It is human nature to pretend to be popular!

After hearing this sentence, some outspoken people wanted to refute.

Don’t worry, we’ll ask you a question to see if you’ve been tricked: No matter what personality you are, you will try to be polite when you meet someone for the first time, be humble in conversation, respectful in attitude, and high-pressure in content close to connotation. , will you consider the other party in every move you make?

For example, when meeting new friends, they will rush to buy the food, but after they get acquainted, they will push each other's orders; when they meet for the first time, they will go to a restaurant with a comfortable environment, and when they get to know each other, they will share their favorite stinky tofu and teach each other. Storm inhales and eats the whole piece.

There may be a few people with extreme egos who will not accommodate others, but it is undeniable that most people will switch to a "polite, connotative, and elegant" persona when they want to integrate into a strange environment. In fact, it is "character hiding" in interpersonal communication.

This misleading behavior is actually human instinct, just like a chameleon blending into nature to protect itself. We just pretend to be popular and want to fit in with a certain group.

"Character hiding" is a purposeful behavior. Once successful, it is abandoned immediately.

It is understandable that some people are harmless on the surface, but they can always surprise and awe you at critical moments.

For example, those people who "pretend to be pigs and eat tigers" in life may appear to be docile and harmless, but in fact they are quite sophisticated. Their purpose of "disguising" is to conceal their edge and conform to the rhythm of ordinary people. Integrate into the group.

Live a low-key life but work hard but have a strong sense of competition

Among celebrities, the most successful person who "pretends to be a pig and eats the tiger" is undoubtedly Facebook founder Zuckerberg, the youngest billionaire on the Internet. , the young entrepreneur who defeated Buffett to become the third richest man in the world.

Back before Zuckerberg became successful, you would think that he was just an ordinary programmer, the kind who was not good at sociability.

Such an honest, dull and smart academic, an ordinary passerby on Harvard campus, founded Facebook in 2004, received an investment of US$240 million from Microsoft in 2007, and in 2008 The website has hundreds of millions of users, and has continued to raise funds since then. In 2017, it beat Buffett with a net worth of US$56 billion and became famous in one battle.

Seeing this, do you think he is a genius? The first entrepreneur born in the 1980s succeeded in one fell swoop and defeated the stock god Buffett?

But after becoming famous, Zuckerberg still looks like an ordinary programmer. Not only did he defeat Buffett, but he also became the most down-to-earth rich man in the hearts of the public: he always wears black and white and gray T-shirts, which everyone seems to be able to afford; Just like a middle-class family.

All of this is Zuckerberg’s deliberate low-key.

Because he wants to protect his family and privacy, and does not want excessive human flesh to affect his normal pace of life.

This is how a great person hides his edge in order to enjoy the peace of an ordinary person. Jack Ma also said that his biggest regret was being interviewed and becoming a celebrity, and he lost his privacy and freedom from then on.

So how do we identify this kind of talented people who "pretend to be pigs and eat tigers" in life? In case you accidentally offend them?

The method is very simple. It depends on whether the person doesn't talk much but is precise in every sentence, and can also influence the direction of group decision-making.

Whether someone looks harmless but has a strong desire to win, the winner is usually the one who wins.

Is it always you who expresses your opinions, but he usually doesn’t comment, so you can’t guess his inner thoughts?

Both of the above two criteria may be of the "pretending to be a pig and eating the tiger" type, and you need to be cautious when dealing with them.

They appear to be good people, but in fact they know the social value of you and me

Many people like to participate in various drinking bureaus, which is called to accumulate connections, but in fact it is a waste of time.

Because society is very realistic and cruel, the so-called "connections" are actually social resources exchanged at equal value.

In other words, if you don’t have the same level of resources he needs, he won’t let you borrow his connections.

Those who try to get help from others by eating more meals and singing K several times are really a bit naive.

An honest person who "pretends to be a pig and eats a tiger" will not waste time like this. He has seen the value of the people around him early on. On the surface, he accepts help from you, but in fact he doesn't care if it's a simple effort. However, if he encounters resource allocation, he will refuse. After all, you do not comply with the principle of equal exchange.

To borrow the famous saying of Victor Cleon, the first godfather: Never let anyone know what you are thinking!

Anyone who has watched "The Godfather" knows that Victor Kleon is a reasonable man. He does not often get angry but does not get angry or assertive. He is kind to his family and friendly to outsiders. But once he thinks you are a problem, he will make you an offer you can't refuse and kick you out.

No matter how affable he is at ordinary times, once you have seen the consequences of his anger, you should know that this person is not a creature of the pond.

Only by forbearing can you win key victories

We all know that during the Three Kingdoms period, Wei, Shu and Wu divided the world. , but in the end no one succeeded, but Sima Yi achieved his dream.

Let’s think back to Sima Yi’s usual performance. Is it that he can’t see through his thoughts, emotions, and weaknesses?

This kind of person will never tell you his thoughts through words. He always gives people an inscrutable feeling, but he can make a surprise at the last moment. By the time you see him clearly, victory or defeat is already a foregone conclusion.

Therefore, no matter what environment you are in, keep your strength and constantly increase your bargaining chips. People who don't show their strength or show off their abilities at ordinary times, and who crawl in front of you inadvertently, are people who are harmless on the surface but have a deep city.

This kind of person doesn’t flatter others, nor is he unique, and he usually doesn’t stand out from the crowd, but he is the one who wins in the end.

If you have such a person around you, don’t think you are better than him and look down on him. This kind of person has a deep personality and a unique temperament that ordinary people cannot imitate because they are often in the team. Mr. Key, irreplaceable.