Alyssa Chia and Hook are relatively calm mothers. They are calm and steady in front of their children and can handle the ups and downs in their growth. In front of her husband, Alyssa Chia is coquettish and a little woman, while Hook is a big woman who will arrange her life and career at her own pace. According to the limited introduction of the program, Yi Nengjing and Ma Yashu belong to women with mild obsessive-compulsive disorder. In the early days of children, centering on family life, it is inevitable that women are neurotic and fragile and stubborn. They are sometimes weak, and a small situation of their children is enough to make them cry; Sometimes, he is very tenacious. In the face of complicated affairs again and again, he showed a firm and persistent attitude. No matter how difficult the problem is, he dares to face it instead of running away.

There is no denying that these women are excellent. They all have their own shining careers, and in the special period of the family, they shoulder the heavy responsibility of raising children and leading the family without hesitation. I am deeply impressed by Yi Nengjing and Alyssa Chia. They are very good at leading a sense of ceremony in life, such as paying attention to important nodes of family members, preparing special gifts for family members, making some commemorative items by hand, etc., which can especially increase the fun of life and improve the quality of life.

Because one of Yi Nengjing and Qin Hao wants to go out and work hard, and the other wants to look after the house, they often get together less and leave more. We can see that Yi Nengjing warmly welcomes every gathering, and then accepts every separation with great mind. She made a three-person photo album and a heart-shaped candle shape for Qin Hao, which made a parting romance and warmth; She carefully arranged a party with her parents-in-law, and a family of five took a family photo, which was warm and happy; At the end of the last episode, she chose to give up filming and stay with her son because she wanted to spend Mother's Day with him. This detail is particularly warm.

Alyssa Chia and Jiexiu seem to share the same philosophy of life. Their two children are still very young, but they will keep a space for two people and live a warm and happy life for four people and a sweet and romantic life for two people. Alyssa Chia will accompany and carefully record the critical moment of children's growth. Even if it is a little girl's crawling competition, the family will hold its own brand as a cheerleader. She said it was the first and only time in her daughter's life.

I'm not sure if it is because Yi Nengjing and Alyssa Chia grew up in Taiwan Province province. To be sure, this is related to their family education and their humanistic environment. Compared with Hooke and Ma Yashu, they know more about the importance of the sense of ceremony. Ma Yashu and Hooke basically didn't show this talent in the program. On the contrary, they are recipients. Mr Ma Yashu, an American, is a romantic by nature. He knows how to send flowers at the right time, arrange an ideal concert for his wife, and give her hugs and kisses when she needs them. Hook's husband Sha Yi arranged a revisit for their wedding anniversary, which brought a series of surprises to Hook.

Why do we need a sense of ceremony? A good answer is: let life be life, not survival.

The education that our generation has received since childhood is saving, not wasting; Be practical, not vain. This kind of education allows us to choose "useful" when studying and choosing a major, "reliable" when looking for an object and "fixed" when looking for a job. When you get married, you should be lively and not extravagant, and live an affordable and wasteful life. Therefore, in our childhood and youth, "poverty limits our imagination", while in middle age, "ideas limit our happiness".

When I was young, my understanding of the quality of life was: fine products. At that time, I yearned for a silk robe, a leather sofa and a big bookcase in a big house. At that time, eating with a set of exquisite fine porcelain tableware was enough, and covering it with a pure silk quilt was enough.

Now, these things can be easily owned. At this time, what can make me feel satisfied? Are they more expensive and rare things in the world?

The answer is: no, those precious items, such as jewelry, watches and bags, may be rare treasures for the world and "luxury goods" that only a few people can have. But for me, it can improve my quality of life, but it can't. Now I understand that only love is the essence of life and love can make life quality.

what is love ? Imagine living in a high-end house and throwing clothes everywhere; The kitchen is beautifully decorated and has complete kitchen utensils, but three meals a day are takeout; Family members are busy with work, and have long forgotten birthdays and anniversaries ..... What we lack in life is not material, but temperature. There is no shortage of quality, only the expression of love. In family life, love is the companionship between family members, mutual cherish and care, endless triviality and patience, and the object endowed with care and concern.

What Alyssa Chia and "Superman Mom" Yi Nengjing do in their lives, in our ordinary people's view, may be because they are stars or because they are doing programs. And we in life, every day, are not playing with ourselves? It should be said that all of us, as ordinary people, can actually do these rituals of life by taking family photos, making handmade gifts and giving our families a little surprise.

A sense of ceremony does not require complicated procedures.

The ceremony parents give their children can be a new schoolbag before school starts, a graduation ceremony, a nutritious breakfast on their birthday, a hug before going out every day, good night, and a story before going to bed. For children, in the boring life, the occasional surprise and sense of ceremony will give them enough closeness and trust, make them feel happy and fun, and become their best memories.

Many couples live a dull life, even full of quarrels and cold wars, and often lack a sense of ceremony. The ceremony between husband and wife is a bunch of flowers and a card on birthday, a companion and warm words on anniversary, a "I love you" after an argument, a meal every day, a look and a hug. This is to let the other person know: I didn't ignore you, I remember your care and love.

In ordinary trivial days, a sense of ceremony can make you look forward to it, which has nothing to do with melodrama and economic foundation. It shows that you attach importance to yourself, cherish each other, respect and love life. This is our magic weapon against triviality and dullness.

Think of an interesting example as a metaphor. A friend once told me about her two female colleagues more than ten years ago. One of them is very keen on dressing up, but she is a bit out of date. She is almost fifty years old, with curly blonde hair and heavy makeup. The other, who never wants to dress up, is totally ashamed and wears old-fashioned clothes all day. She said that everyone works in a government department. Although overdressed is not in line with etiquette requirements, I prefer the one who loves to dress up. After all, she loves life.

Yes, even if you don't dress properly, it is a sign of loving life, much cuter than the woman who regards life as "survival"

In the same way, if you think that the sense of ritual is going through the motions, then the life of going through the motions is much better than being too lazy to go through the motions. As the movie "Beijing meets Seattle" said: "He may not take me to a yacht for French food, but he can run a few streets for me every morning and buy my favorite soybean milk fritters."

We need a ceremony, which can be romantic or practical; This may cost money or take time. Only one. This must be a mistake. Living with your heart is life.

All we need is a ceremony of love. Only love can turn life into life, not survival.