At the beginning of the school season, when Coco's mother sent her baby to kindergarten, she saw a child crying at the entrance of the kindergarten, unwilling to enter the garden anyway.

Should I turn my head and leave, or be coaxed to leave?

After carefully reading the following five methods, you can solve this problem well.

First, calm the children's emotions.

The child is crying at the gate of the kindergarten. The first thing we should do is to calm the children's emotions.

When many parents are crying, the first thing that comes to mind is not to comfort and guide, but to stop their children from crying first.

It is not a bad thing for children to cry, but if you strongly stop it, your behavior will become a bad thing.

Because children cry, they can vent their emotions, and many children will be fine after crying, but if they are forced to stop, their emotions will be buried in their hearts for a long time, which is very unfavorable to the healthy growth of children.

Therefore, we should accept children's emotions and embrace them.

You can tell your child, dear, that mom knows you don't want to be separated from me, and I don't want to be separated from you, but you should go to school like mom goes to work, and I will pick you up on time in the afternoon.

If you hug, soothe and say a word, a small part of the child's emotions will be taken away, and then after you understand and accept the child's crying emotions, the child will gradually calm down.

Second, send it to the door and leave.

If there is already a teacher waiting to pick up the children at the door, the teacher clearly said, don't worry, just leave it to us. Parents should resolutely leave at this time.

Gentleness and firmness are the principles that parents should grasp most. Because the appeasement was very gentle just now, you need to be firm at this time.

Many times, a few parents don't have a good mood, so they stay at the kindergarten gate and can't bear to part with their children. Some mothers even see their children crying so sadly with tears in their eyes, which will infect their children's emotions and make them even more sad.

Parents should think about it, what is the purpose of sending our children to kindergarten? Isn't it just to give children a chance to exercise their independent living ability?

So, after arriving at the school gate, give the child a warm hug, and then turn around and leave firmly. Adults should not have any emotional fluctuations, and children will gradually accept the reality.

Isn't the process of children's growth the process of our parents' gradual withdrawal?

Here's a trick. When you send them to the park, you can let people with ordinary relationships send them, so that the children's mood will be slightly better. When they pick up the children in the afternoon, they will be replaced by more caring people, so that they can leave school happily and will not bring negative emotions home.

Third, prepare something like an attachment.

In order to make children adapt to kindergarten better and faster, parents can prepare a small thing for their children, which is similar to an attachment or a bond between children and parents, which can enhance their sense of security.

For example, we can put a cartoon label on a child's schoolbag, quilt or kettle, which is a cartoon character that the child likes, such as Peggy Piggy, Rainbow Wonder Team, Baby Bus, or a hairpin or trinket that the child likes, so as to increase the child's sense of security.

When you bring these things to your children, you should tell them that when you miss your parents in kindergarten, touch the cartoon characters or small ornaments on the kettle and your parents will feel it, because they are little angels sent by their parents to protect you.

Let children pin their thoughts on their parents on trinkets, and parents can feel them.

In this way, it is actually to convey a belief to children that parents may not be around you, but their love and concern for you will always be with you, which can effectively alleviate children's anxiety.

Fourth, don't over-beautify the kindergarten before entering the park.

Parents are advised not to over-beautify kindergartens before their children enter the park. Don't try to describe how good kindergarten is just to coax children into going to kindergarten. There are many delicious toys and many children.

In kindergarten, from the perspective of some children, there is no one to play with me in kindergarten, and these toys are not something I can play with if I want. However, I feel strange and lost, and I feel different from my parents. Mom and dad are cheating, and the contrast will be even greater.

The correct way for parents should objectively describe what will happen in kindergarten with their children, such as accompanying their children to see some picture books that can truly show the kindergarten scene, including the fun parts and the challenges he may encounter.

When children have a comprehensive and true understanding of kindergarten, they will find that I am not the only one who has these problems. When everyone is facing the same problem, children's anxiety, nervousness and fear will be gradually solved.

Fifth, cultivate children's self-care ability in advance.

Finally, cultivate children's self-care ability at home in advance.

Some children cry because they are afraid that they are unable to cope with what will happen in kindergarten.

For example, eat by yourself, go to the toilet by yourself, take off your clothes by yourself, and so on. Some children are anxious when they see that other children can't do it, and some even dare not tell their teachers and ask them for help.

Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's self-care ability at home, let them do their own things and teach them to eat, drink, wear and take off their shoes.

When a child can basically take care of himself, he may no longer be afraid, because what he needs to go through in kindergarten is what he knows and is good at. Within his control and ability, the child will not refuse to go to kindergarten so much. Even his self-care ability is stronger than his peers, he can find a sense of superiority and likes the kindergarten environment.

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This article was originally written by Coco Ma. Welcome to pay attention and take you to study together!