"Love" can heal.
This is a psychological clinic in Palo Alto, USA, near the "Central Zone" Street of Stanford University. Thomas Coates, Jane Coates, Rousic and other talented psychological consulting experts have psychoanalytic studios here. Jane Coates' counseling room is "super standard", with equipment for sand table games and a sofa bed for classic psychoanalysis. At the same time, in the most striking place, there is an ancient "box" from China.
When I asked Jane Coates a question that I have been thinking for a long time: "What is the most important healing factor in the process of psychological counseling", including "What is the most important quality of a good psychological counseling expert" or "How can psychological counseling play a healing role", Jane Coates gave me the answer: "It is love, and love can be cured."
These words came from her heart and had a far-reaching impact ... When I spoke, her eyes were moist and I was infected by her.
"Love can heal." As a psychological consultant, you should always be full of love. Love is a virtue endowed by nature to human beings. Care with your heart, there will be magical power to heal. In this sense, "kindness and love" can be regarded as the inner cultivation of psychological counseling experts.
Here, love is a kind of spirit or spirituality that can make people transcend and gain lofty. Hugo said that love is the sublimation of feelings. It shines on the earth like sunshine, giving everything the power to grow and making everything flourish. This is very close to the love answer used by Jane Coates in psychoanalysis. Nature has given us the power of love, and we should also give it divinity. This is my response to Jane Coates. With this love, you can sincerely accept and appreciate your patients and really help your patients.
It is said that the original meaning of the word "philosophy" in the west is "love wisdom". But wisdom also contains emotion, which Socrates and Plato once put into their understanding of love. When Nietzsche told us his story about Zarathustra in his "Thus says Zarathustra", he said that Zarathustra had lived in the mountains for 10 years and wanted to go down the mountain. An old man met in the forest asked him, "What are you going to do in the sleeping crowd now?" Zarathustra replied, "I love human beings." When Freud and Jung loved Nietzsche's philosophy, they probably loved his spirit of "loving mankind".
"Love" in Oracle Bone Inscriptions has similar images and meanings.
Look at the pictogram of the Chinese character "love". Above it is "Fu", below it is "An", below it is "Heart" and below it is "Friend". Honesty, care, nourishment, peace of mind and friendship are all among them, which have vivid and rich symbolic significance.
What it implies is the integrity contained in the word "Fu". Both Shuo Wen and Er Ya interpret the word "fu" as "faith". In the Book of Changes, there is a divination of "staying in the middle", and in the Biography of Miscellaneous Divinations, it is said that "staying in the middle is believing in it." Soso commented: "A bird's first egg is as good as a promise." The bird's lucky egg, half lying on its body, doesn't want to weigh the egg below it, really loves each other, and is sincere and credible; There is no doubt that the eggs laid by birds are happily accepted. Honesty of Love contains vivid psychoanalytic practice.
Pictographs such as "safety" and "protection" at the bottom of the top, such as shelter from the wind and rain, bring warmth. In Chinese character Oracle Bone Inscriptions, this shape is actually the shape of a "cave" or "uterus", where Mother Earth or Mother Goddess gave birth to life. Therefore, the image of "love" also contains nourishment. Under the word "love", simplified Chinese characters are regarded as "friends", and the glyphs of traditional Chinese characters include "long", "late" and "friends", which are just like shaking hands, implying friendship and support.
At this point, the most important thing is the "heart" of "love". "Heart" is at the center of "love", and the sincere image arises spontaneously, which condenses into the psychoanalytic artistic conception of "the cure of love".
The Analects of Confucius once recorded Confucius' famous saying: "The benevolent loves others." Therefore, love is a kind of practice. When you can truly feel love, you can gain an understanding of "benevolence" and truly understand the role of psychoanalysis in healing.
In fact, we can reflect on the history of psychoanalysis and the beginning of psychoanalysis. Many problems brought into psychoanalysis studio at first are often due to the lack of love. Through those professional methods and skills, there is always "love" playing its healing role. This can also help us understand Freud's beliefs. When asked about cure and hope, Freud's answer was: "love and work." It's like a beautiful healing in a beautiful mind. As a psychoanalyst, it is a deep concern to serve the interests and development of the analyzed person sincerely; This kind of love can be echoed by the analyst, setting off a healing atmosphere and producing a healing effect.
Today's homework:
The initial problem is often due to lack of love. But it always plays its healing role through "love". Apply this concept to the topic of life.