Introduction is an indispensable means for people to get to know each other and establish contact in social activities. Introduction should also pay attention to the art of speaking.

1. Give a good "first impression"

Some friends are talking about Lao Xu, a doctor they all know. But their views on Lao Xu are diametrically opposed: one thinks that Lao Xu is very educated and will take care of patients; Another person thinks that Lao Xu has a bad temper and a bad attitude towards patients. The reason is that when the latter first met Lao Xu, he was losing his temper with a patient, thus forming an indelible "first impression". The first impression, also known as the "first cause effect", once formed in a person's mind, sets the tone for understanding this person and becomes the basis for future communication. Therefore, we must use the "first cause effect" to create the conditions for making friends. Therefore, we must attach importance to self-introduction that gives people the first impression.

Please look at the self-introduction of comedy performance artist Wang Jingyu:

I'm Wang Jingyu, Wang Jingyu who plays chicken. It's really embarrassing to say that I'm a sentimental comedian. I'm just a possessed mime fan. Look at my thin body of more than 40 kilograms, but I often bear a lot of troubles and troubles, most of which are caused by myself. I am not good at expressing respect and love to the people I love, but I am good at expressing hate and evil to the people I hate, but I have no courage. Although I am stubborn, I often deny myself. If I deny that I am both painful and happy, I will live in a net of pain and happiness and I will never be able to rush out. In my career, people say that I am a strong person who dares to struggle, but in the face of complex interpersonal relationships, I am a heartless and ignorant weak person. Therefore, in life, I alternately play the role of the strong and the weak.

Wang Jingyu's self-introduction was very skillful, leaving a beautiful and unforgettable first impression. And this is the purpose of self-introduction. So, what are the speaking skills of self-introduction?

(1) Say the word "I" well. Self-introduction is indispensable to say "I". How to say the word "I" well is related to what impression others have on you. When some people introduce themselves, what about the "I" on the left and the "I" on the right? The audience is full of "I", so it's strange not to resent it. Others put the word "I" very seriously and deliberately dragged it out, as if to establish their tall image by emphasizing "I". What's more, some people say "I" with a smug look, aggressive eyes and great momentum. This kind of person's self-introduction is just narcissism, which can only give people the impression of arrogance.

To leave a good impression on people, we should say the word "I" in a peaceful tone at key places, with kind eyes and natural expression, which makes people feel a beautiful image of self-confidence, self-reliance and self-modesty from this word.

(2) Find another way. When introducing themselves, people often say their names first, and then their work units, occupations, cultures, specialties or interests, which is inevitable. Such an introduction has a mediocre impression in people's minds. On the other hand, Wang Jingyu found a new method. He used the principle of unity of opposites and the viewpoint of dichotomy, combined with his professional expertise, and evaluated himself realistically. His language is simple, lively and unpretentious, which is easily accepted by the other party, so it left a beautiful and profound impression on people. The introduction of the famous singer Clim at a concert was also very innovative and left an unforgettable impression. He said that since 12 years old, he has been riding his beloved little donkey. In order to accept the kind criticism from his young friends, he reluctantly gave up the old donkey and bought an imported car from abroad and drove it to the performance venue. At this point, he paused and then said, "What brand of car do you think it is? That's India-caravan! " The relationship between Krim and the little donkey began with the episode that impressed the audience the most in the movie "The Story of Two Generations of Love", and then started with the little donkey. It is unconventional and humorous.

From this point of view, self-introduction is a unique way, that is, to choose the content that surprises the other party and feels natural from a unique perspective, and to "sell" yourself to others with lively language. It is not the kind of introduction that gives you gold by relying on the prestige of others, nor is it the kind of introduction that pleases the other party by "blowing". When introducing themselves, those people often say, "Vice Mayor XX is my old friend ..." "Do you know the famous expert XX in our province? We used to live in a dormitory ... ""I have a lot of research on XXX. Yesterday, I received an invitation from XX magazine ... ""My name is XX, and I am an advanced worker in the factory. Although it is a small factory, but 500 people can choose five, that is one in a hundred! " This kind of self-introduction may be impressive, but it will never be good.

(3) report "home" skillfully. Self-introduction is essential. In order to let the other person hear his exact name clearly, it is often necessary to mark "last name" and "first name". The more clever the notes, the deeper the impression. The annotation of names can not only reflect a person's cultural level and personality accomplishment, but also reflect a person's eloquence.

In the opera Jiang Jie, bandits treat an old man as "Captain Jiang". In order to defend himself, the old man had to explain his name clearly: "I am not captain Jiang, I am captain Jiang." Chiang Kai-shek's' Chiang Kai-shek', the enemy's' Right Deviation', the signature and seal of the' chapter', Chiang Kai-shek's chapter! " Although his comments are inevitably pedantic, they have at least two advantages: clarity and unforgettable memory. A young man named Chen Xiaoyao once introduced himself: "My surname is Chen, I am Xiaoyao, I am Xiaoyao ..." This young man's annotation of his name is really not very clever. If only he could say "at large"! There is a young man named Nie Ping. He introduced himself humorously: "My name is Nie Pin, and I have three ears and three mouths, but I don't have three heads ..." After that, the name "Nie Pin" was deeply rooted in each other's memories.

2. Build a bridge of acquaintance with language

Not everyone knows each other in social situations, and people who participate in social activities often want to make more friends. Therefore, introducing others has become an indispensable way in social activities. Introduction can make strangers friends; Introduction can promote cooperation between the two sides; Introduction can even make both sides friends. In recent years, the "marriage agency" and "employment agency" which have sprung up play an important role in interpersonal communication. It can be seen that introducing others has also become a social need. Therefore, what content to choose and what language to introduce others have become a concern.

(1) What do you choose to introduce others to?

① Select the content of common interest. Only by choosing the content that both sides are interested in can we attract attention and promote mutual understanding. If you introduce a teacher to a businessman like this: "Her name is XX, and she is an experienced teacher." The businessman is bound to show indifference and lead to the topic of conversation between the two sides. But if you say to this businessman, "XX is a teacher and her husband is the manager of XX trading company." In this way, the introduction selects the content that the other party is interested in and builds a bridge between the two parties.

(2) Introduce special skills to promote understanding. Except name, work unit, etc. The content of the introduction should also focus on the situation of the introduced person. Don't forget to introduce others' specialties. Such as: "This is XXX, the' singing rookie' of our unit." "XXX used to be the city table tennis champion, and it is still like this. If you have a chance, you two can have a competition. " This kind of introduction is very conducive to promoting mutual understanding and establishing friendship.

③ Evaluate and promote cooperation. It is also a good introduction method to make a simple and pertinent evaluation of the introduced person. For example, "×××××× is very insightful about The Songs of the South and has written several articles. I hope you can cooperate. " "Comrade XX's virtue of helping others is well known, and he will give you enthusiastic help." "You are both engaged in enterprise management. As far as I know, Mr. Wang is an expert in this field, nicknamed "management expert" You must have had fruitful talks. " This kind of evaluation and introduction can make each other feel good, thus laying the foundation for mutual understanding.

(2) In what language do you introduce others?

(1) Direct statement. It takes only a few words to outline a person's outline when introducing others, so we should avoid beating around the bush and mystifying, and should directly state it in concise language. This is my friend Lao Liu, who is engaged in architectural design. "This is comrade XX, he is good at telling jokes. You will find it pleasant to talk to him. "

② Ask for an introduction. In addition to direct statements, you can also introduce others by asking questions. Such as: "Comrade Liu XX, may I introduce Zhang XX to you?" "Comrade XXX, do you want to know about the sales of XXX products? This is Xiao Zhao, the salesman of XX Company, and he will give you a satisfactory answer. " The introduction method of asking for opinions first and then asking for permission can not only show your respect for others, but also give people a sense of intimacy and make them easy to accept.

3 definitely recommended. The content of the introduction determines that we often use affirmative sentences when recommending each other. Because of a person's name, occupation, etc. It is objective and unquestionable. It is impolite if you are vague, ambiguous or even deny some of their advantages when introducing others.