Did you hear what everyone thinks ~ ~
@ Favorite Xiaolongbao and Xiaolongbao "The second one is much easier to raise, not as troublesome as the first one, probably because we have experience."
@ Alex "The expense of raising a second-born baby is not 1+ 1, but 1+0.5, because I raised him as a pig."
@A Sister "The second child has had competitors since the day he was born, so he knows how to compete subconsciously and is good at selling, much better than the boss when he was a child."
I was almost 40 when I gave birth to my second child. I am an elderly woman. I may be old and weak. The second child's natural resistance feels worse than the boss's, and he is always sick and difficult to raise. "
@ 甚甚甚 "My child is a man and a woman, and there is a word' good'. They grew up with different experiences, so both of them have good times and both of them have bad times. "
@ Running Zebra "My two little princesses are embarrassed, and my sister will help take care of my sister. Sometimes I fight. In less than 5 minutes, I went to the playground hand in hand, so I don't have to worry about it. "
There's nothing to be happy about. Chen "The second child has experience, so walk less and spend less money. For example, Jellycat, which used to buy comfortable towels only in Britain, now has the same quality products. I tend to choose original design brands with better prices such as Netease YEATION and Ye Nan Dad, which can save a lot of money. "
@ Joey "I agree with upstairs. After giving birth to the second child, although my family's economy is better and I am more willing to spend money on my children, I really pay more attention. I am so happy in my circle of friends that I am naturally not tired. "
@ Milk and rice "My family has three children. The first child is raised by reading, the second child is raised by pigs, and the third child is raised by himself. Do you think it is good to raise it? "
conclusion
80% families generally think that a second child is better than a first child, and 20% families think that a second child is more difficult to raise.
Those who think it difficult to raise are divided into two factions, one is physiological and the other is emotional.
Health, Reason and School
Physiologically, it is mainly physical reasons, which can be further subdivided into parents' physical reasons and children's physical reasons.
The growth of age, health status and other factors will lead to the lack of energy balance of parents in taking care of their children, which seems to be inadequate.
This 70-year-old second-child family is particularly dominant.
However, the weakness of children and any defects in their development will become a headache for parents. After all, there is no parent who doesn't want their children to be healthy.
Emotions, feelings and factions
Emotional school mainly focuses on the emotional contradiction between Dabao and Bauer. As the saying goes, "guard against thieves and bosses" ... this is a problem that most second-born families will worry about, and it is also the reason why many first-born families are discouraged.
This is a simple and difficult topic. To be simple, we must first understand the child's psychology. Let the child feel that he is still loved and treated fairly, and pass on the ability of his lover to him.
In addition, fighting is not a real contradiction, if the two children are about the same age (gap
There are two schools that think it is easy to raise, one is the pig-raising school, and the other is the intensive breeding school.
Pigs, feed and pies
The so-called pig pie is to raise the second child as a pig.
Some people have doubts.
Why do you want to have a second child if you want to be a pig?
People will cherish the first thing they have, and they have no experience. They are as cautious as a newcomer who has just entered the workplace and obsessed with Nuo Nuo. When facing the second child, they are like old drivers. They are skilled in all kinds of coaxing and feeding techniques, but they are not so particular about some small details.
"Afraid? Buy new clothes? Of course, children should wear second-hand clothes, which is healthier. Wear his sister's if you don't buy it! "
"Children are like this. When they sleep, they twitch and cry twice. This is normal baby fright. Don't worry. He will continue to sleep alone in the future. Holding him will interfere with his normal sleep, and then you will be comforted. "
Jing. Yang. circumference ratio
Strengthening schools is the opposite.
More is to sum up the experience of the first child and then apply it to the second child.
Therefore, it is not that the child has become easy to raise, but that we have raised him better.
On the one hand, this stems from parents' guilt and compensation for Dabao, and puts the blame on Bao Xiao.
When love is added.
The care that children receive is even more exquisite.
This exquisiteness does not mean spending more money!
As @ says, there is nothing to be happy about. ......
"(We old drivers) prefer to choose cost-effective and high-value baby products like Netease YEATION and Ye Nan Dad, spend less money and live a high-quality life."
Good parenting, not so expensive!
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