First of all, we can look at it from the perspective of parents. Why do they prefer boys to girls?

They may be influenced by traditional culture and think that "raising children to prevent old age". When a boy grows up, he can bear the heavy responsibility of the family: carrying on the family line, supporting the elderly and bringing home the bacon. ...

In fact, the reason why parents have this idea may also be related to their anxiety about existence. Existential anxiety is a term in R. R. May's personality theory, which refers to an emotional experience when an individual perceives that his living state or value is threatened. All factors that endanger personal survival and beliefs and ideals that have the same value as survival will make people feel this kind of anxiety.

Parents prefer sons to daughters, which may be influenced by this anxiety. Because I am worried that my old age will be left unattended and my living conditions will be threatened, I will want to comfort myself by "raising my son" to alleviate this anxiety. Perhaps in the minds of some older generations, the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" has been deeply rooted, and they are afraid that they will lose their dependence and no one will take care of them when they are old. At this level, parents are also extremely insecure.

As a daughter, parents' preference for sons may mean being ignored, but at the same time there will be less hope and less pressure. From this point of view, can you make it easier?

Therefore, even if you live in a patriarchal family, don't be too uncomfortable or too unbalanced. We should bravely accept our parents' prejudice, learn to be independent as soon as possible, focus on improving our self-worth and live for ourselves, which is also a relaxed way of life.