Quarrel is inversely proportional to love.
Why are we fighting? Quarrel shows that the other party doesn't love me enough, and we are not harmonious enough, which is a precursor to emotional breakdown.
I will establish contact with my Mr. Right.
If I cut my hand while cooking in the kitchen, he will suddenly feel a pain in the living room. This is the perfect love. If he is the only thrill, we should guide each other. I don't have to say anything, the other party should also understand my mind.
Relationships and personalities are hard to change.
If we are like that, it's doomed. If he is a lazy egg, he will be a lazy egg all his life. If he has betrayed me, don't expect it won't happen again.
Failed sex life is not allowed.
Sex is the mirror of love. If we love each other enough, we won't have even one failure experience. We should all attract each other and try our best to meet each other's needs.
Men and women are very different.
As described in "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", men and women are as different as they are from two planets (I must point out that some contents of this book have not been confirmed by psychology, on the contrary, there is evidence that men and women are often much more similar than they think). Because of this, even with a lot of efforts, it is still difficult to really understand the creatures on another planet.
It is true to let nature take its course.
If we are a natural couple, we are destined to be together. If we are not, we can't change anything after all. Efforts and adjustments can change very little, so we should let it develop naturally.
Will you find your own shadow between the lines above? We may not believe every point mentioned above, but we will probably nod our heads and praise some paragraphs. If you agree with all the above, then you really need to be careful. These are the public enemies of intimacy.
These views are not realistic enough. Let's not say whether they are completely correct, because no one has really done relevant experiments or investigations. But one thing is certain, the behavior brought about by these views is not constructive, and people who adhere to the above views are more likely to be frustrated in their feelings or marriage. If you think that quarrel is a symbol of emotional breakdown, you are bound to usher in one "broken" relationship after another. If you find it difficult for others to change, then this relationship can only let nature take its course. When there is a rift between two people, you tend to give up rather than make up. If you ask for empathy and 100% perfect sex life, your chances of disappointment will greatly increase, and all this will only lead to an ending-people who believe in these concepts are even less likely to be happy.
In fact, even the closest people, such as parents, we can't never stop quarreling, and examples of rekindling old feelings are common. If we are willing to give up these "emotional killers", that is, 8.528.cm's tolerance for ourselves and others, we will more easily achieve positive results and usher in a happy life.