1, respect the equality of personality. The expression of mutual respect for personality between lovers is mainly to respect each other's independence and attach importance to each other's equality. Both parties in love are independent in personality. It is a misinterpretation of the essence of love to regard each other as their vassals, or to lose themselves because they are attached to each other. 2. Consciously take responsibility. Taking the initiative to take responsibility for each other is the embodiment of the essence of love. Whether the other person is in prosperity or adversity, rich or poor, healthy or sick, if you love someone or accept their love, you should consciously take responsibility for each other. Responsibility is not a simple chanting of "I only have you in my heart", but a consciousness that needs to be seen in action. 3. Civilizations love each other. Civilized love means that lovers love each other, are close to each other, behave appropriately and respect each other, but it is by no means vulgar and indulgent in attitude, behavior and language. Couples should abide by social ethics when they go in and out of public places, and don't have adverse effects on other people's lives and public places. Love taboo 1, slander. The most important thing to avoid in love is slander. It's normal to be noisy in love, but slander should not happen, especially for girls nowadays, who are willful and easy to say some malicious words. 2. Go to see the opposite sex without telling her/him. Love is exclusive, exclusive and exclusive. In love, whether you have feelings or not, you should be honest with each other and tell him/her instead of hiding it from another person who has a good impression. 3. Do something against the principle. Everyone has his own principles. Love between men and women also involves values and outlook on life. They will also tell their beloved partner about their principles, and pay attention to avoid doing things that violate the principles and hurt each other's feelings. Love morality II. The moral requirements in love are mainly reflected in: respect for equality of personality, conscious responsibility, civilized love and freedom of marriage and divorce. Both parties in love should be true and sincere to each other and voluntarily take responsibility for each other. The essence of love is that both parties in love are willing to give their feelings and be responsible for the people they love. Love should respect each other's feelings and personality and fulfill their moral obligations equally. Both parties in love have independent personalities and equal relationships. Men and women should respect each other's feelings and personality. Everyone has the right to love and be loved and the right to choose a lover. Things to pay attention to when falling in love In the process of falling in love, in addition to observing the above-mentioned moral norms, we should also learn to handle several relationships, such as dealing with the relationship between love and study, as well as the relationship between work and caring for others. In order to fall in love with the other half, many people always want to spend too much time in love, but this delays their work and even affects their lives. This is not desirable. Love is just an emotional stage in people's daily life, so there is no need to put all the time and energy into love. If you invest too much time and energy, even if you manage the relationship well, other work, career and life will be greatly affected, which will not be beneficial to their future. So in the process of falling in love, you don't need to invest too much time. You should learn to allocate reasonably and handle the relationship between love and work life. Morality in love 3 The relationship between marriage, love and sex continues the previous topic. Let's first look at the relationship between love and sex. Sex without love is desire, and love without love is also prone to problems. After all, love is a spiritual need, and sex is a physiological need. Sex does not necessarily have love, and it is difficult to breed love. In Mao Mu's The Moon and Sixpence, Charles Strickland had sex with Blanche, but it was obvious that he had no feelings for her. At that time, Charles Strickland devoted himself to the pursuit of art and had no intention of anything other than art. His soul was pure, but his body occasionally interfered with him, and sexual behavior under primitive impulse was the best evidence. At the same time, the occurrence of sexual behavior did not make Charles Strickland fall in love with Blanche. He left her soon, and Blanche finally committed suicide. Sex, even if it can make one party have love, is hard to succeed. In Zhang Ailing's Red Rose and White Rose, the combination of the protagonist Zhen Xuan and Wang "Red Rose" is purely based on sex, and there is no affection between them. Later, Wang had some feelings for him, but this unilateral feeling was not satisfactory and finally ended on the eve of her husband's return to China. The relationship between marriage and sex needs to be paid attention to from two aspects. On the one hand, having sex with others during the marriage, that is, "cheating and cheating", will not only hurt the marriage, but also bring infinite harm to yourself. On the other hand, it is marital sex life (mainly aimed at "sexual apathy"). To a certain extent, the appearance of "cheating" behavior, in addition to novelty and unbearable temptation, is partly due to the fact that the physiological needs in marriage are not met, thus affecting the marriage relationship. There is also such an example in Zhang Ailing's Red Rose and White Rose. Zhen Xuan and "White Rose" Meng Chimu appeared on this issue. Meng Chimu, who is married, is not keen on "sex life", which makes Zhenbao very dissatisfied, and therefore many contradictions have evolved. Later, Zhen Xuan survived in "Brothel Woman", partly because of this. Of course, this is not for treasures. Therefore, marriage and sex are inseparable. Although sex may not make marriage, it can make married life happier to some extent. The relationship between marriage and love Some people say that "marriage is the grave of love" and some people say that "love without marriage will make people have no good end", but I think the latter is more acceptable, although not comprehensive. It is not easy to give a definite answer whether a marriage without love can last for a long time, but it is certain that there will be a lack of joy and a vital part of beauty brought by love in marriage. In Pride and Prejudice, the Bennett couple is such an example. Mr. Bennett lost his expectation of love and family happiness and turned to reading and rural beauty to seek happiness. Relatively speaking, in a loveless marriage, Mr. and Mrs. Bennett are still "complete". In The Bridges of Madison County, Francesca accidentally met Robert, the photographer of National Geographic, within four days when her husband Chad was out (accompanying the children to receive the award). In just four days, Francesca fell in love with Robert because she felt the joy of love from him. Similarly, at the end of The First Pot of Incense, Ge sighed at Joe because of the lack of love, and the last "melancholy" in Love in the City was born because there was no love in marriage. Similarly, love without marriage also lacks the necessary support. As the novelty fades, love will eventually die like sand in your hand. There are many such examples, and Shen Congwen and Gao's emotion are the best evidence. Therefore, a marriage without love is hard to be happy and easy to break up. And love without marriage, it is difficult to last long, and ultimately nothing. How to balance marriage, love and sex To sum up, marriage, love and sex are an organic whole and are indispensable. Their present situation is similar to the "love triangle" put forward by American psychologist Robert Jeffrey Sternberg. From love to marriage, you get spiritual satisfaction, and then taste the beauty of sex in marriage, get physical satisfaction and feed back marriage and love. This is a good cycle. But in real life, due to various reasons, the balance between the three is easily broken. Freedom and selfishness are the original sins of breaking the balance. Why do marriage, love and sex sometimes break the balance? The main reason lies in freedom and selfishness. For example, when can you have sex before marriage? The best answer to this question is naturally after marriage, but it may be difficult to implement it perfectly in the current society. Some people, under the banner of "freedom", think that what they do is purely voluntary and they are responsible for the result, for selfish desires or for short-term passion, but in fact, it is difficult for them to bear the ultimate consequences. I didn't think about the trouble this would bring to my relatives, nor did I think about the impact on my later life. The same is true in marriage and love. You think it's your own business to fall in love blindly and enter marriage rashly because of a momentary idea, but the final impact or damage needs others to bear with you. The story of Lydia in Pride and Prejudice is proof of this. At the same time, what's more, during the period of marriage and love, I yearned for the so-called "freedom" with a selfish mind, developed marital infidelity, extramarital affairs and other things, and broke the balance between myself and others. There may be many reasons for this (regardless of force majeure), but the essence of irresistible temptation, irresponsibility and impulsiveness is still "freedom and selfishness". Morality and responsibility are the guarantee of maintaining balance, so how to maintain the balance between marriage, love and sex? There is a Confucian saying: "Love stops with ceremony", which means that the feelings between men and women should be bound by "ceremony". The word "ceremony" here is regulation and restriction, and now it can also be understood as "responsibility and morality". Whether it is sexual behavior without marriage and love (pure pursuit of sex) or sexual behavior without marriage and love (infidelity during marriage or love), it is actually a violation of "courtesy", ignoring responsibility, and some even violate morality. Some people think that marriage and love, even the occurrence of sexual behavior, belong to themselves and should not be restricted. This is freedom, but in fact, absolute freedom does not exist at all. Freedom is true only under certain restrictions, just like freedom of love, it is also an act of choosing one's loved ones under the constraints of law, morality and responsibility, rather than a willful act.