"I have a problem with this dress? Why was I kindly reminded when I went out today, saying that I should pay attention to dressing up. "
I opened the photo and saw him in work clothes.
I asked, "What are you doing out? Go to work or ... "
"I went to the street to eat, and the cold noodles in the restaurant didn't give me bean sprouts, so I poured some oil on the pepper."
"No, eating in overalls is discrimination?"
"Otherwise, why do people have bean sprouts in their bowls and I don't?" The old friend joked in a self-deprecating tone.
"I may have forgotten."
Regardless of whether restaurant owners judge a book by its cover, let's discuss it-is it a problem to go out dressed like this? Why do we need to pay attention to appearance and dress?
Most people agree with this view about dress: dressing straight is a respect for yourself and others.
We all received the same education from childhood. It doesn't matter if the clothes are old, as long as they are warm and clean. Our generation grew up in an era of material scarcity, and such education also conforms to the background of the times. In this educational background, when we were young after 60, we didn't have much pursuit of dress, let alone chasing famous brands and wearing them. Just a little fashion.
When we got married, our generation usually had many brothers and sisters, and our parents could not provide us with much financial support. At that time, the wage level was relatively low, and it seemed impossible to eat and wear well. It is also irrational to balance family income and expenditure and want to spend more money on dressing.
When children finish college and start working, they want to help them buy a house and pay their mortgage, and try their best to help small families live stably. Although wages have risen, I feel that the economic pressure has not eased. With the development of economy and the improvement of people's living standards, the proportion of clothing expenditure in all kinds of living expenses has been very small, so it is easy to put on glamorous clothes. But I found it difficult to change the dress concept formed over the years. Just like my old friend, he casually put on a dress and went to eat in the street.
People who pay attention to clothes think that appearance is a business card we show others. If you want to make a good impression on others, you should pay attention to your clothes.
It is also said that appearance can't explain anything. If you have a noble soul, even clothes can make people respect you. We often hear such a saying: "There is a dirty soul hidden under gorgeous clothes".
In western society, banquets and funerals have different dress codes, so it is necessary to dress appropriately on different occasions to conform to the etiquette norms.
But you must have heard that Jobs always wears a black pullover, jeans and sneakers. This style of dressing has become his symbol. Bill, the richest man in the world? Gates' signature collocation is also a shirt and a V-neck sweater. Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, wore a gray T-shirt and jeans. And our father, Ma Yun, seems to like solid color sweaters and small stand-up shirts. These people are extremely rich, but in our opinion, their clothes are minimalist.
What I want to ask is, are our appearance and clothes really more important than we think?
Of course it matters. Haven't you heard of those thousands of courses that teach people how to dress? What job-hunting dressing series courses, how to dress for blind date to improve the success rate, how to dress for women (men) in the workplace to enhance their influence and so on. All kinds of dressing courses are dizzying. It seems that not dressing up will really affect our work and happiness.
Some girls even said that I would rather not go out without dressing up. Dressing here refers to both exquisite makeup and decent dressing. Clothing is another business card for women. Exquisite women are like exquisite porcelain, and clothing is like the exquisite base of porcelain. Without its foil, no matter how delicate the object is, it loses a little charm.
I wonder if most women, like me, admire the dress style of Queen Elizabeth II. Her dress style has been imitated by many people. Bright colors, hats with different styles and iconic handbags show the elegance of the queen.
People who came from the sixties and seventies must remember the uniform color of that era-blue or gray, and even women's wear was almost the same color. I remember having a corduroy coat with red flowers when I was a child, which was a very happy thing.
Different times, different countries, different occupations and different aesthetic perspectives make each of us have our own dress concept. After all, food, clothing, housing and transportation are the first. It can be seen that dress is still an important thing for us. So what role should we pay attention to when we pay attention to dress?
The most important thing about clothing is its natural function, which prevents us from being naked and being the second skin of human beings.
The second function of clothing is social function, which helps us to contact with the outside world and is a bridge connecting our private and inner world with the external and public world.
What about the decoding function of the dress?
Recently, I learned a new vocabulary-instantaneous decoding-in Wu Bofan's cognitive methodology class.
The basic characteristics of instantaneous decoding are:
Instantly release the cognitive advantage and let the other side's defense identification system collapse instantly. At the same time, by making something that conforms to your secret cognition, let the other party suddenly have a sense of familiarity, completely undefended or even embraced, and instantly realize the cognitive advantage.
What are you talking about in such a passage? In fact, a simple example can understand. For example, we often teach children to ask the police uncle for help in time when they are in danger. At the moment of danger, children will instantly start the cognitive decoding function, and when they see someone wearing a police uniform, they will immediately send a distress signal to the police. In this case, the dress plays the role of instantaneous decoding.
In fact, all industries that need uniforms during working hours have this instant decoding function. We can find the bank staff around us instantly through the decoding function of clothes in the busy bank lobby.
Of course, everyone's cognitive ability is different, and the ability to instantly decode clothes is also different. Detective, hotel lobby foreman, criminal police, etc. Because of their professional habits, they are better at decoding clothes than ordinary people. Experienced detectives, such as Sherlock Holmes, have better cognitive ability to decode by clothes than ordinary people.
This ability to instantly decode cognition through clothing can also be divided into application scenarios. When we meet for the first time, this cognitive ability can provide us with a lot of information, which is what we often call the ability to judge a book by its cover. People in the service industry who often have to deal with strangers are better at decoding cognition with clothes than ordinary people. For example, in the short story told at the beginning of the article, my old friend just ignored the role of clothes, which was ignored by the hotel owner who often used clothes to decode cognition.
This social function of clothing can also be regarded as the social function of clothing. When we associate with strangers, choosing the right clothes will help to shorten the distance between them, make them accept themselves easily and reduce the cost of communication.
Why should we pay attention to dress? I think it is to achieve the best social effect with the lowest cognitive cost. Use the instant decoding function of clothes to create a smooth and comfortable communication scene and realize close cooperation between people at the lowest social cost.
Dress appropriately, commensurate with your economic and social status. This can reduce the cognitive cost, so that people who meet for the first time can judge our economic situation, preferences, personality characteristics and so on through clothing, without introducing themselves in too many languages. Perhaps your well-prepared self-introduction is not as informative as your clothes, just as the Queen of England can convey her cheerful and enthusiastic personality through her clothes.
Proper dress can avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and cognitive obstacles.
In ancient times, the emperor's traveling incognito was to use this function of clothing in reverse, hiding the true identity of the emperor and achieving the purpose of observing people's feelings. Dressing appropriately is the most suitable dress principle for us ordinary people. If you have a certain social prestige, you don't have to use this principle to restrain yourself. Like Jobs, you can appear in public view in a casual and comfortable black T-shirt and jeans.