When talking to others, what are some things that you should not say so that the relationship will be harmonious and long-lasting? It goes without saying that other people are private
Not discussing other people’s privacy in interpersonal interactions is a way of respecting others and protecting yourself. No matter how familiar the influence is, we should not talk nonsense about things that are agreed upon by us, such as physical defects, appearance, and some bad experiences. In an anchor room, Tang Wei and Lei Jiayin were interviewed by the media for their roles in "The Whistleblower". The host of the show asked a question at the beginning, what do we most dislike about the other party? Lei Jiayin couldn't help but joke: "I can't bear Tang Wei's frequent trips to the toilet while filming." The embarrassed Tang Wei tried to hide it by laughing, but it failed to block Lei Jiayin's talk: "To shoot ten pictures, I have to go to the bathroom three times. Every time when I am full of emotions and have tears in my eyes, she says: Film director, I I need to go to the toilet..."
Tang Wei started to collapse, stood up and left his seat, threw himself against the wall and pretended to be injured. After he recovered a little emotionally, he apologized, saying that he didn't mean to do it and that he was sorry that his inexperience had dragged down his co-stars. At this time, Tang Wei's eyes started to burst into tears, and Lei Jiayin didn't notice it. Later, Tang Wei claimed that he had to come out to regain his mentality, and he had an unbelievable look on his face: "No way?" Tang Wei later stated that she was sick while acting because she had to go out after giving birth. , after taking a lot of antibiotics, body function declines, and frequent urination is one of the adverse reactions.
It is inappropriate to put the personal privacy of the body on the screen, but it is still unreasonable to see others embarrassed. Although Lei Jiayin had no ill intentions, he had no empathy. There is a latest comment on him: "No matter what the occasion, you are always talking, pretending to be funny, and appear to be resourceful, but in fact, you are using other people's pain as material for ridicule and adding salt to other people's wounds." At any time, everyone should not be concerned about other people's privacy and shortcomings. Say it out loud, otherwise it will only harm others and not benefit yourself. Not long ago, I was chatting with my friend Xiaojuan. Xiaojuan said to me angrily: "I will never talk to Xiao Chen again. I never thought he was such a person." Seeing Xiaojuan with an angry look on her face, I asked her what happened.
It turns out that Xiao Chen is a classmate of Xiaojuan. The two of them talk about everything. Xiaojuan is sincere to Xiao Chen. Xiaojuan originally thought Xiao Chen was her good friend, but what happened later exceeded her expectations. At a class reunion, Xiao Chen disclosed the secrets Xiaojuan told him to the public for everyone's entertainment. When everyone laughed, Xiaojuan felt very embarrassed. Xiaojuan said: "As a good friend of mine, I told her all my secrets, but I didn't expect that she would tell everyone all this. I really regret telling her."
If a friend wants to tell you a person's personal privacy, it is just because she trusts you very much, values ??your character, and thinks you are a trustworthy person. These people who like to talk openly about other people's personal privacy and reveal other people's inner secrets will, over time, become alienated from their good friends, and they will no longer dare to have a serious and deep relationship with them. No one is born perfect, everyone has different lengths and different problems. Everyone has their own personal privacy, and they can only hide it if they don’t want others to know about it.
People have said that you need to keep the information confidential. Others don’t need to tell it, but you don’t ask. "Disciple Rules" says: "People have shortcomings, which must not be revealed; people have selfishness, which must not be talked about." If others avoid talking about it, don't talk about it either. If you talk about it, it will be embarrassing and it will also weaken the relationship. . Respect is mutual. How you treat others will be how they treat you. If you reveal other people's privacy, others will also laugh at your shortcomings. If you expose other people's shortcomings, others will also talk about your problems. When interacting with others, learn to maintain other people's privacy, ignore other people's shortcomings, and be considerate of other people's difficulties, so that the relationship can be harmonious and long-term. There is no need to gossip about other people
An old saying goes: "It is better to curse in front of others than to gossip behind others." There is a traditional saying in "Hanshu": "Don't pry into people's private affairs, listen to them." "When you reach the middle, you don't gossip. You don't pry into other people's private affairs. You don't hear other people's private conversations." No matter who you are, you don’t like people who gossip about others behind their backs. Too much gossip will not only be detrimental to oneself, but will also lead to verbal disputes.
In daily life, there are always people who treat other people's private matters as gossip and talk about it to everyone; they treat other people's embarrassing things as topics of discussion and share them with others. Gossip, actually needless to say. Gossip is not beneficial to oneself, but it is a kind of harm to others. It is easier for others to resist. It is really harmful to others but not to oneself. Small gossip is just one or two jokes after dinner; gossip is big, casual gossip and malicious speculation, which will become a reflection of poor moral cultivation. Never complain about others just because your life is unsatisfactory. The more unpromising a person is, the more likely they are to attribute their problems to others, but they forget that the weakest and most incompetent person is yourself. You can walk your own path and bear your own hardships. As a person who always gossips about others behind their backs because of things that don't go their way, your life won't last very long.