For people with strong self-esteem, sometimes they will not speak out when they encounter difficulties, but will just endure it silently. If outsiders notice and take the initiative to help, sometimes their self-esteem will be hurt, and kind help Often it will be counterproductive and cause harm. Therefore, when helping people with high self-esteem, sometimes you cannot help them openly, but you must help them secretly. It is recommended that you help them secretly. Your teacher and my teacher have similar personalities. My teacher’s name is Zhang Mandun. Let me tell you his story. Zhang Mandun graduated from a key university and applied to teach at the Provincial Experimental Middle School. Teacher Zhang comes from a rural area and his family is not very well-off. It is not easy to find a relatively stable job in a provincial capital. He also values ??this job and works extremely hard. Teacher Zhang serves as the mathematics and class teacher of the experimental class. His mathematics class is very popular among students. Every time he enters the classroom, the students almost cheer. He chatted here and there, even joking and joking with the students. The students called him "Brother Zhang" and "Brother Zhang". Zhang Mandun didn't take it seriously and responded very readily.
However, not long after working, Zhang Mandun encountered a troublesome thing. The school's Political and Education Department held a class teacher meeting to arrange the distribution of scholarships. According to the school's scholarship distribution plan, his class could be allocated nine students. Each student can receive 1,500 yuan per year. This was originally a good thing, but it made him difficult.
During self-study that night, Teacher Zhang conveyed the spirit of the class teacher meeting and hoped that students from poor families would actively apply. However, there was silence below, and not a single student raised his hand. Zhang Mandun thought about it, the amount of 1,500 yuan should be quite considerable, especially for students from poor families. It is almost two months of living expenses. This should be a timely help. Why is no one applying? Oh, by the way, it may be that students cannot overcome the psychological barriers of their poor family backgrounds, and they dare not apply in person due to face. Teacher Zhang believed that he had the students' pulse, so he changed his strategy. He added to the class: "There are still three days left for the application deadline. I hope students who want to apply can hurry up and talk to me privately. I will keep it strictly confidential." ." Teacher Zhang thought that she had done a more detailed job, but two days later, there was still no student to apply. Teacher Zhang felt very strange. If the students were reluctant to declare in the beginning because of their face, it would be excusable, but why did no one come when I asked the students to declare in private? Seeing that there was only one day left before the deadline to report to school, Teacher Zhang couldn't sit still. He asked the class monitor Li Datong to inquire about the situation.
Li Datong explained the reason why the students were reluctant to apply: Many students who can enter this provincial key middle school have unusual family backgrounds. Some students even spend three to four thousand yuan a month. How can they afford this thousand yuan! Although a few students whose families are not very well-off have working-class parents, it is actually not a big problem to provide education for their children. Besides, they are afraid of losing money in front of their classmates, so they are unwilling to declare.
After understanding these reasons, Teacher Zhang pondered for a while and said to Li Datong: "The tasks assigned by the school must be completed. There are always dozens of students in the class whose family conditions are relatively poor. Let's do this. You can do some research among your classmates and give me a list of the nine students who are most in need of support, and I will talk to them one by one." Li Datong accepted the order.
Soon, Li Datong reported the names of nine classmates.
Teacher Zhang first found one of the students, Liu Lili, and learned through conversation that Liu Lili’s father was also a teacher and her mother worked as a nurse in a hospital. She was unwilling to apply, just as Li Datong said. Teacher Zhang enlightened: "Family destiny cannot be determined by individuals. We should neither be conceited because our family is rich, nor should we feel inferior because our family is unsatisfactory. Besides, the ups and downs of our family are not permanent. This time the scholarships are distributed. , I made a careful choice, don’t worry, the money will be transferred directly to your card, I won’t let anything out in the class, trust me, okay?” Liu Lili nodded reluctantly.
Next, Teacher Zhang talked to other students one by one. These students all had similar family situations, but after Teacher Zhang’s heartfelt conversation, they all readily accepted the advice and agreed to apply for scholarships.
Teacher Zhang was relieved.
Half a month later, the stipend was transferred to the student’s bank card as scheduled.
One day, Teacher Zhang went to the office to work and suddenly found a letter in the drawer, written by a student:
Teacher Zhang:
Hello! Thank you for caring about us like a big brother! We know that you come from the countryside, and your family has been digging in the soil for generations. You still rent a small house of more than ten square meters, and your monthly salary is only more than 3,000 yuan. Seriously, it’s not easy to live in this big city with your salary level! Just buying a house is impossible for less than 1 million, and getting married can cost 20,000 to 300,000 yuan. According to your current salary level, it will take you more than 30 years to save up without eating or drinking. Alas, teacher, you are too difficult!
That day, we copied your bank card number from your payslip posted by the school. After discussion among the nine of us students, we decided to take out the bursary issued to us and transfer it to your bank card. We believe that you are the one who needs support the most!
Brother Zhang, I will love you forever! (The following are the signatures of nine students.)
After reading, tears suddenly filled Zhang Mandun's eyes. We are well aware of our teacher's difficulties, so we discussed using this method to help him! You can also refer to our method. I also hope that your teachers can get through the difficulties with your help.