In recent days, the "Jiang Ge case" has been aroused. Although it has been a year since the incident occurred, Jiang Ge's mother organized a petition to sign the incident, and the incident has returned to the public eye. Immediately afterwards, there was another interview report from "The Situation", which made the public angry at Liu Xin's insincerity in the interview.

I have said before that this is not an accident between strangers, so "everything needs to be seen in two" and "everything has a reason." Is Liu Xin really heinous? Of course not. After all, there are many such people around us. I think this incident was a homicide, which amplified the less glorious "selfish" character.

I saw an article to describe Liu Xin, and she used the word "cunning". The word "cunning" means cunning, cunning, and smooth. Most of the time it is a derogatory word. In addition, it also means clever.

In the "Situation" report, there were two things about Liu Xin's interview that impressed me deeply:

1. The reporter asked, why didn't you go to the funeral?

Liu Xin initially said that the police would not let her in. After questioning, she said that she could actually go in, but when she saw many media at the scene, she did not want to be photographed by them, so she asked the police to let the media in. leave.

When the police said that they did not have this right, Liu Xin showed an attitude of "I don't care." As a result, it was impossible to chase away the media, and she did not appear. Some people say that she always lies, and then uses lies one after another to cover up the lies. I think she is a subconscious evasion behavior. The original purpose is just to protect herself, but she does not realize that this protection is based on hurting others. . It is this lack of responsibility and looking for excuses at every turn that is the most objectionable thing to the public.

2. The reporter asked, if Liu Xin did not dare to face the victim’s family afterwards, why did her parents not make a condolence call?

Liu Xin himself probably didn’t know much about it. At first, he said that his father had been there twice, but there was no one at home. As for why there was no call, Liu Xin’s father said off-screen because we didn’t save her phone number. This kind of subconscious escape and excuse-making is really not innate.

When I was in elementary school, there were two girls in my class who had a very close relationship and were inseparable. Until one day, one of the girls yelled: "I'm not your maid!" At this point, the two broke up.

Later, this roaring girl and I gradually became familiar with each other because we went to school together. Let’s call her A and her former friend B. Their two families live very close to each other, and their parents both work in the same unit. B has been in poor health since she was a child and often cannot come to school. A will often go to her house to deliver homework to her and tell her interesting things about school.

A said that B’s parents are very good people and often ask her to help take care of their daughter at school. A himself also feels that friends should help each other, and because of his Happy to be able to help B. Later, things changed a bit. For example, when A was in good health, she asked B to help her with her homework. She also asked B to help her pick up a water bottle or other things on the way to and from school. The falling out was a long-standing grievance.

Last time, B asked A to help her with duty, saying that she was not in good health and the dust was too great. A was not feeling well that day, so he refused, and B complained that A was too stingy for not helping her with such a small favor. It was a shame for him to say good things about her in front of A's parents every day. When A said this, she felt aggrieved. Sometimes I also felt that I was being too petty. After all, she was in poor health.

In the eyes of adults, A is a good child who cares about his classmates, but B takes this as a matter of course; B is arrogant and domineering in front of A, but in the eyes of adults, he is Lin Daiyu, who is weak and has a sweet mouth.

Of course, looking back now, I was still a child at that time and had no ability to distinguish. But if B is always under the care of her parents, and A does not choose to resist but continues to be her protector, and grows up in such an environment, might she become someone like Liu Xin? Because she has a very natural reason: I am not in good health, and the whole world should take care of me.

First of all, let me explain that the following conclusion is not to criticize their own problems, but only hopes to make us think.

Speaking of Jiang Ge, she had some unpleasant situations when she was in the same room with Liu Xin. Instead of expressing her discomfort to Liu Xin face to face, she chose what most people would do: Understand tolerance, or tolerance. This can be regarded as a traditional virtue, but after repaying evil with kindness, there is another sentence: why repay kindness with kindness. Friends cannot be frank and dare not refuse. I think this is not the correct way for friends to get along with each other. If you don't say it, people will think you don't mind, or they don't realize what your mistake is at all.

Jiang Ge's other character - the pride of a manly man - should also be the result of his mother's influence.

When Jiang Ge was more than 1 year old, his parents divorced and his mother raised him alone. His father never appeared in their lives again. From the interview, we can also see the strength of this single mother.

When faced with reporters’ questions, she can refute strongly:

When the reporter asked, is there such a thing? It is possible that if Liu Xin came out at that time, both children might die? Jiang's mother replied that they might all be injured, but they would not die.

When the reporter persisted, Jiang's mother retorted: You can't use one possibility to deny all possibilities.

He showed no mercy to Liu Xin:

Liu Xin said, if you don’t dislike it, I will visit you often in the future. Jiang's mother said, I don't mind it, tell me, how often do you come here? Obviously Liu Xin didn't think too much and said he didn't know. No matter how much Jiang's mother hates Liu Xin, I think it's reasonable that she will never forgive her. But in the face of such great grief, she can still ask questions that seem calm and rational, which is enough to see Jiang's mother's strength. .

In the interview, Liu Xin also said that no matter what I say or do now, it is wrong. No matter what state of mind she was in when she said this, it was an indisputable fact in front of Jiang's mother.

I think Jiang Ge has a mother-like personality. From her WeChat messages with Liu Xin, we can see her disdain and disgust for Liu Xin’s ex-boyfriend.

Liu Xin recalled that Jiang Ge asked in a loud voice outside: "How do you know my home address? Please leave my home immediately." Both the tone and the content of what he said were , this is a way of coping that leaves no room for the other party at all:

A person who has followed them all the way, a person who has a gloomy face and talked about it all the way behind, in this kind of situation Always treating such a person with a stubborn, unwilling to admit defeat, and perhaps contemptuous attitude, one can imagine what kind of situation she has put herself in.

Of course we should be united and friendly, and hate evil as much as hatred, but in society and dealing with others, we must first learn to protect ourselves. Jiang Ge also thought about calling the police, but did not do so because of Liu Xin's insistence. The reason why you can't call the police is more important, or is it more important to avoid threats and stalking. Friendship comes first and cannot be placed above your own life. You should make your own judgment.

Finally, I would like to express my opinion: No matter what, don’t push a person to a desperate situation easily, including how we treat Liu Xin, this "cunning" girl.