Life insights: Your efforts will never be disappointed

Words are like elves, as long as you use them well, they will produce unexpected effects. So whether we speak or write, we must use words well. As long as you can use it accurately and flexibly, it will make your language full of vitality and brilliance. Below, I will share with you my life insights: Your efforts will never be let down. I hope it will be helpful to everyone!

When I was young, I didn’t have much experience. I was often like a hedgehog, constantly poking and hurting others, and using the worst weapons to draw a safety line for myself.

Not only that, but I often cast a disdainful look at those people who are sophisticated and know how to advance and retreat. I always feel that the word sophistication should be farther away from my unworldly self. Later, I read Xu Xiao's "Half Life", which contains this sentence - knowing the world but not being worldly is the kindest maturity. Suddenly, I like Xue Baochai more. She is worldly but never hurts others. She handles everything properly. Although she protects herself, she never hurts others. On the contrary, Lin Daiyu, whom I liked more when I was a child, makes me feel disgusted. She would rather spend her time. I didn't want to please others when I went to the funeral, but in the end, I hurt myself and hurt others!

Later when I started working, I started to complain about the unfairness of my boss. Whether it was a salary increase or a promotion, it was all about myself. A matter of great interest. We often compare ourselves and others; compare efforts and gains; compare fairness and unfairness. But people are often self-interested. Once they start from their own perspective, they always feel that there are too many things that are unfair to them, and the rewards are far from being enough to satisfy their efforts.

My cousin comes from an ordinary family. Although my uncles and aunts are ordinary workers, they tried their best to train my cousin - they signed her up for piano classes, Go classes and Calligraphy class. My cousin is very talented and has been an outstanding talent all along the way - she was admitted early to junior high school, and she was exempted from attending our best high school when she was promoted to high school. My cousin has everything going smoothly, and she is what all parents call "other people's children." I have felt that there is a halo surrounding my cousin since I was a child, and I seem to always live in the shadow of that halo.

We all thought that my cousin would definitely get into a prestigious school and move towards a more glorious future, but she failed the college entrance examination. Unexpectedly, she failed to pass even two exams. My cousin shuts herself up at home every day. I remember one day when I went to see my cousin, she asked me: "Do you know that I am a person with very clear dreams?"

I nodded in response. I have always known my cousin. Be the one who shines.

My cousin continued: "I want to be a diplomat. This has been my dream since I was a child, but now it seems like it is really a dream."

I didn't know how to comfort her. , I said: "Cousin, don't think about..."

Before I finished speaking, my cousin took my hand and trembled: "You know? Life is not born equal. Yes, the scumbag in our class is usually uneducated, but...hehe, he has a good father who is a city secretary. Do you know where he went to study? He went to study in the United States... If it were me, If I can also go to the United States to study, I will definitely contribute more to society than him in the future, right? Do you think so?" My cousin stared at me, as if she thought I was the scumbag she called me, with that look in my eyes Horrible.

I ran away that day and suddenly felt that I never knew my cousin well enough. Her face, which was always calm and calm, hid a restless and even resentful heart. From that day on, I felt that the aura on my cousin's body had disappeared, and there was no more sparkling color.

Later, my uncle used various connections to send my cousin to a first-class second-tier college. I have always wanted to ask my cousin, as a point-based admissions officer, does she still feel it is unfair?

After my cousin went to college, I once heard from my uncle that my cousin had a quarrel with her counselor. The reason was that the school was organizing a talent competition and the counselor arranged for a female representative without any selection. College goes to compete. My cousin said that her talents were not inferior to hers, and the counselor must have treated her unfairly in order to please the female classmate’s father, who was an official. When my uncle told me about this incident, I remembered how my cousin hated that scumbag. After this incident, I saw that my cousin changed her QQ signature - instead of letting others slap you and teach you to grow up, it is better to slap yourself and grow up. The process of growing up is like losing teeth, which are always empty. I think that the tutoring class will not give a reasonable explanation to the cousin, let alone replace that person and let the cousin attend. There are many unfair things in life, but ask yourself, are you really angry because of unfairness? Or are you just unwilling because you have not received such unfair favor?

My cousin is still very good. , and won various awards - national scholarship, provincial outstanding student cadre, outstanding party member... She still complained about all injustices, and still hated people with sophistication and high emotional intelligence. However, four years of college life had already transformed her original The straightforward cousin was trained to be an all-around person that she hated.

As a bystander, I prefer this all-rounded cousin, because I think she is flesh and blood. Whether true or false, her high emotional intelligence will never put others down. It also lacks the sharpness it once had.

As I grow older, the people and things I have experienced have given me countless inspirations. When we hated smooth-faced people at the beginning, it was just because we were not mature enough at that time, or maybe it was because those smooth-faced people around us lived better than you, and you could only comfort your envious heart by superficially scorning them.

My cousin later worked in a design institute directly under the Department of Transportation. Although my cousin was very capable, it was not easy to get into such a large design institute. As you can imagine, our whole family has spent a lot of effort on her work. There is no denying that such relationships with work units are indispensable. Relationships like cousins, which have many twists and turns, are simply not a relationship.

Work is no better than school. There are more unfair things in my cousin’s eyes - for example, when you occasionally evaluate an outstanding employee, your efforts are not seen by the leader; in the evaluation of year-end bonuses, what you get is far less than what you put in; The competition awards not only depend on personal standards but also take into account all aspects of fairness... This seems to challenge the limit of my cousin's tolerance. She will occasionally be irritable and not as calm as before work, and I obviously feel that my cousin is starting to get older.

Once, I was talking about my bonus with my cousin. I said that I got 10,000 less than my colleagues who came from the same class. Of course, I would be unwilling to accept it, but I still chose to communicate with the leader as soon as possible. , please ask the leader to point out my shortcomings in my work.

The cousin was indignant: "You, a little girl, travel so much and work so hard, why is your bonus so much lower than others? It's so unfair. Your department must have related accounts, right? There must be people in your department who will take credit for not doing anything well..."

My cousin kept making guesses, and different people appeared in my mind one by one - Xiao Wang in our department is the boss. My nephew’s bonus is 12,000 yuan higher than mine, but he once complained to me that he had to work for his uncle; , until I was very drunk... As I thought about it, I actually laughed out loud.

I asked my cousin: "Cousin, you entered the university based on your connections, and later entered the design institute based on your connections. Do you think others will also find it unfair? You said, others will I won’t discuss behind my back, why did you enter the university with the score of junior college, and why can you enter the design institute directly under the Department of Transportation?"

The cousin was stunned. She thought for a while and said: "In I had never considered this issue before you mentioned it. It turns out that when I was complaining about unfairness, I was actually enjoying the unfairness!"

After my cousin finished speaking, we both burst into laughter and suddenly felt relieved. Cheerful.