While we were chatting, we suddenly heard the mother at the next table shout "Come here", and the child stopped at 1 meter. "I'm going to count down,1..." The child skipped 3 meters away.
Why can't counting show its due effect on this mother?
The true intention of counting
Generally speaking, counting is to let children "understand" their parents' "real intentions", and I hope children know that I am counting now because I am angry. If you don't do as I say, you will wait for me to punish you! ! ! Counting site
Today, our venue is in the restaurant (steak house), which is a public place. The children are very clever. Ta knows that on different occasions, my mother said it just to scare me. In normal times, she might have come to "clean up" me. The result of counting
After the mother began to count, the child actually ignored this instruction and began to walk, which to a great extent shows that this is what the mother usually does. Let's fill in a scene and give a chestnut:
Daughter, you should come and tidy up your toys, but if you don't come, I will start counting "1, 2,3", and then help my daughter clean up while complaining about her bad behavior.
This chestnut is just a supplement to the mother in today's article. In life, different parents will have different effects if they don't clean their toys.
In most cases, this is the result. When the mother started counting, she just added a label of "breaking her word" to her child's mind. How can the children listen to your instructions again?
What can you do to make the children obey? 1. Parents are role models for children, parents are originals and children are replicas. If you want children to be obedient and have prestige in front of them, you must do what you say and do what you say.
2. Make and abide by the rules
When children are free to express their ideas, they can discuss the rules that can be implemented with them and jointly protect and abide by them.