My child's first class at school was an unprecedented blow to me.
Gao Xiao's family is in business. Because of the good economic conditions at home, she wants to give her children the best material and spiritual. When the child was about to go to elementary school, she and her husband chose a private school with the most expensive tuition in the city. She thinks that the children produced by such schools must be the best. However, on the first day when the child came back from school, she regretted choosing this school. Because the child came back and asked her, "Mom, what brand is the car that Dad drives?" Is it imported? How big is our house? Is this the only house in our family? "Gao Xiao asked carefully, only to find that the teachers in the school are counting the specific family situation of each student, specifically the economic strength of the family. Gao Xiao and her husband think that on the first day of school, they should not teach students to study hard, but should do something unrelated to teaching. In this way, teachers and schools that only pay attention to material things can really cultivate students with good moral character and good outlook on life, even if the tuition fees are high and the teachers are strong and perfect?
The "circle law" tells us that children's poor academic performance or incorrect views are directly related to whether there is a positive energy circle. A bad campus environment is likely to bring various growth problems to children.
1, school violence.
The reason why key schools are highly respected by parents and students is not only because of the enrollment rate, but also because the campus order of these schools is better and the campus environment is safer. Students are more focused on their studies and will not gang up and bully other students. School discipline is strict, and campus violence lacks breeding ground. We hope that children can study with peace of mind and grow up healthily. First, we must ensure that they can grow up in a safe environment. Campus violence not only hurts children physically, but also hurts their minds. Children who have experienced school violence are likely to lose confidence in the future. Therefore, the first thing to consider when choosing a school is whether the campus order is good or not.
2. Keep up with the joneses.
The "peer effect" put forward by sociologist James Coleman tells us that if a child's partner loves reading, has a good personality and is ready to help others, then the child is likely to love reading, be kind and have a good personality. On the other hand, if a child's friends only care about what fashionable clothes and sneakers to wear every day, and don't keep up with the competition, they will be laughed at for buying big brands, so will the child and his companions. To put it simply, what kind of person you want your child to be, you have to put him in what kind of crowd, surrounded by classmates who love learning but don't like comparison, and he has no reason to fool around every day.
3. Negative learning attitude.
In fact, children are naturally curious and want to learn new things. If he is often encouraged by his parents, teachers and classmates, he will be more interested in learning. If the school's education method is cramming teaching, and students' independent thinking ability is not paid attention to, the learning content will be dull, which will reduce students' interest in learning and dampen their enthusiasm for learning for a long time. Students don't like studying and are distracted. When it comes to study, they will be extremely irritable. In such a learning environment, even if a child is naturally eager to learn, he will be adversely affected, his attitude will become more and more negative, and learning will only make him more and more collapsed.
When we choose a school for our children, we should not only look at the teachers and enrollment rate of this school, but also pay attention to several aspects.
1, campus spiritual and cultural construction.
Good schools don't just care about students' grades. Many schools that attach importance to quality education are often the focus, while many schools that try their best to take exams are very poor. Observing the key schools in China, you will find that there are many interest groups in these schools. Students are not only the masters of learning, but also have many artistic specialties, such as painting, playing the piano and singing. Such activities are not the most important but indispensable part of campus life. Such schools also attach importance to the moral education of students, and will regularly evaluate some outstanding students with high quality. As parents, we know that learning is not everything to a child, and we hope that he is a kind, honest and upright person.
2. Whether the campus system is perfect.
The campus system is not perfect. When some vicious incidents happen, the school has no coping mechanism, and the biggest victims will be students. A good school will constantly improve its management system. For teachers, a good school will strictly restrain teachers, review teachers' teaching plans and arrangements, so that teachers can specialize in teaching, and will not think about how to secretly receive gifts from home and will not be passive. For students, a good school will have strict discipline. When students have bad behaviors such as cheating, fighting, smoking and drinking, the school will severely deal with students. Good order, while standardizing teachers and students, will create a rich learning atmosphere for the school.
3. The campus hardware facilities are complete.
Although it is important to have a strong faculty, outstanding achievements in the past and a perfect campus system, the hardware strength of the campus can not be ignored. First of all, there must be a good canteen. After all, children are growing up, and the most important lunch every day must be eaten at school. Insufficient nutrition can not meet the basic physiological needs, let alone spiritual growth. Secondly, schools should also have large enough playgrounds. Nowadays, children lack physical exercise, so it is essential to exercise at ordinary times. Third, there must be a complete laboratory. Many exams depend on the experimental results of physics, life and chemistry, and these experiments require students to practice every day.
Choosing a good school for children is not once and for all. In the process of children's learning, parents must help them grow better.
1, improve children's personal ability.
We often hear such words: what kind of family makes what kind of children. If a child wants to have a strong body, a multi-dimensional way of thinking, a sound personality, a healthy lifestyle and a self-disciplined learning attitude at the same time, it is far from enough to rely solely on the education of schools and teachers. Being born in a family is a place to shape a child's comprehensive ability.
In school, teachers are more preaching to children, and children get the most knowledge. If parents want their children to grow stronger, they should pay attention to the cultivation of their comprehensive personal abilities, such as the good living habits of going to bed early and getting up early, the ability to do all kinds of housework, and the self-discipline habit of not being urged to do homework. All these require us as parents to guide our children and give them a demonstration.
Teachers teach children knowledge, and parents teach them how to "be a man". Only in this way, children will gradually become independent, confident, optimistic and kind people, and it will be easier for them to integrate into society after entering society.
2. Communicate with teachers frequently.
Educating children is the most important responsibility of parents, because we are raising children, not teachers. Therefore, we can't think that everything will be fine if we hand over the children to the teachers. Once the children have problems in their studies or other aspects, we think that this is simply the teacher's problem and go to the teacher's trouble.
Good parents know how to plan ahead and prevent problems before they happen. Once children's problems are found, they will take the initiative to talk to the teacher to understand why there are problems. And irresponsible parents are always slow, often teachers take the initiative to find them, and parents have not realized that their children's growth has serious problems.
Usually observe and pay attention to the child's behavior. If you find that your child has some bad habits, or has psychological changes, or his academic performance suddenly drops, you should actively communicate with the teacher to understand the child's performance in school, find out the reasons with the teacher, and come up with solutions to help the child tide over the difficulties.
3. Create a stable family atmosphere.
There was a popular saying for a while that the best education for children is that dad loves mom, which really makes sense. Besides studying at school, children spend more time at home. If parents and family quarrel all day and the family falls apart, it is difficult for children to settle down and do their own things. What about growing up?
Family environment is the most important environment for children's growth, which directly affects children's world outlook and outlook on life, affects children's perspective on and attitude towards things, and also affects children's personality development. A harmonious and stable family, the child's personality will be sound and gentle, will not be extreme and impulsive, and will not be afraid to retreat when encountering problems.
Many parents think that children are crooked because there is something wrong with school education, and they blame the school for their children's problems. They have never reflected on their failure to provide a good family atmosphere and let their children live in a stable environment.
To sum up, to choose a school for children, we should consider it comprehensively from many aspects and choose a good learning environment for children. It depends on whether the school's past enrollment rate is high, whether the average score of students is good, whether the school's teachers are strong enough, and whether the school's educational concept is advanced. It also depends on whether the school can attach importance to the all-round development of students' morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor, whether the school has a good campus order and management system, and whether the school has enough hardware facilities. After all, it is good. In addition, when parents choose a good school for their children, they do not just give up their children. The combination of family education and school education is more conducive to helping children shape their independent personality and develop in an all-round way.