Recently, the # China Seventh Census Data #, which has attracted much attention, has finally been released.

The results show that the population born last year was about120,000, and the total fertility rate was 1.3, indicating that China's population development is facing severe challenges.

A woman of childbearing age gives birth to 2. 1 child on average, that is, the total fertility rate is kept at 2. 1, so as to ensure the normal population replacement level, that is, the total population of the next generation will not increase or decrease.

The situation of population growth is indeed grim, so the voice of experts "let go of fertility, the sooner the better" once rushed to the hot search!

It seems that the slogan of "fewer children, more trees" is still in my ears, and the voice of "letting go of the second child" or even "letting go of childbirth" has become the mainstream. The question is, are you willing to have more children now?

The comment area is full of doubts. After all, the difficulty of pregnancy in October, the long recovery after childbirth, and the persistence of parenting leave women with little opportunity and time to develop themselves.

And what it means to give birth to a woman may only be truly understood after experiencing it!

There is a homepage on Facebook called "Regret Having Children", which has nearly 10,000 fans. Every day, a large number of people contribute anonymously and pour out their anguish and depression.

"In my heart, children used to be as important as breathing. It's a pity that giving birth is really terrible. I have been receiving treatment for half a year after delivery. "

"I was tortured crazy by two children, but my husband felt that I was not a competent mother because I was not satisfied with my present life. I thought children were the happiness of life, but now I cry every day. "

"I love them, but if I can do it again, I will never regenerate. I made an appointment with my husband to have three children before, but now forget it ... "

Many people say that "life is incomplete without children", but unfortunately, few people will confidentially tell their daughters/granddaughters how the birth of children will affect her and how much life will change with children!

There is a particularly hot question in Zhihu: "What do you think you should know when you have a baby, but no one has told you?"

There is a well-received answer like this:

One day in the second month, after she used up the paper towels in the toilet, she found "little black bugs" on the paper towels.

While crying, she kept wiping the wound with paper towels, but she was desperate to find that there were many bugs and they were all dead.

She collapsed: my side cut kept hurting, and it turned out to be a maggot! What if I die?

Until the doctor checked and told her that it was not a bug, but a fallen surgical suture. ...

The result was dumbfounding, but I didn't let myself clean during the second month. The fact that once a fairy turned into a slovenly woman really made people collapse, which was unexpected before pregnancy or even before giving birth to a child!

Another video is very popular. In the video, several mothers are smiling and seemingly "popular science" to produce knowledge easily and humorously:

It hurts after giving birth to a child, and the placenta is "born". The first time I defecate, the pain is the same as giving birth to a child. In six weeks, you will wake up in the middle of the night, sweating all over.

There is a great chance of crazy hair loss after delivery and being troubled by alopecia areata.

For four hours, my legs were unconscious, and my whole body fell to the ground when I went to the toilet.

The vagina is completely torn, but this is "normal".

It is also "normal" to accidentally "pull out" the uterus when going to the toilet.

It's normal that your stomach is as loose and soft as a sponge and there are stretch marks. ...

The video is not long, but the real picture and the exaggerated explanation have made many netizens feel numb. What's even more frightening is that these are all true!

Many people only know how to have children. After giving birth to one child, they urge the second child, and after giving birth to the second child, they want to urge the third child. They didn't see the destruction and consumption of childbirth on women!

The more you let go of fertility and pay more attention to women of childbearing age, the more difficult it is for them to develop in the workplace. Because of economic reasons, fewer and fewer companies dare to hire them, and it is even harder than men to have a better development!

Needless to say, a large number of Kochi women can only stay at home because they have no children, and exist as "someone's mother" or "someone's wife".

Of course, it doesn't mean that it's not worth paying for the children, but it should be a choice that women make voluntarily out of their expectation of the children after fully understanding the changes that may be brought about by childbirth!