I read a story from Reader: In a small town in new york, there is a bodhi tree in front of Mr. and Mrs. John's house, which is a rare tree in new york. Probably because of this, a strong iron shelf was specially supported next to the tree. Perhaps it is the iron frame that protects the bodhi tree from wind and rain, and it has always been lush and has become a landscape in the garden.

This summer is the season when bodhi trees flourish. Somehow, it suddenly died. Everyone passing by feels sorry for its withering. This tree has been specially cared for since childhood. Because of the support of the iron frame, it never bowed to the wind and rain. Why did you suddenly die this year after decades?

Mr. and Mrs. John stroked the still delicate and smooth bark of the bodhi tree and suddenly found someone cutting a circle of cracks in the bark. "Who killed the bodhi tree?" John turned to the other side along the knife mark and found that it was a wire tied to the bracket. Probably when the bodhi tree was small, I tied it to protect it. Unexpectedly, with the growth of the tree, the wire gradually embedded into the bark, but it was too late to find it.

After reading this story, I was deeply moved. Caring for children, if it exceeds a certain range, may become doting. Like a growing bodhi tree, doting is the wire that protects it. It protects us and hurts us at the same time. As the saying goes, "no one can succeed casually without experiencing wind and rain." Rainbow is beautiful, but it can only show its beauty after the storm.

A philosopher once said: If a person is born without any setbacks, then his life is incomplete. Faced with these stories, I want to say: "Mom and Dad, let go and let the children be free. Let's go through thick and thin together. That is extraordinary true love. "

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There is a love called to let go

Love, as its name implies, is a feeling closely surrounding the heart, but as for the understanding of love, I think the love above is just a little love, and real love can be put down.

What I am talking about here is the love of parents for their children, which is also increasingly spoiled in today's society. Spoiling is not a kind of love, but an indulgence.

Love is not confinement, as the saying goes, there are no horses in the yard. Now because parents love their children and take care of them in every way, it is even worse. So the people they cultivate are as incompetent and ignorant as donkeys. There really was a swift horse who was afraid of being injured and ran out to practice in the stable. Isn't this as ridiculous as planting trees where there is no soil? This simple truth naturally exists. A florist keeps a lot of flowers. Because I like flowers very much, I don't pay attention to the guidance of experts every time I fertilize them, excessive fertilization. To this end, he is still complacent and self-righteous. He didn't know that all his flowers died a few days later. We all understand this truth. A flower will lose water and die if it is fertilized too much. Isn't this just like doting, knowing it is love but not knowing it is harm? Letting go is love. My parents' colleague has a child. When the child was seven years old, his parents asked him to take care of his life. With discontent, he washes clothes and cleans the house every day. A few years later, his autonomy has been exercised and he is handy in dealing with problems in social life. This is a kind of letting go of love, because love has to go through wind and rain to temper itself.

There is a kind of love called letting go, but letting go does not mean indulgence. Some parents go to the other extreme, because love means letting go, so they put their children in society and let them drift. There is an uncle and three children at home. He pursues extremism, because three children are too difficult to control, so he is not careful in discipline. As expected, uncle's three children fell behind because of lack of their own judgment and control. Don't let go of love as an excuse for indulgence. Letting go of love is a moderate and reasonable indulgence, and indulgence is an irresponsible blind indulgence. If you don't follow the rules, you won't be Fiona Fang. Everything should be controlled within a certain range.

Let go of love in order to love better. In a university in Wuhan this year, to the surprise of all teachers and students, a student drove an extended Lincoln and came to the accommodation department with 19 boxes of luggage. What is even more surprising is that the student asked for a separate dormitory, and after his request was rejected, he asked for air conditioning and a separate bathroom. This kind of doting is unreasonable. The students trained in this way will never become the pillars of the country, so loving children is a typical example of not letting go. "Four bodies are not diligent, and all grains are not divided" is the best word to describe parasites produced by rotten machines.

Love, only letting go, can show the beauty of being at arm's length. Only letting go of love is meaningful love.

Therefore, there is a kind of love called letting go.

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Love is like a cloud in the air, always interpreting the joys and sorrows of the world in an unpredictable way; He is like a seesaw, ups and downs, wandering in love and being loved. But love doesn't mean doting. Someone must say that love is painful and doting is happy. All wet. As "beauty is always sad". It is always like a mathematical proof that leaves can take root and lead a wonderful life only within a certain range ... Although the process is painful and elusive, you will feel infinite happiness at the moment when gardenias bloom ... Only when you deeply understand the essence of love will you know the answer. Love a person is to give him a skill, not to replace what he should do. Loving someone doesn't mean loving someone. Nightmares took me to the mountains. The bright moon there is within reach. "The mountain is small" is like a breeze blowing into the harbor of dreams. "I dare not speak loudly for fear of scaring people." A wisp of smoke went straight into the sky, and the "eagle hitting the sky" cut through a quiet. I yearn for vultures ... I don't know when "Alice's world in the mirror" came into my dream in a blink of an eye ... I deeply know that love is nothing profound, but it is actually a kind of love under a free mind, not forced or wishful thinking. My parents' love is always rolling in my mind, and everything is changing: I want to sing loudly and tell my parents not to spoil me. However, it is singing that vibrates the eardrum; I got up and paced ... I was scared and confused. My thoughts are tumbling in the abyss, and I am struggling in free fall. This time I really feel like a Zou Ying-I'm on a test flight. In an instant, I returned to the top of the mountain with my mother's body on my pillow, and looked up-the moonlight was like sand, covering everything; Plants and trees decorate the night at will; The dense sound of insects echoed harmoniously in the quiet night, setting off everything ... I imagined the first test flight the next day in loneliness and leisure, but I still want to thank my parents for their love and let me find myself slowly. I would like to be an eagle in the sky. If I am spoiled, I will never be able to fly alone. Mothers are always reluctant to push their children off the cliff. True love is pushing a child to a cliff. Only when I make up my mind can I flap my wings desperately, braving the cold wind and thunderstorm and struggling on the line of life and death again and again. Most people will hate my mother. Why did she kill me so cruelly? Just like the power reduction operation of higher-order equations, with being pushed to the "muzzle" again and again, my will becomes tough and my thoughts become single: I just hate, and I only go against the sky. Actually, it is not. There is only a thin line between a chicken and an eagle. Many years have passed, and when I grow up, I can finally leave my mother's clutches. On the contrary, the extravagant reverie in the dream was rejected by a great pain. I know I'm cute, but my huge wings are cruelly broken. In my dictionary, "mother" symbolizes misfortune. Watching the blood drop by drop to form a stream on the ground, I cried, and with the "red water" flowing down ... I constantly improved myself and grew myself in love and doting. It has been a "free fall" for many years. I can fly freely like superman, up and down, left and right, and come and go freely. More flexible and sensitive than before. Looking at the reflection in the lake, I am no longer a young eagle; Strong, straight and mighty body, strong wings on both sides constitute my beauty, my courage, my efforts ... this should be true love. To whom is this outstanding achievement attributed? There is no doubt that it is my mother. Without her cruelty, how could I be today? On that day, I clearly saw that her eyes were full of tears, and I thanked her ... in fact, someone had done an experiment. If the young eagle is not broken, it will grow to two meters, which is harmful to flight. And will bid farewell to hunting forever, and will always be a baby. When I woke up, I was still the young eagle, the young eagle who cherished and loved maternal love. Love is painful, just like "beauty is always sad ..." Love is not doting, just like "happiness is always a transformation."

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In modern society, most families have only one child, so parents' love will definitely be dedicated to this child. But excessive love is doting, and doting is not equal to love. This is what we should pay attention to. Look at this picture. A child fell on the road. He just slipped on the watermelon skin. This kind of thing should be very common. It's no big deal. The children can handle it themselves. But as you can see, after the child fell, society, families and schools are asking, "Is something wrong?" This is a very bad phenomenon. This is a very common thing. Schools, families and society are so concerned. No, they don't care, but spoil. Spoiling will affect children's health in all aspects, so it is not equal to love. In the process of growing up, children need constant maturity and must undergo hard training. If a child suffers a little setback in exercise, adults will lend him a helping hand to help him solve it, which will reduce the child's coping ability and may also affect his ability to do things. This is an indirect manifestation of irresponsibility to children, so we must put an end to this kind of doting and let children grow up healthily. I was born in a family where my parents love me. I am an only child, but my parents treat me as a non-only child. They honed my legacy from childhood, such as fighting with others when I was a child. They all taught me how to solve it, and then I slowly solved it myself, which gave me the ability to deal with people. Compared with other children (spoiled children), I am much better than them. For another example, my parents taught me to wash clothes when I was young, and then I washed my own clothes. When I grew up, my parents taught me to fix some small things. Now some small things around us have gone wrong, and repairing them is not a problem. For those children who have been spoiled since childhood, the above problems may not be solved. Again, caring too much is equal to doting, and doting is not equal to love. What modern society needs is talent, and talent is not limited to learning, but more importantly, ability, which is cultivated in life and accumulated slowly. It's not a day's work, and the necessary condition for this is that adults can't spoil their children, because doting will reduce their abilities. Finally, I want to say, "Too much care is doting, and doting is not equal to love", so please don't dote on children. Misunderstanding warning articles accurately grasp the theme of cartoons, and from the perspective of children's growth, it is not the best idea to combine wrestling with excessive care and doting of family, school and society, so this article scores 17 in this item. Judging from the way of expression, the language of this article is basically fluent. Although there are many contacts between family, school and society, they are basically limited to practical affairs. Taking oneself as an example is obviously lacking in typicality, so the argument is not strong enough, so the expression score is 14. This paper can see the essence through phenomena, but the concept is relatively simple, the content is not sufficient, and the language is not prominent, so the development score is 12. The total score is 43 points. The defects of this paper are prominent, with certain characteristics, such as lack of examples, vague content, dull language, lack of literary talent, simple analysis and lack of depth. In view of the above problems, we should pay attention to the following problems in general composition teaching: 1. Learn to accumulate materials. Whether in ordinary composition training or in the senior high school entrance examination, we will see that some students' compositions fail because of their empty and unspecific contents. Writing argumentative essays (including argumentative essays), speaking empty slogans and boasting, without specific typical examples and accurate theoretical arguments. To solve this problem, we should pay attention to constantly enriching our own experiences and feelings, pay attention to life, observe diligently, reserve good writing materials, and study Chinese textbooks in a down-to-earth manner (in fact, many classic American texts in the textbooks are extremely rich in connotation, and many articles in the textbooks are the "indirect materials" for our writing); More importantly, we should read the wordless book of social life (the things around us, international and domestic events are the direct materials for our writing); We should also do everything possible to expand extracurricular reading and "read poetry books" in order to "seek wonders and draft manuscripts". 4. Master the method of argumentation. It is impossible for an article to achieve concrete enrichment by stacking materials. After listing the materials, we must carefully analyze and demonstrate them. To write a good argumentative essay, we should peel off the phenomenon shell covered by layers in the complicated appearance of the problem, grasp the core of the problem, and establish our own views from a strategically advantageous position. A problem has been discussed for a long time, but it always goes around in circles on the surface of the phenomenon, talks about the matter and stands still, and can't grasp the essence of the problem, and the views can't be clearly focused, let alone profound. This requires us to analyze the problem from a comprehensive, interrelated and developing point of view. We should not only grasp the main aspects of the problem, but also ignore the important details of things. We should be good at studying the object according to the actual situation of the development and change of things, and pay attention to the comprehensive investigation of the positive and negative, lateral, vertical and horizontal factors of things. The emergence of any problem is not isolated or accidental. Every fruit has a cause. Being good at "this and that", seeking the source, with a keen eye and with the help of the development and change of things, we can often see the essence of the problem and find a solution to it. Profound articles not only let people know why, but also let people know why.

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Once, I met such a thing on the bus. A young mother got on the bus with her little daughter. Many people offered their seats to their children on the bus, but the young mother declined. And said, "Let her stand, she is old enough to stand." At that time, I was surprised at what the mother did! I don't know why that mother did that and why she didn't grieve her daughter. I got out of the car in confusion, and it took me a long time to understand my mother's intention to do that. It turns out that she let her daughter temper since she was a child, so that she can withstand the wind and rain in the future. Maybe this is the true love that a mother gives her daughter! Children are a group of birds that will eventually leave the cage. Every parent, every family, is only a temporary haven. A ship that goes to sea will eventually go to sea. The wind and waves to be experienced are inevitable. There are many roads and dark nights in life, which can only be faced alone. Parents can't replace and undertake their children's lives. I have always been confused about what "parents' true love for their children" means. From then on, I understood that true love is to let children go through hardships and experience life. A person's life is bound to encounter many difficulties and pressures ... cultivate a person's ability to overcome difficulties from an early age, and then grow up to bear all kinds of pressures alone. And young parents are the key figures to create this opportunity for their children to hone. It's not that the mother in the car doesn't care about her daughter. She is trying to cultivate her daughter's strong and unyielding character so that she can bear the pressure brought by society. This is true love. However, in today's society, there are more and more "little emperors" and "little princesses" in China. They are afraid of falling into their hands and melting in their mouths. More and more parents believe that it is love to satisfy all the desires and needs of children. No, this is doting! How can young trees thrive without being baptized by wind and rain? How can sand become pearls without being honed by mussels? American children have been cleaning cars and selling newspapers since childhood. Why can't teenagers in China? It is reported that a college student doesn't know what clothes to wear, how to tie his shoelaces and how to boil eggs. Is it strange that such a ridiculous thing should still be alive in real life? Not surprisingly, what kind of education there is, what kind of children there will be. Isn't this an example? This proves that parents overindulge their children, which is harmful to them. Have you ever seen a lonely pine tree standing proudly on a cliff? Why does its stem not move in the cold wind? That's because when it leaned out of the boulder, it was already devastated by suffering. Have you ever seen butterflies dance? Why are its wings so powerful in the sun? That's because when it comes out of the cocoon, it tries its best to squeeze body fluids into its wings. "Blade from sharpening, plum blossom fragrance from bitter cold. "Don't experience wind and rain, how to reach the other side of victory? Parents, "sweet and sour" is an indispensable condiment in children's lives. Whether it is success or failure, children must face it and have the right to grow up. So, parents, please let your children be tempered from an early age and let them experience life! Please give your child real love! Let them experience wind and rain, let them build strong wings!