Note: I am not annoyed that I have knowledge and morality, and others don't know or understand. (I) am also a person with high moral cultivation!

Experience: I think there should be another explanation, that is, others have little knowledge, lack of self-cultivation, or are slow to respond. I am not angry with such people, but I should guide them patiently, learn from each other and improve together when guiding others.

He is also filial, but people who are easy to make mistakes are rare.

Note: A person who is filial to his parents and respects his brother will not offend his elders and superiors.

Experience: Indeed, filial piety should be the first, learning should be the second, having both ability and political integrity, and virtue should be the first.

A man without friends is worse than himself.

Note: Don't make friends with people who are worse than yourself in all aspects.

Experience: Incomplete understanding or recognition of (the original text or translation). If you don't make friends with people worse than you, who will make friends with you? ! Everyone has strengths, even a little, and it is correct to learn from each other's strengths. Of course, making friends can't be bad-there must be a bottom line, such as not making friends if you are not filial; Not too much-if you don't have enough energy, you won't make friends if you have too much. You can only make acquaintances and get to know each other. In ancient times, careless friends were fatal to genocide. The Three Kingdoms section in Zi Tong Zhi Jian mentioned a lot, and it will be added in the future.

Don't suffer from people who don't know themselves or others.

Note: Don't worry that others don't understand you, but worry that you don't understand others.

Experience: indeed, first, we should try our best to understand and tolerate others, because everyone was born and raised in different environments, so it is normal for cultural differences such as behavior patterns to exist; Second, don't always think about other people's problems and mistakes, but think about whether you are doing well or not. If you do well, others will naturally see, know and feel, and others will naturally try their best to do well.

Original: …, forty without confusion, …

Note: …, at the age of forty, I have understood all kinds of things without being confused, …

Experience: Indeed, so is my goal. Prepare to spend a few years studying all the books on history and traditional culture; Communicate more; Think more.

Say what you say first, and then follow.

Note: Zi Gong asked how to become a gentleman, and Confucius said, "Only by fulfilling what you have to say first, then you can become a gentleman."

Experience: That makes sense. I should do this.

Gentleness, then a gentleman.

Note: Only the proper combination of texture and literary talent can make a gentleman.

Experience: the content and form of the article are very important, the content is the foundation, the form is the appearance, and the collocation is more attractive; Doing things, direction and method are all important. Wrong direction is a big mistake, and wrong method is a small mistake. Being a person, thinking and external dressing are all important.

They who love it are better than those who know it， and they who delight in it are better than those who love it.

Note: People who know a certain knowledge can't compare with those who love it, and those who love it can't compare with those who study it to produce happiness.

Experience: very reasonable, my own personal practice has fully proved this point: English and computer skills are average, but I have been engaged in information work for ten years with little effect;

? Although I come from an engineering background, recently, I love and study Hongshan Culture and history, and I am crazy about it. Learn literature, visit museums, visit antique cities and stalls, write articles to explain my views, and so on. I think I will become a scholar of literature and history. Hmm. How interesting

I never think about money. I just like doing it. If I do, it will be valuable. Value will eventually be reflected in money, but value is definitely not only reflected in money. In fact, being able to do what you like is very valuable in itself. Bottom line: Don't do things for money and other people's likes, do what you like.

The knower enjoys water, and the benevolent enjoys Leshan. Those who know move, those who are good are quiet. People who know are happy, and people who are kind live long.

Note: smart people like water, often exercise and are in a good mood; Benevolent people love mountains, peace, health and longevity.

Experience: It is correct to observe the character and behavior of yourself and those around you. Generally speaking, I belong to the' knower'. Have a feeling for water, love sports, be positive and optimistic, and you will be completely happy after playing a game.

I like water, which may be related to my childhood experience. When I was in primary school, sometimes I only attended classes for half a day. During that half day, my father and I went to the nearby river to hang fish with a net bag. The river flows along the mountain at the foot of the mountain, comes out of Xing 'an Mountains and joins the Yalu River, Nenjiang River, Songhua River, Heilongjiang River and the sea. Hanging fish in the river, playing by the river and watching the sea of clouds in Shan Ye were a happy time.

Generally speaking,' the knower' emphasizes the quality of life; The benevolent values the length of life. Benevolent people make the world stable, and scholars make the world colorful!

Confucius said: I have never been ignorant that cultivation is higher than cultivation.

Note: As long as you come to see me with a small gift, I never give you instructions.

Experience: Giving gifts seems to be a tradition. Saints also like to give gifts. Saints are human beings and need to live. I don't know what Confucius would do if he gave a generous gift. Hmm. How interesting

Original text: Confucius said: "If you are not angry (1), you will not send it, and if you are not angry (not), you will not send it. If you don't take a corner (Yu) and take a triangle, it will no longer be there. "

Note: Confucius said: "I won't teach students until they want to understand and can't;" I won't inspire him until he comes up with something he can't explain clearly. Teach him one thing, but he can't infer anything else from it, so don't teach him any more. "

Experience: Related remarks, Confucius said: "People above China can also speak orally; Under China people, you can't speak orally. "The core is to teach students in accordance with their aptitude, teach students in accordance with their time, and conduct heuristic education. The key is to find out the personality, intelligence and interests of your children, students, subordinates and the objects you want to cultivate, and educate and cultivate them in a targeted manner. Unfortunately, China's feudal thoughts for thousands of years have a great influence. Feudal dynasties did not select emperors, but trained and assisted them. People all over the country grew up with the emperor. Even if the emperor is not bad, the people of the whole country are lucky, otherwise the people of the whole country will fall into endless disasters. The same is true of raising children. If other people's children learn piano, they should let their own children learn piano. The problem of raising children will be expounded again.

With whom * * *?

Confucius said, "I don't think the tiger in Feng Ping died without regret. You must be afraid of emergencies, too Good people are also. "

Note: Confucius said, "I won't be with a man who waded across the river with his bare hands, and I won't regret it when I die." What matters to me must be people who are cautious, good at planning and successful. "

Experience: reckless people who can be controlled can still be used appropriately, and frontline soldiers just need courage and execution; Planning is a matter for leaders and counselors. Great leaders mainly choose people, distinguish right from wrong and make decisions. With clear planning and firm will, with the action plan, the needed resources can be won and all the work can be carried out smoothly. Therefore, planning is fundamental. Planning needs thinking, thought and knowledge, experience, research, communication and so on. Some people are very careful, but they can't plan or plan clearly, so they are hesitant. As a result, fighters and opportunities were delayed, and they could only do what subordinates could do every day. As a result, the whole team became headless flies, diligent, busy and blind.

Confucius said, "By the age of 50, I can learn the Book of Changes, so I can avoid making big mistakes."

I want to learn Yi at the age of 50. It's so hard to understand. Hmm. How interesting

The original Confucius said, "I was not born to know, I am so ancient, and I want it."

Confucius said: "I am not born with knowledge, but I love ancient culture and am diligent and sensitive."

The reason why he became a learned man lies in his love for ancient laws and literary books, as well as his diligence and agile thinking. This is the main feature that he summed up his learning accomplishment. I want to study ancient and modern Chinese and foreign cultural classics like Confucius, like a primary school student, instead of just learning some natural science knowledge (I graduated from university in this respect). However, in the universities of life, humanities and society, I may just enter primary school now.

Confucius (55 BC1-479), more than 2,500 years ago, we thought Confucius was a standard ancient man. But there are also ancients in Confucius' eyes, including many words mentioned and quoted in The Analects of Confucius, all of which are from poems, books, rituals and changes. That is to say, people in Xia, Shang and Zhou dynasties are all ancient people in his place. In the eyes of Xia, Shang and Zhou people, Hongshan Culture and Hongshan ancestors should be the objects of their worship. In fact, thousands of years have passed, technology is changing with each passing day, technology is developing rapidly, and people's lifestyle has also undergone earth-shaking changes. So, what remains the same? Humanity!

The original Confucius said: "If you are not in your position, you will not seek its politics.

Confucius said: "If you are not in that position, you will not consider things in that position."

Understanding the comment in the book: "If you are not in your place, you will not seek your own government" means "keep your place". At the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, it played an important role in maintaining social stability and suppressing people's "criminal insurrection", but it also had some adverse effects on later generations, especially in inducing people's indifferent and polite mentality. It should be said that this is negative.

I think it's reasonable. China people like to be good citizens. As long as they can eat and don't freeze to death, they won't rise up and rebel. Reflected in the commodity society, China lacks serious consumers. It's not about eating teeth and McDonald's fries collapsing. This is true of industrial products and daily necessities. They can be used and handled, and no one is serious. Therefore, manufacturers do not want to improve product quality. In addition, China people's political consciousness is indifferent. The market economy of 20 years has attracted people's attention to the economy, with food and clothing-well-off-well-off-well-off …, destroying the environment in exchange for money, making people's culture a desert and politics even more unknown. Personally, the reason why the United States has risen and become strong is because it has a good political system.

Only attach importance to the economy, not to education; Grasping education means entering a higher school, instilling knowledge, not shaping people, and not mentioning humanities. Most of the results are knowledge machines.

If it is not in place, it will not seek its politics; In his position, he does not seek his own government, while some people do; Secondly, seeking political chaos; In the upper position, it is even more chaotic to ask for the administration of subordinates. Hmm. How interesting

Confucius said, "The knower is not confused, the benevolent is not worried, and the brave is not afraid."

Confucius said, "The wise will not be confused, confused or confused, the wise will not be sad, and the brave will not be afraid."

Experience makes sense, but I think' knowledge' is fundamental and key. Knowledge is knowledge, intelligence, wisdom, thinking, ideas, methods and so on. With these, work and life will be clear and simple. Life is doing things, and things are doing and not doing. Why are you doing this? Why not do it? Doing or not doing has its advantages and disadvantages. Not to find a harmless solution, but to analyze how to do it, the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. Doing things requires resources and opportunities, and analysis is clear. When confidence is firm, resources will come and things will be smooth and orderly. Of course, there is no need to be confused, worried or afraid.

My own work and life practice have proved this truth. For several years, I have worked hard, but the effect is not ideal, so I am confused, worried and even scared. After nearly 1-2 years of intensive study, communication and thinking, it has been much better. Before I do something now, I will fully investigate and analyze the significance, value, urgency, needs of relevant personnel, required resources, timing and so on. After I make it clear, if I want to do it, I will communicate and advance in an orderly way. For me, there is nothing difficult, only what I do and what I don't do. I decide to do it, just do it and do it. Life is a brand, an image, and needs to be managed like an enterprise.

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Generous people are straightforward and honest, and care about the people below. In bombida, you must get home.

The so-called "Da" means that he is simple and honest in nature, deeply loves morality, is good at reading each other's words, observes each other's look, and always wants to be humble. Such people can be contacted in the monarch's court and the doctor's fief.

Experience: this may be the truth of being a courtier and the truth that people who do things should abide by.

The original text is late. Confucius said, "Know people." Confucius said, "Set things right (1) can set things right."

Fan Chi asked what wisdom was, and Confucius said, "Understand people." Confucius said, "Choose the right and expel the evil, so that the evil can be corrected."

It is very important for leaders to understand people and choose people. The feudal dynasty focused on choosing ministers, but could not choose emperors. The selection was only conducted among the sons of the emperor, and most of them were not selected. It is convenient to make the eldest son a prince. As a result, the emperors in the family were not as good as the previous generation, and the last emperor could not have children.

And the election of the "emperor" of the United States-the president is supervised, and you are not allowed to work too long, which is amazing. Many ideas of China feudal dynasty were better than others: a group of mice came up with a good idea. If a bell is hung around the cat's neck, the cat will hear it once the sound comes. The mice were happy and cheered for the idea. When they were happy, they were dumbfounded when they studied how to do it. Although the American Constitution does not mention human rights and democracy, several basic political systems actually guarantee human rights and democracy.

The original Confucius said, "If you don't teach the people to fight, you will abandon them."

Confucius said, "If you don't train Shu Ren to fight first, you will give it up."

We all know that it is often the case in daily work and life that grass-roots employees start to work without adequate training, wasting a lot of time and opportunities. To make matters worse, middle and high-level leaders have actually changed from business, technology and ignorance to management and leadership because of their cronies, relationships and business experts, but they didn't realize this, and no one promoted him. They did whatever they wanted, and the result was chaos.

We should do things well, do our business well, choose the right people, and then cultivate guidance.

The original Confucius said, "Don't suffer from human ignorance, don't suffer from human ignorance."

Confucius said, "I'm not worried that others don't know me. I'm worried that I'm incompetent."

I know. That's what I thought before. When I did something, I publicized it everywhere for fear that others would not know. In fact, if you do something beneficial to' others' (colleagues, family, society, nationality, etc.). ), others will eventually know that there will definitely be a return commensurate with your pay, but the return period is long and short, and the longer the return period, the greater the income! (Think about it, hourly workers are paid by the hour, weekly workers are paid by the month, managers are paid by the year, entrepreneurs and bosses who plan for years of development, politicians and leaders who don't care about income gains and losses, such as Sun Yat-sen and Mao Zedong ...) But the benefits are not just economic benefits! Similarly, doing things that are unfavorable to' others' will also get bad returns.

Of course, if you are not a leader or a big leader in a team, there is also a problem of "a good bird chooses wood to live in, and a good minister chooses the Lord to serve". You should not only follow a leader and a wise gentleman with brains, courage, charm, etc. Let your efforts be properly rewarded, because such leaders can see your efforts. They are researchers and care about people's needs, not leaders who are busy every day.

There are many loyal courtiers in Zi Tong Zhi Jian, but they lost their lives and even destroyed their own doors. They are stupid and loyal! Why? Because her husband is unknown and doesn't talk about methods and strategies.

In a word, leaders and subordinates don't look at what you said, but at what you actually did, how and what you did. Others naturally know, just know the cycle.

People are alive, what is alive? Brand, credit! Like enterprises, only people's brands and credits follow people, and good brands and credits can withdraw money everywhere! So we should constantly build and maintain our own brand and credit, and don't store too much money.

The original Confucius said: "Those who don't bully, don't believe, and restrain their foresight are virtuous!"

Confucius said: "A saint is a person who does not doubt other people's fraud or guess others' dishonesty in advance, but can detect others' fraud and dishonesty in advance. "

Experience: I think this is a problem of management and leadership, and this should be the way to treat subordinates (people who have been recruited and screened). However, certain methods and procedures are definitely needed, and those who are responsible and enterprising basically do not need management, accounting for about 20%; Even if employees who are not suitable for working here are found and dismissed (very few are not very good, most are more suitable for other jobs or culturally incompatible), accounting for about10%; What 70% employees need is encouragement, guidance and guidance, so that they can work and make progress.

The original Confucius said, "How can I repay you? Direct complaints, good for good. "

Confucius said, "What can I repay you? It should be to complain with integrity and repay kindness. "

I realized that Confucius disagreed with the practice of "repaying evil with good" and thought it should be "repaying evil with straight". In other words, don't change your fairness and integrity by having old evils and old grievances, that is, stick to integrity. "Speaking one's mind" is extremely important for one's moral cultivation, but it is sometimes not so appropriate to use it in the political field.

I am still in favor of "good for evil", that is, to understand and tolerate those who are eccentric and those who hurt you, because if you can't understand and tolerate, you have been hurt and will continue to be hurt! We should also educate them to realize and love them. However, we should be careful not to make the relationship between farmers and snakes stiff and end up.

The original Confucius said, "If a man has no long-term worries, he must have near worries."

Confucius said, "Without long-term consideration, people must have immediate worries."

Experience is planning and planning, so is doing one thing, so is work and company management, especially life planning and career planning, which is the most important thing in a person's life. You should think early and make your life plan relatively clear at the right time, otherwise it is like a boat floating on the sea. Even if you paddle hard, it is very likely to turn around.

If there's something on your mind recently, it's probably that you didn't plan before. Plan ahead, it will work!

The original Confucius said: "It is far from resentment to lightly blame others for defeating others."

Confucius said: "blame and reflect on yourself more and blame others less, then you can avoid others' resentment." "

It is inevitable that there will be various contradictions and disputes when people get along with each other. The key is how to deal with this situation. I now realize that at any time, I should first look at myself and find out what I have done badly and improved, such as the way, method and timing of speaking, and whether my words and deeds are correct. In the final analysis, we should cultivate ourselves and repair ourselves, and everything will be fine.

When others see you cultivate yourself, they always seek to improve themselves, and so will others. Everyone will look at themselves and be harmonious.

Some people will say, I did a good job, but others still don't cooperate and don't understand. In fact, it's not up to you to decide whether you are doing well or not. You should be judged by others and speak with facts. Harmony means that you really do well.

Of course, if you meet someone who is not polite, you can only stay away for a while; But whether a person is polite or not is not decided by one person, but by everyone.

The original Confucius said: "A gentleman does not attract people with words, nor does he abolish them with people."

Confucius said, "A gentleman doesn't recommend people by words, nor does he choose to speak well."

Experience that people who speak well may not be good to you, but people who always say things that make you happy are basically bad to you; People who say bad things are not necessarily bad for you, but people who always say bad things are definitely not top grade.

In the end, we should observe what they say and do, and see the essence through the phenomenon.