I haven't done any real work myself. When my father died, I 18 was a soldier, and my mother was a strong person. It is ok to do some small business selling clothes. But mothers don't educate their children, don't let him suffer, don't let him suffer, and often give him money to spend. During my five years in the army, I mailed 30 thousand to my family one after another and gave my mother 50 thousand for demobilization, trying to reduce my mother's burden.
Until two years ago, because no one played cards, I lost tens of thousands of dollars in a small county, which is quite a lot. I can't afford to play. Everyone has grown up. After the baby is born, I should work to support my family. He still doesn't work, saying that he is babysitting and seeing the children off, so he will do me a favor if there is something in the store in the future. I have nothing to do during the day, I don't know where I saw it, and I don't know who is on the road. I started gambling online.
What should I do if I lose all my money? He started cheating. Many of my friends' brothers will also come to work. He usually has a good relationship and began to borrow money to pay back his credit card. That kind of borrowing money turns over, and there is only one result, losing like a dead dog. He lost hundreds of thousands back and forth, so he had no choice but to tell my mother that she was very angry. When he is outside with others, he doesn't look at five or six people. When he got home, he plopped down on his knees and kowtowed to my mother, saying that he would never gamble again. My mother was too soft-hearted and promised to pay it back for him.
The next thing I expected, I paid him back, but only part of it was paid back. I take the remaining tens of thousands to turn around. After losing all of them, while his daughter-in-law was sleeping, he secretly transferred the 50,000 yuan that his daughter-in-law was going to buy with the booth loan, and lost all of them again. ...
This has happened many times. What should we do?
A:
Someone once made a phased analysis of gambling from the primary stage to the morbid stage:
Gambling forms can generally be divided into three types:
One is recreational gambling.
Only bring a certain amount, usually a small amount of money, occasionally enter the casino and watch entertainment while gambling. You won't care too much about winning or losing, you won't be particularly worried, and it won't affect your daily life.
The second is professional gambling.
This is a professional gambler who takes gambling as his business. He knows casinos like the back of his hand, and he is not interested in casinos.
The third is pathological gambling.
It is characterized by repeated and uncontrolled gambling, which has caused great damage to personal work and rest, family life and professional interpersonal relationships.
Indeed, the environment is really too important for a person. As the saying goes, it's better to be near the water, but for gamblers, it's most important to stay away from the gambling environment.
I have a friend who grew up in the countryside and has been farming for generations. Just like most rural families, the environment at home must be imaginable, not very good or impossible to survive. Like most gamblers, gambling is also playing slot machines since childhood. Not to mention the process, he didn't even dare to go home during the winter vacation in college.
Let's talk about the result first. Now I have a debt of 98,000, of which 70,000 was borrowed from a bank credit card and 22,000 was borrowed from a friend. Just the day before, I lost 6,000 yuan. Because the family is in the countryside, there is no ability to help him pay his debts, so he can only die.
I asked him, do you still gamble? He didn't even think about it, and the following words directly shocked me: I must gamble, and if I don't gamble, there will be no money to use. Work … impossible to work, impossible to work in my life, and … impossible to do business. It is gambling that keeps us alive like this. Entering the casino feels like going home, or much better than home. Being alone at home without friends or girlfriends is boring.
In fact, he has nothing to do with himself, and he feels quite chic. The real pain is his father. At that time, more than 3w was owed to the guarantee company, and more than 6w was accrued. As a result, he was charged with financial fraud. His old father came from his hometown to help him pay more than 6w before he came out and was locked up for a week.
Write it at the end, dedicated to all gamblers or gambler relatives who have the opportunity to see this answer. If you gamble, whether you are immersed in it or just tasted the sweetness, you should try to save yourself.
1. Face up to gambling and write down all the reasons for gambling.
Remember, this is not an ineffective move, then list all the reasons why you shouldn't gamble, and read the adjustment frequently, and you will be surprised. This is self-monitoring, self-vigilance. Unfortunately, most gamblers have basically lost this ability.
2. Economic self-blockade.
Literally, without a credit card, all the money belongs to the family. How to gamble without money? Of course, many friends will say that many people will lend you money to gamble. Well, my method is not aimed at gamblers who borrow money to gamble.
3. Transfer of benefits.
This is a very reliable way to indulge in other activities, such as fitness, ball games, chess and so on. Busy work is also an extremely effective method.