And how much weight does the exam take in the long life?
The exam that many people can't ignore the most should be the college entrance examination.
Me too.
I took part in the college entrance examination twice. I had a high fever before the first college entrance examination, which led me to go to the examination room in a daze. My grades were too poor to read, and my application was put aside in frustration. Later, I struggled for a long time and went back to study for a year. My grades that year were actually not too bad. I just arrived at the math exam on the day of the college entrance examination, and found that there were still two questions that I couldn't figure out after sitting for a long time. I could only stare at the watch on the desktop in a hurry, and then the bell rang and handed it in, feeling "finished."
I held my breath and silently comforted myself all the way not to take math so seriously. However, when I looked at the parents standing in a row outside the examination room and recognized my mother in the crowd at a glance, my tears suddenly fell down and I was full of guilt. Considering the pressure of my exam, my mother made a special trip to cook at home and take it to the examination room in town by car, but the sumptuous meal deepened my guilt.
Mom asked, how was the exam?
I can only bow my head and say, no, I won't do it.
She handed me the incubator, accompanied me for a walk on campus and said slowly, "Don't be in such a bad mood, others didn't do well in the exam. There are still two subjects tomorrow, and it is not bad to fail in one exam or two. " Go back and have a good meal. If you pass the exam, forget it. Don't look. The mentality should be flat, and no one said that it would be over to send a scientific examination to the college entrance examination ... "
At that time, my brain had collapsed and I couldn't listen to what my mother said. After seeing my mother off, I went back to the dormitory and sat by the bed to eat. I was sad while eating and held back my tears several times. Finally, I stood under the shower and kept staring at my face.
Funny thing is, in the end, I didn't even get into the two books my mother said, but my grades came out, my math scores were not bad, and I got into the top ten in the province in Chinese. But because of my mentality, the English and literature I was good at the next day became a dragging subject.
The college entrance examination is an exam that I spent a lot of time and energy trying to win, but I lost to myself in the end. Many years later, when I heard the sentence "excellent adults have already given up their emotions", I realized more deeply that the college entrance examination taught me a lesson about emotions and mentality, which made me more aware of the importance of these two things in my life.
Many years later, in the college entrance examination, a senior high school student of many years old asked me in Weibo whether my life would be over if I failed in the college entrance examination.
I have to say that at that time, I also had the idea that "the college entrance examination was ruined and my life was over".
But if you live a long life, it's really nothing. Of course it doesn't mean it's not important.
If you do well in the exam, you will have the opportunity to see more outstanding people, the circle is relatively high-quality, and you can enjoy more resources from good schools;
If you don't do well in the exam, it is that you need to take this opportunity to shuffle your cards. This is an opportunity to test how you play the bad cards with a good ending. You should make good use of it.
The second exam that has a great influence on me is the college graduation exam.
I majored in pharmaceutical marketing in university. Out of consideration for my mother's physical condition at that time, I chose my medical major in hundreds of pages of volunteer books and shouted the slogan "Learn medicine well and cure my mother's stomach trouble". Later, after going through courses such as "touching mummies, dissecting rabbits, observing bacterial reproduction and understanding childbirth", I found that I was not qualified for this job.
So when I was near my junior year, I knew that the school had a special edition choice, that is, medical marketing students could pass the exam and switch to marketing, and then they could get the undergraduate certificate of marketing two years later. I gave up my school application and chose another school I liked, which was also the literature major of the TOP 1 school in Guangdong Province at that time.
I hesitated at first, because in probability, the success rate of applying to our school is 90%, and the success rate of applying to other schools is almost 10%. And in an afternoon, I sat in the last row of the lecture hall on a whim, wanting to see how everyone listened to the class. As a result, everyone is immersed in playing mobile phones. At that moment, I asked myself, are you going to stay here for two years and use this time to play mobile phones?
The answer is no, plus at that time, after understanding the work of professional counterparts, I decided that I was not suitable or willing to be a medical representative, although it sounded very profitable.
So I chose to apply for other schools' majors and became a maverick in my class. My daily life is to get up early and leave the dormitory for the library, go back to the dormitory for a nap at noon, then find a classroom to sit down and read books and do exercises until evening, go to the playground for a few laps, then sneak into the postgraduate entrance examination classroom of the school and stick to my little dream behind the pile of high books.
During that time, I occasionally heard some comments. For example, "If you are so brave, why did you bother to give up a major in 99% of the exams?" "Not just to get a bachelor's degree certificate? What's different? Who studies so hard in college? " "She doesn't have any resources, and there are few other professional materials on the Internet, and there is nothing to learn. It really depends on self-study and luck. It will be funny if she fails the exam ... "Sometimes she will feel sad and want to give up. Writing a lot of words and running around in the diary or on the playground became a catharsis at that time.
Later, I didn't get into that school by seven points. I don't believe it when I know my grades, but I have to face the reality after all. That night I ran to the playground and sat in the strong wind for a long time. I want to cry, but I can't.
A voice in my heart is laughing at myself-you see, that's right. I don't have the strength to enter another school. Why should I give myself the whole hard choice? Great, I can't stay in this school, and I can't get into other schools, so I have to graduate.
I got up very late the next day. Graduation was near at that time, and there was no one in the dormitory that day. I sat by the bed in a trance, thinking about my future. When I had planned it, I suddenly lost my mind, buried my head and cried for a while, then jumped out of bed, stood in front of the mirror and washed my face, and said to myself in the mirror-something is hard but you still can't get it, and it may not belong to you. If you go back in time, I believe you will still choose the latter between 90% and 10%. No matter what the result is, learn to accept it.
Later, a friend sent me a short message, which remained in my memo.
The scenery of every window is beautiful. You can announce its end with another beautiful beginning. Life is so long, you need more experience to make your eyes full of tears, so that you won't live in vain.
This exam made me understand that sometimes in life, your efforts may not necessarily have corresponding gains, but you should learn to live up to your own aspirations and know what you want.
Once again, I learned about the New Zealand work visa. If you want to get a visa, you must pass the IELTS 5.5 exam. And I'm just a person who's still at work after Band Six.
After returning home, many people ask, what makes you want to go to New Zealand?
My answer is, because I want to go abroad to see, and my family does not have this economic condition, so I want to try to go out by myself.
At that time, I lived in a village in the city, and it was very noisy around. When I got home from work, I chatted with my roommates and took turns taking a shower. I couldn't sit at my desk reading until about ten o'clock. I went to work during the day, learned a little after work at night, got up at 6 o'clock the next day, and went out to work at 8 o'clock, so I persisted for nearly a month.
I did a lot of papers before the exam, and 40 reading questions were generally only for 10+, which was quite bleak. Later, I spread out all the papers for one night, summed up several reading methods suitable for me and took them to the examination room. Finally, I equalized the scores of the other three exams, scored 8 points in reading and successfully passed the IELTS test. For the exam, my mind is much more relaxed than before.
Get a visa and fly to the southern hemisphere alone for more than a year. Many people envy my freedom and courage to experience life abroad, but after returning home, I am faced with serious occupational anxiety. After all, the emergence of New Zealand has caused a fault in my career. I once doubted myself whether going abroad for more than a year would make me lag behind my peers. Is this a wrong choice for me?
But there is no way, since you bet on youth, don't regret it. Every step of life is very important, no matter what, you have to understand that there is no turning back.
Later, I slowly adjusted my status, found a job and started again. You will also find that the experience in New Zealand will not be an obstacle for you to start over, but a precious past worth remembering.
Now, I'm still taking the exam.
In order to complete the self-taught undergraduate course that was not completed before going abroad. I chose to take the self-study exam because I wanted to leave myself a possibility at that time, so I applied for the Chinese language and literature major of Sun Yat-sen University. Before going abroad, I had completed nearly half of the exams by myself. After returning to China, after listening to the suggestion that "education is not so important, it is better to spend time learning a practical skill", I still feel that I should insist on finishing this long exam.
To this end, we always have to let ourselves go back to the preparation stage for a period of time. With the increase of work items, sometimes there will be confusion. And every time I get close to the examination room, I always hear such words-I won't take the exam after the exam. It's really too difficult, but it fails every time.
There are 30 people in an examination room, and the number of people present at each examination is often only about 10.
Self-taught examination is a long-term confrontation between a person and himself. Maybe he will meet his companions at first, and some people will quit while walking. Choosing to give up is something that can be done in one second. You can lie at home, watch a play, sleep and review the questions without reading. Choosing a continuation person means that you should balance your work and life, and then take the time to learn what you should learn.
It's easy to give up, but stick to it and turn learning into a lifelong habit, and you will become a cool person.
There will be many exams on the road of life in the future, not necessarily exams for exam-oriented education. Many checkpoints in life are also tests again and again. I believe that those tests that have been tested are opportunities for life to shuffle. You have to grasp it well before you can push yourself to what you expect more. If you are still not sure after your efforts, then you should believe that you have never regretted such a mistake in your life, because you have worked hard and are worthy of yourself.