What are the manifestations of the couple's marriage in the end? It is said that crossing the boat for a hundred years and sleeping on the pillow for a thousand years. Husband and wife are the two closest people in the world. They form a family together, and they give birth to life together. However, the people in front also have a contradictory day. Let's share the performance of husband and wife when their marriage comes to an end.
What are the manifestations when the marriage between husband and wife comes to an end? 1 Never talk about everything, no topic.
At the beginning of the relationship, two people will talk about everything, because they want to know more about each other, know everything about each other, and make up for the time they have not participated in. But I don't know when the feelings of two people have faded, and there is nothing to say every day.
Ask each other what to eat and what clothes to wear at most, and don't talk about other topics. At this time, it shows that the relationship between two people has come to an end. Even if one party has a lot to say, the other party doesn't want to hear it. So it's best for two people to divorce and let the other go, so that both sides are less painful.
From intimacy to sleeping in separate beds
It is said that husband and wife quarrel, bedside quarrel, bed end and. Once the husband and wife sleep in separate beds, it means that they have been distracted. It's hard to imagine that if two people didn't sign a contract in the past and finally slept in separate beds, there is really no need to be together.
Xiaoyu had a very good relationship with her husband before, and both of them were bored. But after a few years, it is rare to see two people in the same box. Later, when I asked, I learned that Xiaoyu actually slept in separate beds with her husband very early. It can be said that there is no love between two people, but more for family, children, family and marriage. This kind of marriage is actually quite boring.
From sweet honey to cold violence
The two people who have just been together are always sweet, thinking of making surprises for each other in festivals and comforting each other when they are sad. But if a person doesn't love, then he is likely to commit cold violence against another person. Do you want to talk to each other or be nice to each other? The reason for this is that he is embarrassed to tell the other person his true feelings, and he is embarrassed to really give up his family and marriage.
Xiaofa always quarreled with his wife for a while before, but later his wife didn't want to quarrel with him and chose cold violence. No matter what Xiaofa told her, she didn't respond at all, and her attitude was cold and perfunctory. In this case, Xiaofa finally couldn't stand it, communicated with his wife, spared her and chose a divorce.
The three manifestations of "fate" between husband and wife, if your marriage is the same, don't stick to it! Indeed, people will be bound by many shackles when they get married, and these shackles will gradually erase the love between two people. The relationship between you has gradually changed from intimacy to the above three situations.
This means that your marriage may be in crisis. If two people are still willing to recover, and there is still the possibility of recovery, then try to negotiate with each other, communicate with each other, and pull their feelings on the right track. If there is still no chance, let the other party go!
What are the manifestations of the end of a couple's marriage? 2. What are the signs of husband and wife's fate?
1, don't like going home.
People who work all day always go home after work and look forward to having dinner with their families.
Home should be a place where people can relax completely, but some people are reluctant to go home after work.
He would rather use overtime as an excuse, or simply sit in the car, go out for dinner with his colleagues and watch a movie alone than go home too early.
The first sign of marriage change is to resist going home, which is a mentality of avoiding responsibility.
After returning to China, she became a husband (wife), a father (mother) and a son (daughter-in-law), bearing the hope of the whole family.
Pushing open the door, you may face fireworks, greasy dishes, naughty children, parents' nagging, lovers' chanting,
Some people enjoy the warmth of family, and some people become anxious in the life of a chicken feather, so they quarrel, complain, complain and hurt each other, and the relationship between husband and wife will become weaker and weaker.
If you don't learn to be more tolerant and understanding to your lover, marriage will be full of grievances and troubles.
2, long-term separation, each playing their own.
Some couples will be separated for several years before divorce, and even if they lie in the same bed, there will be no intimate contact.
The second sign of husband-wife relationship is long-term separation, which is nominally husband and wife, but it is not.
Most of them will not divorce for children, houses, property, etc. And choose to turn a blind eye to whether your lover is having an affair.
One of my readers divorced after my son graduated from college. They were married for 20 years and separated 18 years.
The relationship between husband and wife has been honed in repeated quarrels. They knew for a long time that they were not alone, but they formed a family for their children.
On the day of the divorce, she was very relaxed. She went to Dali alone and found an inn by Erhai Lake for a month.
Every day is lying in a rocking chair, basking in the sun, listening to the sound of Erhai Lake and closing your eyes.
She thought a lot this month and felt that she had wasted twenty years of her youth.
Sometimes, knowing that marriage has come to an end, it's really not worth it to run out of youth and suppress internal injuries for things outside the body and for children.
A really smart person knows how to stop loss in time in despair and quit life.
Not being bored is also a kind of love and respect for yourself.
3. Lack of effective communication
What couples are most afraid of is to stop communication and always solve problems through quarrels.
No matter how big or small the family is, both husband and wife need to sit down and discuss what to do in the future, which is also related to the fate of the small family.
A good husband and wife know how to negotiate and measure. When two people are twisted into a rope, the family will get better and better together.
However, some couples refuse to communicate, family affairs are solved separately, and wages are managed separately.
On major issues such as buying a house, decorating, sending children to school, and providing for the elderly by parents, even if we sit down and discuss, we will not give in when we encounter differences.
The next time you encounter something, the contradiction will intensify and you will not put yourself in the other's shoes.
Over time, two people stopped communicating and two hearts drifted apart.
Some people say that he loves you or not, and you can feel it without him. One look and one action will be clear at a glance.
When he stops communicating with you and you don't even know how much money he has, it means that this marriage has come to an end.
4. The long cold war
Couples who have been in the cold war for a long time are unwilling to compromise and accommodate each other. Everyone is waiting for an apology, and they value face more than their lover. No matter how deep their feelings are, it is useless.
People say that there is no overnight feud between husband and wife, and there is no right or wrong in family affairs. If you have to fight to the death over family trifles, you will lose your marriage even if you win the quarrel.
The long-term relationship between husband and wife, the long-term cold war, and the family atmosphere dropped to freezing point, which not only affected the luck of two people, but also affected the health of children and the feelings of husband and wife.
I have a friend. Couples have a cold war for a month every time they quarrel, and the home is terrible quiet.
There is no temperature at all in her house, and whenever she sees photos of laughter and laughter in her neighbor's house, she can't help but have a sour nose.
She doesn't understand. What happened when he apologized during the quarrel? As long as he is soft on her and admits his mistake, she will forgive him.
Then he had an affair and went home to ask for a divorce. He rightfully said that she was not gentle enough, and finally gave up.
It turns out that people who ignore your heartache in marriage are people who don't care about you, and they will use the cold war again and again to defeat your patience.
5, dislike each other, often quarrel.
The last sign of the end of marriage is mutual dislike and frequent quarrels. No matter what the other party does, he doesn't like it.
In front of outsiders, they will talk to each other and tell their friends about their loved ones without mercy, so that friends can judge them.
He will never see her merits, but he doesn't know that he is demeaning herself and her at the same time.
Husband and wife are comrades in arms on the same front, and infighting can only make people take advantage of it.
Those marriages with a third party are all problems of marriage itself. When you start to dislike your lover, everything she does is wrong.
Speaking of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband thinks that mother-in-law is always right and daughter-in-law is always wrong. Whether she is silent or crying, it is unreasonable.
It is the same for a wife not to like her husband. Everyone thinks she is better than her husband. Other husbands can make money, be hygienic and take care of their families, but their husbands are like a pool of mud.
What did you see when you first looked for him?
From a psychological point of view, disgust and picky are manifestations of unloving, and people begin to regret and feel cheated, which leads to the idea of divorce.
Haruki Murakami said: There are irreversible things in the world, and the passage of time is irreversible.
When the marriage comes to an end, it is better to let the other person live than to kidnap the marriage with time.
Second, the five manifestations of marriage coming to an end
1. There is no one else in each other's hearts. Stranger bedmates are just struggling to maintain because of various practical problems or because of children's stumbling blocks.
2, either two people are like friends-be polite, or two people blame each other for a trivial matter. Things between husband and wife are rare once a month, and some are perfunctory.
3. there is no longer each other in each other's hearts. I would rather think of selfish distractions than each other, which makes my face and heart not harmonious. I am either another partner who fantasizes about the future or another partner who is addicted to the future.
4, no longer inclusive. Even if your partner makes some mistakes in love, it's no big deal. But now, whenever your partner makes a mistake, you will fly into a rage. Not only do they no longer tolerate each other, but they even compete with each other. Once there is an argument, it is an endless quarrel.
I just want to take care of myself and don't care about my partner at all. Now both husband and wife or one of them just want to take care of themselves, even if their partner's body or career changes suddenly, they don't care about asking questions. For example, if his partner is sick, he will go to see it at most once, and then he will leave it alone, dead or alive.
Third, the seven manifestations of husband and wife going to the end
1, become cautious about property.
It is not excluded that some couples have a clear understanding of the distribution of property such as wages and real estate. However, if you become more and more cautious recently, you should pay attention. This is a sign of divorce.
Wang Qian was born in a well-off family, which is also a traditional family concept. He firmly believes that a family should live in harmony and help each other.
Therefore, the wedding dowry of 300,000 yuan was given to her husband without any worries, and her husband transferred their house to his parents without her knowledge. In the case of divorce, Wang Qian not only lost her wedding dowry, but also lost her real estate.
You can't have a heart that hurts people, and you can't have a heart that prevents people. If he just started thinking about money immigration and started to draw a line with you on money, he is ready to give up on you.
2, wine meets a thousand cups of friends.
In the matter of love, everyone has endless words and things to say. The topic at that time was like a clear spring, which naturally came out.
However, now everyone usually drinks a few glasses of wine, and it is often a silent embarrassment for two people to stay in the same indoor space.
Everyone opened their mouths to say nothing, some disagreed and some bickered. It's much better to shut up, brush your mobile phone with your head down and immerse yourself in the second space where you don't know each other.
3. Indifferently ignore each other
Ignoring each other, if one party does it for a long time, there will be a trend of cold violence in the family.
Korean artist Ku(hye-seon Jae hyun) accused Ahn Jae-hyun of making her feel "cold domestic violence".
Drinking outside until you pass out, going out to celebrate your birthday with people outside and not coming home. At 4 o'clock in the morning, I also took people back to the apartment where my wife and I lived.
This behavior of treating each other like air is indifference.
4. Don't respect the other parent.
Everyone's feelings are not very good, and such negative emotions have infected the mentality of the other parents.
During the Spring Festival or holidays, she (he) finds many reasons not to go home with you.
If your parents are not feeling well, they must take care of them. He won't come to help you. In their minds, they have bad feelings with you. They no longer regard you as family, and of course they will not regard your parents as relatives.
Mencius has a saying: "I am old, and people are old; Young and frivolous, and young people. " But treat other people's children as their own children and treat other people's parents as their own respect.
This moral standard may not be suitable for anyone, but it is really necessary to have this kind of benevolence in the family. When everyone's fate is coming to an end, the original benevolence and righteousness are becoming more and more narrow and extreme. Everyone has long been stingy and unwilling to work hard for each other.
5. Start telling some good friends about you.
You start complaining to your best friend about his thoughtlessness, and he starts making fun of your buddy for your hysteria.
This is a kind of polarization, people no longer communicate with each other, but just shut themselves in their own rooms. People often refuse to communicate with each other by saying "I am busy", which is equivalent to actively losing the key to communication in each other's room.
The accusation of emotional instability lacks objective elements, and reason and introspection evaporate in the rolling anger and chilling, leading to sharp expression.
And that kind of language expression will spread rapidly, and finally turn into thousands of darts and stab each other with countless skulls. Everyone's image is slowly demonized in the eyes of common friends. This is also a sign that the fate of husband and wife is over.
6. Refuse intimate physical contact
The change of psychological state has produced physical resistance, and he began to lose interest in you slowly, and even began to get bored. In the case of love, he just brushed the hair on your forehead gently, which often feels like electricity leakage.
Stranger strange bedfellows people, who were close to each other, could not touch each other across the verdant mountains, and they didn't know what they were thinking. Fate is coming to an end, and the gradient mirror for immediate family members has faded in psychological state, so these defects, which are usually ignored, are exposed.
Under the urging of time, the inner corner of the human body wrinkles upward, removing the drooping bags under the eyes, and looks depressed and extremely depressed.
Physical reactions can't fool people, refuse intimate physical contact, and get tired of your touch. This is also the main manifestation of fate.
7. It's not you you that you often talk about.
You are no longer the person he pays close attention to. In front of him, your anecdotes, wonderful things and glimpses all touched his cardiovascular system, and he often couldn't help telling others about you.
Seeing delicious food reminds me of your favorite food: my friend bought a new dress, and I remember you have one like that. You are no longer his focus, and you gradually fade away from his words.
It's fate to meet thousands of miles away, but it's no chance to meet thousands of miles away, and so is married life. In A Dream of Red Mansions, Lin Daiyu is a fairy flower in Yuen Long and a crimson pearl fairy grass on the spiritual bank of western countries. Jia Baoyu is the waiter of Shen Ying in Chixia Palace.
What are the manifestations of the marriage between husband and wife when it comes to an end? 3. Seven manifestations of husband and wife coming to the end,
1 and 1 are about to say that the other party has a new love. If one of you has a new lover, you should pay attention. Marriage has turned red.
2, regardless of each other's feelings, say whatever you want, and you will do it yourself.
3, you no longer trust each other, that person no longer trusts, and you become strangers.
The economic power has been in our own hands.
5. Ignore your existence in front of your relatives.
6, unwilling to work hard for life, that person chose decadence.
I don't want to ease the relationship with my family for you.
Two or four phenomena Marriage has come to an end.
1. When a man starts to ignore your feelings, no matter what you say or do, the other person will disagree with you.
The last thing a woman can't accept is that this man will choose to hit you when his point of view or practice is different from yours, because he has no love in his heart.
I don't want to live as a husband and wife with you anymore. How can a person who doesn't even want to touch you have that kind of marital relationship with you?
I often talk about divorce. No matter whether you have face or not, no matter how you feel, how can a person have so many worries, so he always thinks about divorce and leaves if he is willing to say divorce. I don't know what you are thinking.
Once the contradiction between husband and wife worsens, we should be vigilant and never be a person who has always accepted it. When there are contradictions in your marriage and you don't know how to resist, you will find that divorce is getting closer and closer to you, and you have no power to resist.
Couples come to an end with seven manifestations. If such a thing happens in your life, you should act immediately and never do nothing. When you want to save your marriage, you should learn to find a way. If two people live together by force, it is not good for anyone.
Because you don't have the courage to bring happiness to each other. Always hurting each other at will. If you want to adjust your marriage, you must learn to work hard and pay more attention to the other half before the marriage comes to an end, and you will find that there are not too many couples.