Original sentence: Only women and villains are difficult to raise. Those who are close will not have grandchildren, and those who are far away will be resentful. ——————"The Analects of Confucius·Yang Huo"

Now that feminism is on the rise, this sentence of Confucius has immediately become a perfect target for the critics of the feminist elite to attack. Look Look, this is the original origin of your Chinese men’s discrimination against us women, you old bastard Confucius! We women have been oppressed for thousands of years, thousands of years, and we have finally turned around and become the masters. We have to hold up half of the sky and then take away their half~~ sky! For a time, the crowd was furious, fierce and lively. But sisters, aunts, aunts and uncles, listen to what Ru Yueying has to say. You are putting all the blame on Mr. Kong, but you have greatly wronged him.

First of all, based on the situation of Lao Kong at that time, I raised a question: "Why did Mr. Kong say something like "Only women and villains are difficult to raise"? No one speaks out of luck. For no reason, of course, except for a madman, and our Mr. Kong should not be a madman, right? Moreover, this Mr. Kong was deeply influenced by the "Book of Songs". He said: "Three hundred poems, in one sentence, thinking about nothing." "Evil", he believed that "The Book of Songs" is a great book, and let's take a look at this masterpiece that Confucius highly praised. A large part of it praised women's liveliness, beauty, generosity and kindness, and praised the equality of men and women at that time. The atmosphere of romantic love is also true. In the Spring and Autumn Period, men and women were quite equal, and Confucius himself expressed his views on marriage many times by using the saying in the Book of Songs: "A wife is in harmony, like a drum and a harp." Therefore, saying that Confucius discriminated against women is not only inconsistent with Confucius’ thoughts, but also inconsistent with the overall environment of civil society at that time. Therefore, this statement is really open to question.

So we have to look at the circumstances under which Confucius originally said, "Only women and villains are difficult to raise." And to whom did he say this to a master? Identity, it is impossible to scold female comrades who cannot be beaten by 18 poles while thinking about it on the roadside. In "Historical Records: The Family of Confucius", it is mentioned that Confucius' previous trip to defend the country, Confucius "lived in the month of Wei" During the rest of the day, Duke Linggong and his wife were riding in the same carriage. The eunuch Yongqu came out and asked Confucius to ride second and show off in the market. Confucius said: "I have never seen anyone who loves virtue as much as he loves sex." ’ So the ugly one went to defend him. "Let me roughly translate this passage. Mr. Kong, a contemporary national education model worker, was invited by the monarch of Weiguo to visit, study and recuperate in Weiguo. However, during this period, Mr. Kong suddenly found that he had been cheated. He was simply He was just using his status to show off and promote himself. He did not really support him in coming here to educate the people of Wei. Especially the wife of Duke Ling of Wei. In order to improve his own status, he publicly showed off and belittled Confucius. The old man is so depressed, do you, Duke Ling of Wei, prefer virtue and talent, or do you prefer women? Which one is more important to you, me or your wife? After finishing the meal, Confucius was angry. , said: "I have never seen anyone who loves virtue as much as he loves sex! leave! I don’t want to leave you here, I have my own place to stay! GO, GO, GO! "I packed my luggage and left Weiguo. After leaving, my mood calmed down. I thought of the bad things about Weiguogong's wife who relied on being favored, was arrogant and domineering, disrupted the government and disturbed the people, and sighed: "Only women and villains are difficult to raise. also! If you are close, you will not appreciate it; if you are far, you will be resentful. ”

You see, knowing these historical background and life experiences, it is easy to understand what Confucius said. We know that the people he scolded were the kind of “raised” women and villains. Women It's okay, but think about who can raise a villain? Look at Confucius's journey to defend the country, and everything becomes clear. He is definitely not crazy and suddenly scolding all women, including his mother. , but there is a specific object to refer to. This object is Wei Linggong's wife Nanzi, one of those palace women who "don't have grandchildren when they are close, and resentment when they are far away." Resentment, how do you explain the last sentence? That is to say, if you, as a monarch, are too close to the women in the harem and the flatterers who have no ability, they will get carried away, forget their identity, and start to use your power for mischief. If you do something wrong and you alienate them, they will complain. In short, it will be very troublesome. It is understandable for Confucius, who has never seen any struggle between women in the court, to say this, and his worry is not unreasonable. , before Confucius, Daji harmed the country and played tricks on the princes. Are there many such cases? After Confucius, eunuchs and villains took over, and the empress's relatives disrupted the government many times. So our female compatriots, you have to do it. It’s clear that Confucius didn’t have the nerve to curse all the women in the world indiscriminately. Stop abusing him~~

Last question, who miscommunicated this sentence? Why have our lovely female compatriots been oppressed for thousands of years? As the saying goes, every grievance has its owner and every debt has its owner. If Ru Yueying wants to help Master Kong redress, he will naturally help you find a real culprit so that you can vent your anger. Let’s get out of the resentment accumulated over thousands of years (why are you talking like a ghost movie -_-!), well, let’s get back to the topic. During the Western Han Dynasty, there was a so-called “great scholar” Dong Zhongshu, who strongly advocated the idea of ??“husband” "Guide to the Wife", this guy borrowed a sentence from Confucius out of context and put thousands of years of shackles on the heads of Chinese women. Look at the "Three Cardinal Guidelines" proposed by this guy in the book "Ji Yi": " The righteousness of king, minister, father, son, husband and wife are all related to the principles of yin and yang.

The king is yang and the minister is yin; the father is yang and the son is yin; the husband is yang and the wife is yin. The three principles of the royal way can be sought from heaven. "His thing is just a flattery to please successive rulers. "The king is the guide for the ministers" was accepted by the emperors of all dynasties, and gradually formed a set of principles of feudal rule, while "the husband is the guide for the wife" was What is the meaning of "Gang" respected by men of all ages? If the king wants the minister to die, the minister will have to die! Do you know how powerful this "Gang" is? A lovely and graceful lady, who originally had an equal status, had to live her life according to her husband's "program" with fear when she got married. These three principles and five permanent principles have restricted China for many years and harmed many generations!

Only women and villains are difficult to raise.

Original sentence: Only women and villains are difficult to raise. If you are close, you will not have grandchildren, if you are far away, you will be resentful.