Does your child have poor self-discipline in learning? After understanding what pain points, children will be better in the future? 1. Looking for high attention from parents
Cousin’s child Junyu is in the first grade of elementary school this year. One Sunday, I went over to my cousin's house for a visit. After lunch, my cousin went into the kitchen to tidy up, and I saw Junyu doing his homework. Since I don't have much time to see Junyu, under my supervision, Junyu wrote his homework very efficiently and quickly. He finished two exam papers in twenty minutes.
After my cousin finished cleaning up, she changed my current position and supervised the children's homework. But then I finally discovered a problem. Junyu hadn't written for a few minutes before he began to take his time and asked his mother if they were a couple. Then he gradually rambled on and wrote an elementary school arithmetic problem in a minute or two. After recording the entire exam paper, almost an hour passed. The mother is the closest person to the child and the person the child relies on the most. Junyu figured out his cousin's personality. When doing homework, he wanted to get his mother's attention, so he put off doing homework. The cousin's excessive "care" makes the child distracted and has excuses. Following the child's thinking, the efficiency will become lower and lower. 2. Find your own rights
Taking the same thing as my cousin Jia Junyu, if I work hard to complete the weekend work, it will last less than two hours. In order to allow Junyu to finish his work more efficiently, the cousin is thinking about concentrating the time and letting the child finish writing immediately, so that he can rest as soon as possible. But every time after finishing a subject, when his cousin checked and signed the homework for Junyu, Junyu would run aside, turn on the TV, and watch cartoons with great interest.
The emergence of such problems shows that Junyu is gradually pursuing power. In his mind, the work does not need to be written all at once, but can be written in multiple time frames. But under the pressure of my mother, I had no right to speak, so I used this method to express my opinions. But everyone also knows that when children grow up, they have poor ability to face temptations. This error expresses the need for rights incorrectly. Instead, it will make the children procrastinate more and more, and their self-control ability will become worse every day. .