth and decent enough, but at least they won't do anything vicious and biting. At least it is safe to be friends with such people.

If a girl is willing to cry in front of you, it may just represent her trust in you.

She knows you won't take advantage of her vulnerability, and I believe you can understand the helplessness behind the tears and tolerate her embarrassment and rudeness.

A good friend of mine, beautiful and capable, opened a big restaurant by himself.

The business of the hotel is very prosperous, and you often meet some vulgar or drunk guests. In these difficult scenes, my friend handled them well every time.

People around her say that she is an iron lady: no matter how difficult it is, she doesn't panic or shed a tear.

Only I know that she is a cry baby like me.

There is a small private office in her hotel. Whenever she is tired and bitter, she hides in the office to digest those negative emotions.

She often just finished crying, painted the most beautiful lip gloss and appeared radiant in the hall.

This year, she is 32 years old and not married.

People who don't know the inside story say that she has a high eye.

However, she told me that what she wants is actually very simple: a man who can let her relax her vigilance, cry openly in front of him and shed tears impudently.

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