Sometimes I also hope that after waking up, we can go back to the most primitive and loving time, without aggressive hurt or tired of leaving each other. But reality is often crueler than imagined. Some things cannot be changed, some scars will not be restored, and every path a person takes in life cannot be walked again.

If you really care about someone so much, your heart will really hurt. Once you put your feelings on him, you will really be unable to extricate yourself, and you will not be able to find the way forward.

Later I discovered that the distance between us is that if you don’t look for me, I won’t look for you.

Let go and just hide your love in your heart. I just hope that the person I love the most can be happy and happy. Although there will be regrets, that happiness has nothing to do with me anymore. However, no matter where I am, I will appear as soon as you call me. I really can’t let go, I can’t let go, no matter how deeply I’ve been hurt, I still can’t let go

There is a kind of love called letting go, but it doesn’t really let go, but always keeps it in my heart. I hope you will be happy. When you When you need me, I will be by your side. When we are not together, I will think of you silently and love you forever!

What should come will always come and what should go should not be held back. I hope you will be well. Let everyone be well

It is clear that the two of them have each other in their hearts, but they have to be together due to various reasons. Choose to let go. This may be because there is a kind of love called letting go, but not really letting go.

It is said that people who are destined to be together will come back to each other no matter how many circles they go around. As long as the ending is a comedy, you can cry no matter how much you want during the process. Happiness can come later, as long as it is true. If we end up together, it really doesn't matter if it's a little later. I want to be the person you most want to see and the person you are most reluctant to say goodbye to.

When love is a thing of the past, what can you do if you don’t let go? When we can no longer go back, why not let go gracefully, give you a piece of freedom, and give yourself a piece of the beautiful past. Goodbye, maybe never see you again.

No one can tell what missing is, but it exists. For those who truly love, the more they are separated, the more they miss them; the busier they are, the more their thoughts are disturbed; the more free they are, the more they cannot be quiet. Missing you actually means loving someone, feeling upset, but longing for happiness and beauty

It is better to forget each other in the world than to stay together. I am looking at you, not forgetting you. I will spend the rest of my life looking at you. You, bless you.

Except for life and death, everything else is trivial. Wipe your tears, smile, and keep working hard.

There is a kind of love called letting go, but you will never let go in your heart. Take care of yourself when it gets cold.

Life is a long confrontation, some people laugh at the beginning, and some people win at the end. Destiny will not favor anyone, it depends on how long you can chase and how long you persist.

Delete the lines of words, type um at the end and send it to you. That’s okay, not all emotions have to be told to you. For example, I am unhappy, for example, I miss you so much

The most beautiful thing in the world is to love and be loved, and to give each other reciprocally.

I thought of you when I saw this title. Thank you for letting me go, but not letting go. You have always cared about me, but you just didn’t bother me!

It’s really like this. Watching you go away makes my heart hurt. The sad part is that we once loved each other so much and have to let go. Falling in love with someone you shouldn't love is the most painful thing. Only by letting go can you find your true love!

I am not afraid of being separated from you temporarily. If a good love needs to go through many tests and go around a long circle before you meet me, I will wait and I am willing to go. Do this as long as it's you in the end

Gradually everyone will understand that not being able to be with the person you like is actually the normal state of life. Talk about hating someone

1. I hate you ※love, you ruined everything for me.

2. I still love you, but I never want to have you again. I will try to hate you and hate you, and even do some excessive things to make you hate me and let you remember me forever in this life, and that's enough.

3. The more experience you have in love, the fewer people you like.

4. You should keep the scornful love to yourself. Sister, you don’t need it

5. The first time I saw you, I had a feeling of déjà vu, but later I realized that it was love.

6. Face those people with a normal heart and be yourself

7. Give me hope with one sentence, and push me into hell with another sentence

8. It turns out that when you hate someone to the extreme, that is love, because when you hate someone, you will miss him every day. "I am a special soldier with a knife out of the sheath".

9. Don’t use your vague impressions to self-righteously evaluate my field. Let’s compare whether you are the best or I am the best. I have taken the first step of hating you with my actions. Next, I really don’t want to see you ever. I advise you to take your seat early. Non-Friends Circle: I'm stupid for caring so much about you.

10. If you have gone through so many hardships and dangers, but still can't change even one answer and one turn, then I will leave, I will hate you, and I think I will never forgive you again. you. . .

11. Looking for the true meaning of love in the mottled traces, but found that I have been singing a one-man show on the huge stage

12. When you hate someone, he is there In your eyes you are not a person, but an animal. People only kill each other when they see each other as beasts, as is the case with war.

13. How long is love? How long does hate last? Have you ever tried what it's like to love someone? Have you ever tried hating someone? In this life, you have failed me. If I can, I will meet you again in the next life and torture you until death, life after life.

14. Thinking of happiness? You, looking at pain? yourself.

15. Under the warm sunshine, the cheeks have a hint of crimson, which adds to the charm.

16. If you exchange youth with love, what will be left behind?

17. This earth would not stop turning without me. Just like if you left me, life would be no different.

18. Why can harm be done from so far away, but comfort must be close to you?

19. Do you know that the cruelest sentence is not I'm sorry, it's not that I hate you, it's just that we can never go back. It was such a simple sentence that completely alienated two people who were originally close. People who have never experienced it will never understand how painful it is.

20. Love comes and goes, but it’s just three words, I love you, I hate you, I’m sorry.

21. I think the saddest thing in life is not that you never meet it, but that you meet it, get it, and then be taken away.

22. Hating someone is because you love someone too much, so you can’t bear the hurt.

Twenty-three. What is the heart? Words are. Giving is harm/?.

Twenty-four. It is said to be warm spring, but why can’t I feel a trace of it? Warmth.

25. If you want to hate a song, just repeat it until you don’t want to listen to it. If you hate a food, eat it every day until you don’t want to eat it anymore. If you hate a person, just read his or her name every day. I don’t miss you, it’s been a long time, so I have to say goodbye

26. Love is an encounter that cannot be waited for or prepared for.

Twenty-seven. What he said about hating a person and his signature about hating a person

1. Alas... .I hate the highest state of a person, pretending that there is nothing, and talking together as if nothing has happened...

2. I still have the right to miss you, but I don’t have the right to love you

3. I thought I could drive you out of my memories as time goes by.

4. Time tells me that I am no longer important to you.

5. In fact, I am a person who is not good at expressing feelings. I no longer hate someone like I did when I was in college. I am lucky to get it, but I lose my life

6. You You never know what people’s hearts are like. Someone who scolds you in front of you and beats you up and says she hates you may just hate you for your incompetence. Maybe she will belittle others or even betray you in places where you can’t see her just to get enough money to pay your tuition. His soul is gentle to you, and every time he speaks, he whispers to comfort you and encourage you. Maybe right after you walk out of the room, he throws the slippers you wore into the trash can in the blink of an eye, cursing you son of a bitch, reading Faust. A sense of virtue

7. Make a promise before the two copper plates fall into the abyss. The stamps are engraved with the train Dunston as a memorial to you

8. The world is too cold, so Just wrap yourself up tightly.

9. As a single person, I originally thought that I could live without anyone for the rest of my life.

10. Sometimes, some people,

11. Aloof Aries, it is difficult to fall in love with someone, because they are afraid of being hurt. Kind-hearted Aries, it is difficult to completely hate someone, and it is true that you can't bear to hate someone. Aries' love and hate are fatal. Aries is loyal to love and believes that one person is their whole life. Once you fall in love, it's hard to give up easily.

12. Although the gorgeous fireworks are beautiful, they are extremely short-lived.

13. Time may not bring about feelings, but it will definitely see people’s hearts. Sometimes I am afraid that time will tell the truth.

14. Hating someone does not mean you can forget someone. Learning to appreciate someone is the only way to truly forget.

15. Han Xiaoji, I have always loved you!!!

16. People who cannot be happy are because they have experienced too much sadness

17. Waiting, not because you will come back but to give yourself a reason not to leave.

18. No matter how bad things are between us, as long as we exist for one day, no one can replace us

19. Even when we are gray-haired, we will never forget it

20. I love you but hate you at the same time. Have you ever known that I cry for you at night? Why do you linger in the night? My heart is already haggard but I am heartbroken.

21. Is it interesting that someone said yesterday that they were talking about me indiscriminately? I hate you, I will hate you forever

22. The sweet bits and pieces at the beginning are finally pieced together into all the bitter memories.

23. Your tears are like a downpour, breaking all over the ground and clear in my heart.

24. If you imitate, just imitate L, but can you please imitate Russian things in a more temperamental way?

25. I often laugh but cry. He stood up, smiled and cried.

26. I rarely hate someone. I rarely hate someone. If it doesn't hurt me to the core, I really can't hate someone. When I was young and ignorant, I used to treat a person so sincerely. In his eyes, I am sick and crazy. After so many years, I really understood it when I saw it. I actually hope that he will do well. It seems that I can only feel at ease if he does not.

Twenty-seven. We went around in such a circle to meet you. I understand your importance better than anyone else.

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1. In the end, in the end, the loneliness remains.

2. Only when I turn around and don’t look at you can I say that I love you.

3. I just want to write down the words that I can’t express here to record my feelings. Affection.

4. The world is too cold, so we wrap ourselves up tightly.

5. This sustainable love must continue.

6. If this earth were not for me, it would not stop turning. Just like if you left me, life would be no different.

7. In the purest and most beautiful years, I fell in love with you. Even if I don’t love you anymore, I will remember that I loved you

8. When two copper plates fell into I made a promise before the abyss, and the stamp is engraved with the train Dunsden as a souvenir for you

9. May I come, I am so naive! I will learn to be independent, and let us go back to the beginning! < /p>

10. Destinations come and go, conditions arise and perish. What seems to be a condition is not a condition, but the condition is extinguished.

11. It turns out that the fu I got from giving up the fu was not a person but a section. Affection. A paragraph containing all happiness and sadness.

12. It turns out that the youth of these people has hurt Liancheng secretly.

13. It’s not that I don’t understand some things, but I don’t want to understand them anymore.

14. Is there anyone who sees me online and will take the initiative to talk to me, even if it’s nonsense?

15. Worry can rejuvenate the country; closing eyes can rest the mind

16. Face those people with a normal heart and be yourself

17. Comfort others with Why is it useless to comfort yourself with words?

18. If you exchange youth with love, what will be left behind?

19. Tears dripped from the eyes, and blood flowed from the heart.

20. Looking for the familiar streets you have walked through, but you are not there.

21. Although the gorgeous fireworks are beautiful, they are extremely short-lived.

22. What is happiness? Happiness is: trust, longing, understanding, tolerance.

23. Laughter, don’t let love write the ending of the first page.

24. I want to be your doll, as long as you like it - I am willing to be played with by you for the rest of my life. In the end, I will be loveless

25. Thinking about the happy you, looking at the painful self .

26. No matter how much you think, you will still be sad in the end.

27. In the real society: acting is a means of our survival.

28. I like amnesia, turning the past into memories scattered in my head.

29. No matter back and forth, those letters are always written on the glass, which are the abbreviations of your name.

30. I always force the emotions around me on myself

31. I know that my tears are never cherished by you.

32. I only need my memory to last five seconds, not forever.

33. I just want to carry this love that has nothing to do with anyone or anything with me until the end of my life.

34. I stand under the sun. Let time pass by bit by bit. But I still don’t understand that you can’t come back. Obsession

35. I thought I could drive you out of my memories as time goes by.

36. I think the saddest thing in life is not that you never meet it, but that you meet it, get it, and then be taken away.

37. I hope someone can understand the warmth in my cold words.

38. I heard that the most painful thing in life is to see the person you love most die because of you.

39. I tried to smile and raise the corners of my mouth, but I reached my limit.

40. We always hide our words in our hearts, for dignity and for many stupid reasons.

41. No matter how bad things are between us, no one can replace us as long as we exist for one day.

42. We are the same kind, so we cherish each other, but we forgot, Like people often kill each other

43. We went around in such a circle before we met, and I understand your importance better than anyone else. 44. I cried, but you didn't stop me. However, these tears fell on the ground that was obviously lavender... Talk about hating someone, can hating someone make you feel better?

Victim complex

Friend C is a strong and good person. No matter what kind of conflict occurs, she can always occupy an absolutely reasonable position. In short, she is: I have been so good, so accommodating, so tolerant, and so wronged, but you still do this? ? ! You are just nakedly wrong, so I can do whatever I want to you, because you are the sinner and I am the victim!

When C needed someone to take care of her child, she lived with her father-in-law and mother-in-law. Of course, friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was inevitable. Her husband is not very good at handling conflicts between two women, which often makes her feel very dissatisfied. Slowly, the conflict between C and his parents-in-law became more and more intense. Of course, they both disliked each other and each felt that the other was wrong.

When they got married, my father-in-law promised that they would provide financial support for the young couple to buy a house in the future. However, when their child was born and they needed to settle down and buy a house and lacked some money, the father-in-law refused to contribute for various reasons. Of course, parents were not obliged to contribute money to buy a house for their children, but after all, they had made a promise before and suddenly went back on their word, which made both C and her husband very angry. Unfortunately, they owed a large amount of foreign debt. This time, C's husband was completely heartbroken and decided to draw a clear line with his parents. He felt that his parents were too cruel.

Sometimes, the love is deep and the hate is intense. The closer the person is, the higher the expectations are, and the slightest dissatisfaction will be resented. C feels relieved: I have already said that it is your parents who are not good. Now believe it. Anyway, you don’t have to interact with them in the future and stay away from them. Because they are wrong and we are the victims, we can ignore them with peace of mind and treat them however we want. Who told you to do something wrong?

However, C’s husband no longer receives calls and greetings from his family during the holidays, and he has not been home to see his parents for a long time. C can tell that he is very sad. Hating someone does not make things easier, nor does it make things easier for both parties. It is just punishing each other with one thing, and the time is indefinite, because I am an absolute victim and I will not forgive.

Once, C told me these things, his face seemed to be enjoying the glory of being a victim. Yes, you hurt me, you are unreasonable, and you continue to be unreasonable again and again. I have absolute public opinion and moral high ground. Although I am a victim, I have the superior right to accuse. I can not Keep scolding you for your faults. All my complaints of dissatisfaction were satisfied by this repeated rebuke.

When I started to explain something from the perspective of Mr. C’s father-in-law and mother-in-law, Mr. C immediately became panicked and stopped me from continuing. Yes, she is unwilling to accept any of their reasons and difficulties, because once they have a reasonable excuse, then I will not be a victim, and I have no right to continue to accuse. I can no longer just ignore them, I can't Taking all the blame away, I needed to accept my problems and learn how to live with them.

Obviously, these are things that C is unwilling to do, because she cannot learn to get along well with her parents-in-law. She cannot face her own problems and change them. She wants to hide her shortcomings, so She would rather be a victim so she doesn't have to do anything. It is much easier to hate someone than to change yourself.

Sometimes, the victim seems to be in a weak position, but it is a shield that you use unconsciously and can be used over and over again. The subtext is: it is all your fault. Wrong, then you have no reason to ask me for anything more, so that I can refuse to grow and change. After all, it is too painful to admit that I am not good.

It’s all your fault

Little D experienced a car accident in high school. He had scars on his face at that time. He felt depressed and stayed at home and never went out again. Go to school. He was originally admitted to a key county high school, but because his father did not solve the household registration problem for him, he had to go to an ordinary high school, so he has always been worried about it. In that ordinary high school, he suffered a car accident. Although there are scars, they are no longer visible. There was trauma to the brain, but it has healed.

However, he blamed his father for the car accident because he had not solved the household registration problem. Originally, he was studying in a key high school, so he would not have had a car accident.

The reason seems far-fetched. Even if you study in an ordinary high school, a car accident can only be an accident or you are not careful. You can't blame anyone. Even if you study in a key high school, you may not have an accident.

However, his status as a victim allows him to constantly blame his father, and he does not need to take responsibility for himself. So, after the car accident, although he basically recovered, he never went to school again and stayed at home. Until now, men in their thirties, with sound limbs and clear minds, and no visible problems, do not go to work, sit idle, and regard themselves as useless people, waiting for their parents to support them.

Even if a lie is told a hundred times, it will become the truth, so the father always felt that he had ruined his child, so he shouldered the blame and supported a disabled person with sound limbs without any complaints.

The identity of the victim allows Little D to enjoy this compensation with peace of mind. He can always be a child and enjoy the preferential treatment of others without paying. He does not need to be responsible for his laziness, let alone There is a need to grow and change.

Lin's husband once cheated on her, but she chose to forgive and they continued to maintain their marriage. However, Lin would lose her temper more and more over trivial matters. When her husband argued a little, she would accuse angrily: You have done something sorry for me, but you still have the nerve to make demands on me. If I can forgive you, you are already very tolerant!

When they are together, they always seem as lifeless as a dark cloud.

There is a lingering resentment in Lin's heart that can explode at any time. All unhappiness can trigger an accusation. In the end, she always remembers to retaliate. You betrayed me! The subtext is: I am a victim, and nothing you do is enough to eliminate my dissatisfaction, so I can always complain about your faults with confidence. In this relationship, no matter what you do, it can't change your identity as a sinner, and I can do anything to you because I am a victim and I don't need to face my problems.

This is an unbalanced relationship. Over time, a man may break his relationship, and a woman may become increasingly dissatisfied. Of course, repairing a problematic marriage requires great wisdom. If you decide to forgive, you need to vent your resentment clearly and demand an explanation. Otherwise, a compromise-style reconciliation will be nothing more than mutual torture.

Hate is like a force of energy that will not disappear out of thin air. It will either turn to yourself or to others

It does not mean that when a person treats you badly, we should swallow our anger. Not resentment, but rather, when faced with unreasonable treatment, when we argue with reason and actively work hard but still cannot change, we choose to seek our own strength. After all, there are always some people who have no moral and principled bottom line. If we hinder ourselves because we cannot let go of our resentment towards them, we will lose more.

I saw an article mentioning that South African President Nelson Mandela, the hero who led the fight against the apartheid system, was imprisoned in Rhode Island for 27 years and was tortured. At his presidential inauguration, he silenced all the guests and the entire world when he respectfully paid tribute to the three jailors who had imprisoned him. He said: When I walked out of the cell and stepped through the prison door leading to freedom, I already knew that if I could not leave my grief and resentment behind, then I would still be in prison.

If the emotion of hate cannot be truly let go, it will not disappear out of thin air, but will continue to grow in the heart, either attacking yourself or others around you. Like a depressing volcano, there is no peace.

In the end, it is just making yourself and others the victims of hatred.

The harm of the family of origin

We know that most of a person’s problems are caused by his family of origin in his early years. Parenting issues, early trauma and separation, family environment issues. Trauma psychologists believe that before children begin to speak and acquire language and thinking skills, they have already formed a lifelong pattern of interpersonal relationships and a sense of security through interactions with their caregivers (parents). It can be seen that parental upbringing and family environment have a great impact on children.

Many people discover that their own problems: lack of love, insecurity, and poor intimacy are all problems of their parents, and they begin to resent and blame their parents. Then I regard myself as a victim and just turn a deaf ear to various problems. It is not my fault anyway, it is all the parenting problems of my parents in their early years, so I don’t have to be responsible for it, I don’t have to make changes, it’s just like this, I can’t help it

Isn’t it easy to shift the problem to others? Being a victim can make you feel better, but it is just self-deception because it is just a reason you give yourself for refusing to grow and change.

We can't change how others treat you, we can't change our birth and parents, and we can't change the external environment where there will always be people who will cause harm to you, but this does not mean that you can be depressed and give up on yourself. Remember, we have the power to make changes at any time.