Recently, there was a variety show "Dear Come to Dinner", which was another plagiarism program, but there was no plagiarism essence. This program simply lets the stars go to some amateur homes for dinner.

The slogan is to visit a family with rice. Experience a delicious meal and all kinds of life. It sounds sweet, but it stinks. It also exposed the quality of several people.

First, the first group, Huang Zulin and Fan. They started dialing a family number at random.

Can I go to your place for dinner after I give my name? The other party refused, saying that no one was cooking at home. As a result, Huang Zulin directly said, "What about you?"

During this period, two aunts passed by without saying hello to them. They began to vomit passers-by, "Is this the attitude of seeing stars?" .

At the moment, I am very confused. Do I have to "wow, stars" and look surprised and admired?

Then the two followed the takeaway brother into the building.

Knocking on an uncle's door, the uncle has clearly rejected them, saying it is inconvenient. As if he didn't understand, he continued to beg forcibly.

I finally met two willing people. I heard that people didn't eat until after six o'clock, so I refused and went to the toilet.

Then I met a magician on the road. Fan learned that men earn money by magic, and various occupations belittle others.

Only when they got on the bus did they know that they lived in Qingpu. Huang Chulin complained to the host and even shouted "I am so hungry" three times.

Fan scrambled eggs with tomatoes, which was a mess. All kinds of embarrassing chats during dinner were not warm at all.

Secondly, the second group, Jerry and Sean, at least two of them are quite polite.

The host works as a chef in a restaurant, and the hostess goes out to set up a stall every night. The host spends a few days' salary to buy a lot of vegetables. Jerry is good at helping others cook at home.

Before eating, the hostess said that she liked big ribs best, but Sean ate two at once. The hostess couldn't bear it any longer, reminding him that tomorrow is lunch.

Jerry shared that he seldom reunited with his family, while Sean kept talking about how much he had done for his parents.

Sean finally said, one of you can go early and the other can be late. Really, why not eat minced meat? The host works for more than ten hours during the day, and the hostess goes out to set up a stall at night in winter. People are trying to make a living. Will it be like this if conditions are good?

Finally, two families came to the Oriental Pearl before and chose the elevator operator, but they chose the wrong one. Finally, the magician family who took the subway for more than an hour really didn't go up, and they had to cooperate with them to advertise.

Looking at the whole program, it's really irritating. It can hardly reflect what the program wants to express, and it is more of a star show. For example, I don't respect people, I feel self-righteous, and I don't know how to read.

Learn to respect others.

A person's best accomplishment should be this. While respecting others, you will also be respected.

Stars may attract many people's attention, but this cannot be the capital of arrogance.

During my days as an intern at the auction house, I met many people with good economic conditions. Millions or even tens of millions can be photographed. The economic conditions are definitely good and the career is not small.

However, most people I meet are smiling with kindness. With the appearance of modesty, the whole people are polite and don't put on airs at all.

On the contrary, some people look like nouveau riche, their financial strength is not very strong, they seldom say "thank you" and don't have a kind smile. They are very arrogant. I guess they want to shoot some small clips to show their faces. Even if they have cultural things, they still have cultural shortcomings.

I think winning without arrogance and rashness is a person's best accomplishment. Respect for others will be praised, and everyone will be willing to cooperate with such people.

Otherwise, you won't get real recognition. No one has reason to look at others with lofty eyes, and there is no reason to laugh at others with disdain.

You can't tell others what to do for a living.

Magicians do what they like by virtue of their own abilities. When an irrelevant person goes to dinner, he has to talk about how other people earn money in their careers, which makes others very embarrassed.

If people don't steal or rob, and you don't support it, why should you accuse others of doing something wrong? Maybe others' insistence is right, and they will succeed one day by chance. Why deny others?

As a stranger, we should give others affirmation.

I told an earlier news story that the car of a former colleague of an online celebrity collided with the car of a takeaway brother. At that time, after the police handled it, the former colleague was sentenced to full responsibility.

As a result, female bloggers have been outraged by this and want to secretly retaliate. Female online celebrities deliberately caused friction between the car and the takeaway brother.

The takeaway brother wanted to call the police. As a result, the female blogger went straight forward and tried to grab the takeaway brother's mobile phone. The takeaway brother showed considerable restraint without any resistance; Just keep retreating and keep your distance from female bloggers.

As a result, female bloggers even pushed their luck and began to abuse, push and even kick the takeaway brother with their feet. During the period, there was arrogance in the speech, a feeling of superiority.

I know that many people look down on online celebrities because of some chaos. And online celebrities look down on others, so how can he gain the respect of others?

Mu Xin said, "Educated people will never prevaricate with drivers, waiters or anyone who delivers things."

3 be a low-key person

Because everyone can realize their own smallness, they can take it in stride.

Stars are human beings, and amateurs are human beings. No one is nobler than anyone else, and no one needs to please anyone or anyone.

There is a proverb that says, "Heaven is unreasonable, and earth is unreasonable. With everything as a reference, we can see our own shortcomings. "

Low-key people are often extraordinary, and those who are complacent about some small achievements are people with no background.

The world is very big, maybe a small house is crouching tiger, hidden dragon, but it is stronger to show off. Low-key people seem to lower themselves, but their personality charm has greatly increased.

Zhong Nanshan, the most popular figure recently, is an ordinary-looking old man. Recently, I learned that he was infected during SARS, so I isolated myself and took some medicine with me.

He said he didn't want to say it at that time, so as not to make people panic, and it's not worth saying now. It's nothing. It can be said that it is hidden.

There is another one who has to mention that he is wearing a sweatshirt of tens of yuan and a straw hat, walking in the fields, just like ordinary farmers. However, he promoted the development of grain. He is Yuan Longping, the father of hybrid rice. It's always simple, and I didn't say anything to grab people's attention.

You can't underestimate yourself, and you can't be proud of your merits; Under the fame, it is really difficult to be a deputy.

It is said that after Liu Chengming, his colleagues told him that there was a science fiction writer with the same name, and he was not low-key. His personality charm also made him gain many fans.

Many times we succeed, but maybe occasionally we fail. People with high voices are happy in their hearts, even when they are depressed. Low-key people will not encounter these things, and maybe they will get help.

4. Learn to read and read.

To be a man, we should improvise and see who serves what dishes and sings what songs on what mountains.

Flexibility is a means of being a man and a kind of life wisdom. It can save you from danger in a crisis and make people feel like a duck to water.

Now I know how to think from the other side's point of view, so that I won't be as embarrassed as Sean. The hostess said that he ate because of him, and he ate very hard, which made people feel that his emotional intelligence was very low.

Maybe Sean's financial conditions are good, and a few big rows are nothing to him, but when it comes to ordinary people, we should consider them from the perspective of others.

Observing what people say is also very important for people's emotional intelligence. Don't say anything when you meet someone else's scar.

This is necessary if you want to have good interpersonal relationships.

Language is the best bond. We should listen to others. Respond accordingly through other people's language.

I'm not talking about unlimited flattery, but getting a good popularity to a greater extent without offending myself.

In the workplace, a person who can't read words and deeds will never have the hope of promotion and salary increase. Maybe you work harder than others and are excellent, but you will lose a lot because you can't do things and be a man.

Zhang Zi is a student of Confucius, and Xunzi's evaluation of him is: "Zhang Zi is also a humble Confucian."

For example. One day, Zhang asked Confucius, "Master, when will we scholars be developed?" Confucius must have been extremely unhappy at that time. Confucius asked, "What do you mean by developed?" .

Confucius probably wanted him to stop this topic. As a result, he replied: "If there is a country, it will smell, and the family will smell."

Confucius replied, "What you said is nothing but a name. You should be honest, then learn to observe words and deeds and be kind to others, so that you will naturally develop. "

It can be seen that it is necessary to observe words and feelings.

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Carnegie pointed out: "Only 65,438+05% of a person's success depends on his professional knowledge, while 85% depends on his good interpersonal relationship and interpersonal skills."

Maybe it's not so exaggerated, but high emotional intelligence can't be wrong.

High EQ requires more than these three points. There must be many excellent qualities.

People with low emotional intelligence may just be careless, but they are bound to suffer, so it is necessary to learn to do things.

Emotional intelligence is also plastic, I hope we can all have it.

* * * Encourage.