"The interpersonal relationship in the workplace is so complicated that I am tortured by meaningless office struggles every day."

"In college, I can choose to be close to people I appreciate, but in the workplace, I am always forced to accept annoying guys."

"Reading quietly in the university library for a day is more meaningful than being busy in the office for a year."

Recently, a rather novel phenomenon of "population migration" has frequently appeared among young people in the workplace. Some post-85 s and post-90 s, who have not entered the society for a long time and have relatively little work experience, have different degrees of negative feelings about the workplace: injury, boredom and confusion? Faced with all kinds of pains, they choose to be "workplace deserters". The place to escape is the university campus.

Compared with the reality and tense workplace that advocates the law of the jungle, college life is particularly close and stable, which can give people a sense of belonging and security. This contrast makes some young people willingly abandon the workplace and go to campus. But can "repeat reading" really be a good medicine to cure heart disease in the workplace? How long can young workplace deserters be sheltered by university campuses?

Workplace Injury: To improve the endurance of setbacks, workplace setbacks should be the cornerstone of the rise, not the shadow.

Zhang Haixuan, born in 1990, graduated from a well-known university in China on 20 13 and joined a financial company in China, holding the salary envied by most fresh graduates.

However, after Zhang Haixuan went to work for a period of time, many things in the workplace made him unacceptable. For example, leaders who are too strong often force employees to work overtime and ask everyone to forward their own "glorious deeds" WeChat article links in the circle of friends; Colleagues crowd out each other, and Zhang Haixuan feels that he is always suppressed by the team leader, and the newcomers are useless.

Zhang Haixuan has a great personality and is quite independent. He doesn't want to kiss up to others, nor does he bother to cater to his colleagues. A year later, he chose to resign and move to a second company. Soon, new problems broke out, and he continued to move after half a year? From 20 13 to 20 16, Zhang Haixuan changed four jobs three years after graduation. Repeated job-hopping, in addition to physical and mental fatigue, will also lead to other problems. For example, when he submits a new resume, he is always suspected of "often resigning because it is not reliable".

Zhang Haixuan was deeply "scarred" and lamented that he was too unsuitable for the workplace. He decided to "hide for a while"-go to a domestic university for postgraduate study.

Sitting back in the classroom and moving back to the dormitory, Zhang Haixuan feels that interpersonal relationships have become simple and beautiful, taking classes, playing ball games and traveling on vacation with his classmates? Of course, two years later, the future plan will still be in front of us, so he is also secretly anxious about the "end of escape" that will eventually come. Zhang Haixuan did not dare to think too far. But doing good deeds will bring Mo Wen a future.

Regarding Zhang Haixuan's escape from "workplace injury", Zhang Lili, an expert in career planning, believes that returning to school because of workplace setbacks shows that psychological trauma has been formed, which is a potential hidden danger. Even if you return to the seemingly simple campus, when you graduate, it will also cause the original wound. At the same time, after a new round of further study in the university, personal expectations will inevitably rise, and the expectations of the social workplace will be greatly improved compared with a few years ago, which will lead to an increase in his inner anxiety.

Zhang Lili pointed out that the key to the escape of "work-related injuries" is that these young people don't realize their lack of tolerance for self-frustration. What I escape is only the external environment, but I can't escape myself. "Psychologically speaking, in fact, the setbacks people encounter are opportunities to climb stairs. If you escape every time, life will always be fixed at this height. "

"Now that I am back, I need to make a new career plan." Zhang Lili believes that the advantage of temporarily returning to school is that these young people have experienced the real workplace, so they can "re-explore their life values" and "understand what they have accumulated before by combing and sorting out their career plans, and should not regard the original workplace as the shadow of wrestling, but as a new cornerstone of their rise".

"Workplace boredom": Career progress is not always "upward", sometimes it is horizontal development.

Li Yi, a post-90s girl, joined a foreign company after graduating from college. At the beginning, the offer of this company made her quite proud, because Li Yi defeated many elites who were "beautiful" than her education, and only after passing the customs did she get her wish.

In this foreign company, as long as you work hard, promotion and salary increase will be quick. However, after working for two years, Li Yi suddenly became dissatisfied with her present life. She thinks her job is a "repetitive machine". Even if she can be a department head in the future, her consumption level in this city will only be higher in the future. In short, "Life can see her head at a glance".

Li Yi saw her cousin who studied and settled in Europe, and her life was much richer than her own. "Life is increasing every day." Li Yi was particularly envious and advised her parents to resign and study in Europe.

Li Yi studied in Europe for a year and graduated from graduate school. She didn't want to end her happy experience abroad, so she insisted on continuing her studies, not considering looking for a job for the time being, and didn't want to return to the "infinite loop" of boring life.

"After 90, the economic conditions are good and the information is developed. Rich information sometimes leads this generation to live in their thoughts instead of living in life. They get a lot of information through TV movies and feel as if they have lived for many years. " Zhang Lili pointed out that Yi Lee's so-called mentality of "seeing through life" is often due to his lack of life experience, and he is used to drawing too big conclusions from trivial matters, feeling that he is "clear at a glance".

Premature conclusions about career and life may be just an imagination in a narrow vision.

Zhang Lili warned that young people should not copy and use other people's perspectives to perceive the world. They "have no eyes of their own" and lack curiosity and enthusiasm, so it is difficult to find their own development direction.

According to Zhong Lifeng, an associate professor in the Business School of Renmin University of China, once you are familiar with the basic business, you might as well study abroad to experience the increment of life, which is not only a misinterpretation of the work itself, but also a reflection of a lack of full understanding of life.

"Repetition itself is not meaningless, as long as you can create value every day, this is the meaning." Zhong Lifeng pointed out that some young people do not judge the quality of their work by value, but by their personal freshness and happiness. This mentality is very immature, and they act too much on their feelings. Some work seems to be "repetitive" on the surface, but in fact it is not exactly the same simple cycle, which includes a slow development process and is the only way to accumulate experience.

Zhong Lifeng believes that the younger generation needs to realize that career development may not always be "upward", and sometimes it may be horizontal. The deep value of a job lies in the excavation of its "richness" and the promotion of self-innovation consciousness.

"Spiritual crisis": Stop thinking and ask questions, which is a necessary lesson for growth.

1Wang Yong, a young man after 985, found a job as a programmer in Shanghai after graduating from college. Through hard work and the support of parents, Wang Yong bought a house and a car in Shanghai after working for six years, and her material life was more secure.

But a year ago, Wang Yong suddenly fell into an unexplained anxiety, which he described as "a suspected middle-aged mental crisis". He felt that work could not make him find a fuller sense of existence and accomplishment, but he thought hard and couldn't find a solution.

Wang Yong felt that perhaps the traditional education he had received since childhood and the current single working environment made him out of touch with the more diverse world outside. In order to get rid of the mental crisis, Wang Yong chose to escape from everything he was familiar with and seek answers from the unknown outside, so he went to Hong Kong to study and "take a step at a time".

Zhong Lifeng pointed out that this situation in Wang Yong mainly belongs to an "age crisis". When the working state stabilizes and reaches a level of small achievements, people will worry about their age and subsequent development, "knowing that youth is gone, thinking about how to compete with young people in the future."

Zhong Lifeng thinks that it is a suitable choice to adjust and sublimate the state of the workplace through study at a relatively mature age and rational state of mind.

On weekdays, Zhong Lifeng also comes into contact with many "weekend class" students, all of whom are on-the-job graduate students. "They are really tired and hope to change." Zhong Lifeng believes that, in any case, since some young people have decided to increase the option of going back to school on the career path, they must be clear about the purpose of study. "Going to school itself is not for employment and credits, but to help you think and improve your self-cultivation after thinking. It is a misunderstanding to think that going to school can solve all problems with utilitarianism. "

Zhang Lili believes that it is a natural phenomenon that young people experience job burnout and want to change, which is not a bad thing for personal growth. A person needs to stop at a certain moment, gain a foothold, look back at the scenery and think about the road he has traveled.

For rational purposes, returning to college is an opportunity to "stop thinking". "If you have such an opportunity, ask yourself, ask yourself, life may change a lot and life will fly." Inquiry is a necessary lesson for growth. Only those who break through themselves can emerge from the cocoon, while those who give up the breakthrough will always be solidified in infancy.

However, Zhang Lili stressed that "internal investigation" is never immediate, and it is likely to take a period of in-depth exploration. She suggested that it is best to get help from others when you have the opportunity to stop and examine yourself. "People have a short perspective when they encounter difficulties, and they just want to run at that moment. If someone talks to him, it may give him a more rational and positive treatment. "

(Zhang Haixuan, Li Yi and Wang Yong are all pseudonyms)