Listening to others blindly can only make others recognize you and lose your self-esteem. If others don't take you seriously from the heart in their communication, how can they respect you and how can you fulfill your meaning?
Even if what you do is right, it doesn't mean that you can satisfy everyone. Normal social development is not black and white, either one or the other, and sometimes there will be disputes between good and bad. As long as everyone has their own interests, the world will never be the same.
It is enough to do what you have to do. The practical meaning of your life is not to please others, but to cultivate yourself. These people who don't like you won't hurt you easily as long as you don't take them to heart. Only a handful of people can really harm you. These people only hurt you because you care too much about them.
Two: extreme obedience is a contradiction. As the saying goes, too much is too late. The more you want to obey and please everyone, the more likely you are to lose more than you gain and annoy a large number of people. If a person is afraid to please everyone around him, he will usually leave a round and hypocritical impression on others. Your original intention was to satisfy everyone, but the conclusion was that everyone was not satisfied.
When dealing with people, the most important thing is to abide by your own moral bottom line. Your heart needs to have a basic goal of its own. This line is based on your own moral concept and outlook on life, not on satisfying others. Otherwise, you have lived for others all your life and failed yourself.
If you are extremely obedient to the people around you, you always focus on others when you encounter conflicts of interest, sacrificing your own interests to achieve others, and ultimately hurting yourself and the closest people. You pay attention to all the irrelevant people, but you hurt the people around you who should be cherished the most. This is another meaning of destruction and irony.
Three: ego does not mean selfishness. Because of the existence of "I", others will appear to be assisted and cared for. It is very likely that people in reality usually have a characteristic, and they have been suppressing the existence of "self". They dare not fight for themselves, dare not seek benefits for themselves, and are afraid that others will think they are selfish.
Selfishness and selfishness are not the same thing Your reasonable needs and legal rights are exactly what you deserve, so you must get them. You don't have to feel guilty, let alone ashamed.
If you are rich, you will help the world, and if you are poor, you will be immune. You seek benefits for yourself, make yourself stronger and have a lot of kinetic energy, and you are also helping others. Only when you have the strength can you help a large number of people.
Sometimes honest people are bound by other people's eyes. When they fight for their own interests, they are afraid of being scolded by others. But please think about it carefully, what an ugly face these people are when they are fighting for their own interests. You don't have to live in the eyes of others, but in your own moral outlook.