2. Adapt yourself to the environment, because the environment will never adapt to you. Even if it is a very, very painful process.
3. Be generous. If you are not generous, learn to be generous. If generosity really hurts you, pretend to be generous
4. Low-key, low-key, low-key (lower-key than temporary workers, maybe you are not as good as temporary workers who have worked for several years in the eyes of others).
Be sweet, don't be stingy with your cheers. (will praise people. A good compliment will make people feel very happy, but don't go too far to disgust them. )
6. If you think the work is progressing smoothly recently, you should be careful.
7. Be polite. Look each other in the eye when you say hello. When communicating with older people, you should call them elders, because you are the real junior.
8. Talk less and do more. If you talk too much, you lose. Too many people, too few words.
9. Don't take others' kindness for granted, but be grateful.
10. Hands are high and eyes are low.
1 1. Be punctual, but don't expect others to be punctual.
12. Keep your promise, but don't make it easily. Don't always keep others' promises to you in mind and believe them.
13. Don't borrow money from colleagues. If so, be sure to return it on time.
14. Don't lend money to your colleagues. Give it to him if necessary.
15. Don't pass the buck (even if it's someone else's. Will eating once in a while kill you? )。
16. Don't speak ill of another colleague behind his back. Insist on saying nice things about others behind their backs, and don't worry that these nice things won't reach the ears of the parties. If someone speaks ill of someone in front of you, smile.
17. Avoid openly opposing colleagues (including publicly raising objections, which is even more undesirable).
18. Always help others, but don't let the people who are helped take it for granted.
19. Telling the truth will bring you great misfortune.
20. Do things right, not people; Or be ruthless about things and have feelings for people; Or do first and do second.
2 1. Always check whether you are conceited, proud and look down on others. Even if you are talented, it's no use without the cooperation and help of others.
22. Patience is a compulsory course in life. Be patient with life, some people will fail this course until they die.
23. When you are new to a place, don't rush into any circle. Long enough, your circle will automatically accept you.
24. Have a normal heart. No big deal. Think bad of good things, and think good of bad things.
25. Try not to have an office romance. If it is unavoidable, avoid any form of physical contact, including eye contact, in the office. If you or your partner get married, congratulations, brother. You, die, decide, decide! )
26. You can kiss up (this is one of the important ways to communicate with your immediate supervisor), but be careful not to get your hands dirty. Never lick your ass with your tongue.
27. Qualifications are very important. Don't play tricks with the old guys, or you will die an ugly death.
28. Good intentions sometimes don't lead to good results, but you shouldn't be discouraged.
29. Maintain respect and tolerance.
30. If you lead a team, when summing up your work, you should take all the mistakes on yourself and all the credit on your subordinates. Remember to praise subordinates in time when the boss and subordinates are present at the same time. When criticizing people, it must be done only by the two of you.
Don't copy mechanically, be flexible, it really makes sense!
The art of getting along with colleagues
Even if I don't work overtime, I spend eight hours a day with a group of colleagues, and then problems arise: family, friendship, and love with lovers, but the relationship with colleagues is very complicated. How to deal with this relationship, here are some tips for you:
1, the first step in getting along with colleagues is equality. No matter you are a first-class veteran of vocational high school or a recent novice, you must absolutely abandon the unequal relationship. Arrogance or inferiority is a taboo for colleagues to get along with.
A harmonious relationship with colleagues is beneficial to your work. You might as well regard your colleagues as partners at work and friends in life. Never keep a straight face in the office, which will make people think that you are conceited and disdainful of getting along with everyone.
Faced with the same job, especially the issue of promotion and salary increase, the relationship between colleagues will become particularly fragile. At this point, you should put aside your distractions, concentrate on your work, and don't play tricks, but never give up the opportunity to compete fairly with your colleagues.
When you are struggling to get along with your boss and colleagues, I don't know that your boss or colleagues may be anxious about it. Learn to be sincere when you get along. When you encounter a problem, you should first put yourself in the other person's shoes, so that disputes can often be annihilated in the cradle.
5. There must be gentlemen and villains in the world, so what we call sincerity does not mean to tell the whole story without reservation. Especially for colleagues who don't know each other very well, it's best to have some reservations and don't tell each other all your private lives.
Finally, I want to remind you that the highest level of getting along with colleagues is to always treat others as good people, but always remember that not everyone can be good people.
The key to the relationship with colleagues:
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Whether a good colleague relationship can be established is the touchstone to test employees' character.
Although we can't say that a person with good character must have good popularity, what is certain is that a person with low moral quality and poor character will never have good popularity. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. A normal person, who wants to associate with people with low character? Therefore, personality is the decisive factor in determining popularity, and of course you should also master some communication arts.
First of all, we must establish an idea: harmony is more important.
In China's philosophy of life, the golden mean is regarded as a classic, and its essence is to attach importance to harmony. Colleagues, as your working partners, will inevitably have conflicts of interest or other problems. When dealing with these contradictions, the first solution you think of should be reconciliation. After all, under the same roof, if you look up and don't see it, if you let anyone ruin your mood, you may suffer in the future, not others. Living in harmony with colleagues, in the eyes of your boss, your weight will rise to a higher level, because the harmonious handling of interpersonal relationships is not only the need of survival, but also the need of work and life.
It is easy to get along with colleagues. Harmonious colleague relationship makes your work and life with colleagues around you simpler and more efficient.
If you want to have a harmonious colleague relationship, you must also remember one sentence: "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".
Everyone works in the same company, and personal friendship is definitely very different. There is a natural relationship between distance and closeness. The key to the problem is how to deal with this "far and near" relationship.
We can recall who we tend to have an opinion about. In fact, we have no objection to who is closely related to whom and who is alienated from whom, because for ourselves, there are also close people and relatively ordinary people. We don't even have any complaints about colleagues giving excuses to their friends for making mistakes, because no one has many good brothers and sisters to hide when something happens. However, when we found that this relationship between distance and distance began to expand because of the same interests, and even there was intrigue and rivalry, we began to frown.
This situation is a taboo within an excellent team, and it can even be said that it is the beginning of the disintegration and differentiation of a team, and the result is the paralysis of the whole team.
In order to avoid this situation, what we have to do is to control the close relationship with our colleagues. We should think that no matter whether your relationship with colleagues is close or distant, it is your personal relationship, and this relationship goes beyond work and should not have any influence on your work.
Although the reason is simple, the feelings between people are not as easy to control as described in the text. Although you know clearly in your heart, "I can never bring personal relationships to work." But more often, many behaviors are natural expressions of personal likes and dislikes, and you don't even feel it yourself. So, what should we do in this case? Is to control the degree of closeness, the best way is "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".
The formation and maintenance of good friends require conditions. To be more specific, it is very important to be good friends, but there is another point, that is, there can be no obvious conflict of interest between two people. It is difficult for two people with obvious conflict of interests and obvious or hidden competition of interests to become good friends. Even two people who have become good friends, in the face of obvious conflicts of interest and competition, often make their feelings deadlocked. Because human nature is selfish, no one can escape.
Because of this, in the company, it is best to have a friendship between gentlemen as light as water. Because the company is an occasion full of obvious competition and conflicts of interest, there are too many factors that affect and interfere with the relationship between people. Contradictions and cracks are too easy to appear between good friends, and these contradictions and cracks are basically inevitable, even if people have the best subjective hope.
Secondly, we must learn to respect our colleagues.
In interpersonal communication, your attitude towards others often determines the attitude of others towards yourself. Therefore, if you want to gain the goodwill and respect of others, you must first respect others.
Research shows that everyone has a strong desire for friendship and respect. Therefore, saving face is really a big * * * of people. At work, if you are not careful, you may inadvertently say something embarrassing to your colleagues. On the surface, he may just feel guilty on the surface, but his heart may have been seriously bruised. In the future, the other person may refuse to associate with you because of his injured self-esteem.
A philosopher once asked the question: Who is putting on airs, the general or the gatekeeper? The answer is the doorman. Because the general has abundant capital, he doesn't need shelf support. The same is true in real life. People with advantages are often generous, with enough self-esteem and face, and there is no need for others to add them.
People who are in your class or even worse than you in some aspects are likely to show strong self-esteem because of their inferiority complex. His little face needs your careful care. If you can communicate with people in an equal manner, they will feel respected and have a good impression on you. So, remember, there is no friendship without respect.
To respect colleagues, we should consciously keep their secrets.
How to deal with the contradiction between colleagues? Analyze the causes of contradictions. If it is caused by misunderstanding, wait for the other party to calm down and try to communicate and solve it. If the other party deliberately targets too difficult to solve, there is no need to do more useless work On weekdays, talk about work, not personal feelings.
In our life, we have to experience many people, many things and many things in order to grow better.
This is a test of your stage, and the problems of colleagues actually come down to your own mentality.
When you see a colleague you don't like very much, you must remember to do superficial work. Although it may be hypocritical, we should also have certain interpersonal relationships in the depths of society.
Some things don't have to be solved by words, but by actions. For example, invite you to dinner, go out to play together, and want to convey your meaning to each other, plus your sincere words, is it a contradiction or a contradiction?
People are not vegetation, people are not sages to err.
How should you handle the contradiction between customers and colleagues? Try to reconcile them with your wisdom.
How to deal with the contradiction between colleagues? First, be sincere, no matter right or wrong, find an opportunity to admit that the practice is improper and give the other party a step to speak. Second, lend a helping hand when the other person needs help, leaving a good impression on him invisibly. Third, learn to share your own things.
In the company, it is best to have a friendship between gentlemen as light as water. Because the company is an occasion full of obvious competition and conflicts of interest, there are too many factors that affect and interfere with the relationship between people. Contradictions and cracks are too easy to appear between good friends, and these contradictions and cracks are basically inevitable, even if people have the best subjective hope.
How to deal with the contradiction between colleagues in the interview? If it is personal, it is not recommended to attend because you don't know the specific situation behind it.
If it is a job, it is almost that one party has moved the interests of the other party, but the person who has the right to deal with colleagues is not you, but your leader, so you can tell your leader what happened, let your leader reprimand those who have contradictions, let the leader order those who have moved the interests of colleagues to make compensation, and let the leader do ideological work on both sides!
You just need to remain neutral, report to the leader and praise the leader!
When you have a problem with your colleagues? How did you handle it? Since we know each other, we know each other by fate, no matter what fate. We meet at the origin, but the fate has come to an end. There is no need to care about so many acquaintances. As long as the other party is not unreasonable and does not hurt others, they can still be ordinary friends. After all, it is because of fate, because of personality and style, that we get together. Therefore, there will always be friction between people. It's hard to be indifferent (at least for some people), but at least on the surface, we should try our best to achieve peace. After all, there is no deep hatred. Take it easy. This is not an adult style. If you gradually find that the other person is less annoying in the future, you can make further friends. If it's still so difficult, try to avoid contact and make do with it.
There will be conflicts between colleagues. As a manager, how to deal with them and turn them into wisdom?
No one likes conflict, but there is conflict where there are people. It is worth noting that conflict is not a bad thing, it can expose the problems existing in the organization, promote the open discussion of problems, enhance the vitality of enterprises, and promote healthy competition. In a sense, conflict is an important source of enterprise innovation. Confucius said: gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are the same but not harmonious; Meng Ziyun: If the country is invincible, the country will die. Conflict is only a by-product of development, change or innovation. In an enterprise, if two people always agree, then one of them is definitely unnecessary. Conflict is not terrible, the key is how to effectively resolve it. There are always more solutions than problems, and there is a perfect solution to any conflict. When contradictions arise, how to turn * * * into victory and hostility into friendship The key is the treatment based on position (right and wrong) or interest (gain and loss), that is, the issue of competition or * * * victory or defeat. If we want to compete, it will lead to an escalation of the conflict. Conflict resolution based on interests forces people to move towards a win-win strategy, that is, what I need, what he needs, and how to achieve hello, me, and everyone. This requires sincerity, empathy, moderate persistence, and attention to properly handle your negative emotions. In terms of handling methods, we should be calm, fair and just, and fully listen to the opinions of both sides. When dealing with it, we should establish consistent goals and have strict rules and regulations. Technically, we should understand the truth, exchange the positions of both sides, create a relaxed atmosphere, and pay attention to the wonderful use of cooling. Finally, we should give both sides a step down. Don't be overly rational, turn a blind eye to negative emotions, and think that dealing with contradictions is not right for people; We can't even think that dealing with contradictions is the responsibility of one party, and only the other party needs to change; You can't wait for the other party to act first to show your kindness. In terms of specific strategies, Jiang Xiaohua, the chief consultant of Hualue Consulting, provided nine methods for reference: (1) Making a big pie: How do both sides get what they want? Is there a shortage of resources? How to expand key resources? Creatively expand the original conflict resources and generate more resources. (2) Rolling wood method: What are my big and small problems? What are the main and secondary problems of both sides? Is my important question a secondary question on the other side? Is the other person's important question secondary to me? Do the two sides tie the divisible issues together? (3) Trading Law: What are the aims and values of the other party? How can I meet each other's goals and values? (4) Cost reduction: What risks and costs have my proposal caused to the other party? How to reduce risks and costs? Think about the other side in the conflict and how to let the other side win. (5) Target upgrade: In the case of conflict, it is impossible to achieve a new high-level goal without the cooperative efforts of both parties to the conflict. (6) Bridging method: Think about what concerns the other party's proposal is trying to solve. What problem do I want to solve in my proposal? Among these concerns, what are the priorities of both sides? How can we meet the priorities of both parties? In short, we should seek common ground while reserving differences in the conflict and build a "bridge". (7) Negotiation Law: The two sides elect negotiators and set the target bottom line and expectation upper limit. What should I include in the agreement? Looking for steps for each other. At the same time, both sides should understand that there is no win-win negotiation in the world, so take a step back. (8) Mediation Law: Mediators should clearly explain the reasons and purposes of mediation, play the role of a bridge in their own position, create an atmosphere of mutual trust, and ease the conflict scene. When mediating, guide both parties to find a solution, and it is not appropriate to propose a solution on their own initiative. The main points of both sides' speeches should be recorded and finally confirmed by the other side; If the mediation is successful, the contents of the mediation plan should be printed out, distributed to both parties and signed. (9) Authoritative law: This is generally applicable in case of emergency. When the two parties to the conflict can't solve it through consultation, the higher authorities can make a ruling and force the two parties to the conflict to implement the decisions or orders of the higher authorities according to the organizational principle of "subordinates obey superiors". In a word, conflict management is a knowledge that both enterprise managers and family members must master, otherwise the organization will suffer internal friction and the family will suffer.
How to deal with work conflicts between colleagues? Most of the contradictions in work are related to interests.
suggestion
1 Clear responsibilities.
2 Leave records through data backup.
Don't put too much energy into infighting when presenting the results regularly.