When you are confused, many people will say that it is because you have no goal, you are too impetuous and so on. Sounds reasonable, but it's not all. It is obviously wrong to say that young people have no goals. Many people made their goals clear when they were in college: "Being a CEO, getting married and reaching the peak of their lives".
Although the difficulty coefficient of this goal is great, it cannot be said that it is not the goal. This is a radiant goal, full of positive energy.
Too impetuous. That's right. Now is an impetuous society, most people are impetuous, and young people are more impetuous. Now that I have set the glorious goal above, I want to achieve it immediately and get a discount immediately, so impetuous began. And as the goal seems to be more and more difficult to achieve, this impetuousness is even more serious.
As soon as impetuousness occurs, confusion begins.
But if impetuousness causes confusion, it is obviously too general and vague. Just like the truth often preached by xx Daily, although it is grand and correct, it is useless for economic development.
People who have goals but are still impetuous and confused are because there is no feasible method, which is also called no way out. There is no road, no path, and I don't know how to achieve my goal. Naturally, I am very confused.
If young people want to get rid of confusion, they need to be clear about the following four points.
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Set feasible goals
There are often feasibility reports and feasibility plans in business, so our goal setting should be feasible. What is feasibility? That is, your goals can be achieved through your methods, paths, resources and personal efforts.
Either you want one, or you want a goal. This is just a preliminary idea. An idea needs to be demonstrated before it can become a goal. Those ideas that cannot be realized can only be regarded as fantasy and obscenity. For example, to realize "a capitalist utopia on earth" can only be shouted, but it can't be true. For another example, the goal of "the peak of life" mentioned above is also very low in feasibility. To reach this height at a young age (about 30), it is too expensive to overdraw your life in advance. We need a steady stream of water. If we don't want people who are 30, we will become people who are 50. It's not worth ruining our body and mind.
Set visible and implementable goals, so that you can have hope, motivation and vitality, and you won't feel so confused in life. I'm going back to the countryside.
2
Find a reliable method
The goal without method can only be a castle in the air. Young people are confused because most of them have lost their way at this level. There is no way, just like sailing in the sea without a compass and not getting lost.
Finding a reliable method is an important way to achieve goals and success. There are thousands of roads in Qian Qian ahead, but which one is suitable? What can lead to the goal? It is time to test our logical thinking ability and analytical ability. Discrimination, analysis and judgment are the basis for testing whether we can find methods and paths.
Many people like to shout slogans in the air and pour some soul chicken soup and chicken blood such as "Come on, work hard" and "others are stronger than you and work harder than you". But how to work hard? I don't know
I can't find a feasible way. Just seeing others working hard, I said I would work hard. Blindly reading all kinds of books, attending all kinds of training courses and worshiping all kinds of expert lecturers are useless except to increase anxiety.
There is no way to work hard, just spinning around and muddling along. What's more, people will go astray, get possessed, be deceived by their surroundings unconsciously, or form psychological depression, which will only increase their troubles and guilt.
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Abandon the thinking of quick success and instant benefit
This is an impetuous era, where people are overstaffed and eager for quick success. Everyone is inevitably influenced by the times. This requires us to stick to ourselves, abandon the thinking of quick success and instant benefit, and calm down and move towards the goal. Otherwise, it is easy to drift with the tide in this era and slowly lose yourself.
Impatience is the common fault of this era. In order to earn money early, get married early, buy a house early, get a promotion and raise salary early, and realize the first small goal in life early, it is inevitable to be impatient, but the result is that haste makes waste.
Being quick for quick success and instant benefit makes people impetuous, easy to break out and always in a state of tense war. As a result, I accidentally lost my original intention, deviated from the road, and did whatever it took to achieve my goal.
Accelerating ahead of time and encouraging young people, the goal that obviously takes three years to achieve, is set at one year, and then the deadline is shortened again and again, "catching up with the beauty of the Premier League in three years." As a result, I was exhausted in a goal and wasted the road behind me.
Abandoning the thinking of quick success and instant benefit requires long-term consideration and looking at the problem from the perspective of life to avoid being influenced by this thinking.
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Establish a correct outlook on life
People with sound outlook on life and values will not be confused or afraid. Because they know who they are, where they come from and where they are going.
If you look at a problem from the perspective of life, you won't care about temporary gains and losses. Just as Mao Zedong commanded a war, he never considered the gains and losses of one city and one place, but took winning the war as the ultimate goal.
When you have a sound outlook on life, the so-called confusion will naturally disappear. I will also become more firm, calm and confident, and I will not drift with the tide, get carried away by temporary complacency, be depressed by temporary frustration, and always maintain the vitality and passion of youth.
To establish a sound outlook on life and values, we need to read more books on thought, think more and think more, and then we can form our own outlook on life and values slowly.
Come on, Sao nian!