In fact, the discipline of children should start with helping children set goals from the beginning. If children can have a clear plan for the present and future, they are more willing to listen to their parents' opinions.
Setting goals is actually to cultivate children's ability to connect with the essence of things. This is that a person can learn to take responsibility and talk about things without falling into emotions under the power of freedom.
When it comes to setting goals, every parent is no stranger. Before doing anything, the plan will contain goals, which is the direction of progress and the driving force for success. Therefore, when educating children, we also need to help them set their own goals.
First of all, parents should understand what their children's life goals are. Some parents think that their children's goals will gradually become clear after school without the help of their parents. Or some parents think that as long as their children are healthy and happy, getting into a good university is the goal. Every parent has different expectations for their children, but in general, it is nothing more than academic success and career success.
Such a broad goal will lead children to lose the purpose of success and cause confusion about the future. Parents should help their children set their own unique goals.
If you want your child to live a good life, you must set a clear and definite goal, because if you have a goal, you will have motivation, especially when you encounter setbacks or problems. If you can have a clear goal, you can overcome the difficulties and move on.
People with clear goals will feel happy even if they work hard and are willing to go all out to complete the rest of the progress. Just like swimming in the sea. If you can see the other side, you will swim faster and better, but if you can't see your destination in the vast sea, you may give up halfway through swimming.
If children don't have goals and directions in learning, it's hard to settle down and study, because children don't think learning is their own business, but they think learning is for their parents and teachers.
Parents should let their children have their own study plans and goals, and let them have the habit of setting goals when doing anything, so as to live their lives better. It is said that life is like a marathon, and the phased goal is like a small stage in the marathon process. Participants need to make sure that they are motivated to continue running after this stage stops.
Children can learn marathon in daily life and study, and they need to see that they have achieved staged success, so that they can continue to work hard.
No matter what children do, they need to have goals. Learning can have learning goals, games can also have game goals, and work goals are needed when working. Some children are tired of learning, which has a lot to do with their lack of learning goals.
Goals can be divided into stages, and children's goals can be decomposed to achieve them better. If parents only teach their children to set goals, they may not know how to achieve them.
Because many people shout slogans loudly and delay their actions in various perfunctory ways. The purpose of goal decomposition is to make the goal easy to achieve, so that children can better connect with the goal when doing things and stimulate their actions.
If the goal is big or seems out of reach, it is very likely that the child will give up halfway and will not take it seriously and complete it. Decompose the goal into a state that the child can bear at this moment, so as to achieve the final result faster and more rhythmically.
The first step of goal decomposition is to make a reasonable long-term goal, which should be made according to the child's current ability. Divide the one-year goal into 12-month goals, such as the goal of 100 a year, and then you can raise the monthly score to a few points.
Divide the goal of success into stages of progress, which can be divided into weeks, three days, a month, a semester and so on. In this way, the child's progress will be more obvious. At the beginning of setting, it is most important to set the minimum amount and the best goal for children, step by step.
At the beginning, we must bring self-confidence to our children, let them finish and do it easily, and let them carry out the goal of the second stage with greater enthusiasm. Every goal makes children more confident to complete, and the more they do, the more confident they are, and finally complete the ultimate goal.
Breaking down goals is not just breaking down big goals, but making it easier for children to complete. There is a gradual process.