Insight 1:
An upright man is open and poised, bad people are often sad.
The old monk and the young monk traveled together and met 1 river; I saw a woman trying to cross the river, but she didn't dare. The old monk took the initiative to carry the woman across the river, then put the woman down and continued on his way with the young monk. The young monk couldn't help asking in a low voice all the way: What happened to Master? How dare you cross the river with a woman on your back? I walked all the way, thought all the way, and finally couldn't help it, saying, master, are you breaking the rules? How to recite girls? The old monk sighed: I have put it down, but you still can't put it down!
Revelation: Honest people are magnanimous, while villains are often sad. Broad-minded, open-minded, affordable and open-minded, in order to maintain a healthy attitude forever.
Insight 2:
An upright man is open and poised while a petty man is anxious and worried.
Little people, there refers to people with poor personality. There is a cloud in the penultimate paragraph of Great Mo Yu: "A gentleman is in the wild and a villain is in the position." The verbal opposition between villains shows an irrefutable truth for the first time: there has been a dispute between gentlemen since ancient times, and villains have been in opposition since the end of primitive society.
A gentleman's leopard changes, saying that a gentleman is like a leopard and jade, a villain fights dogs, and a villain is like a wolf and a stone. Tiger and leopard disdain the company of jackals, and even can't tolerate the company of tiger and leopard. As the saying goes, one mountain can't accommodate two tigers, and gentlemen often don't belong to the party, fight alone, be proud of the mountain, and pay attention to the method of spiritual victory; The villain is not. In history, villains often formed one side, adopting the cluster tactics of hungry wolves and the smear tactics of squid to eliminate seemingly powerful gentlemen one by one. It is precisely because villains value material conquest more than physical destruction.
Gentlemen not only do not belong to the party, but also do not protect each other. They parted ways because of academic and political differences, and the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. This is a kind of helplessness. It is common for them to live and die, but they can still respect each other under the same circumstances. The villain is not, the world is bustling, all for profit, and the world is bustling, all for profit. The word "profit" takes the lead, each takes what he needs, but he despises each other but can unite. The source of the party disaster in the late Eastern Han Dynasty came from two ministers of the dynasty. At that time, there was a ballad saying, "The king of Fang Tianxia won the seal of Zhou because of his teacher." These two people were originally from the same town, and Emperor Huan was a Hou. They were educated by Zhou Fu, and they should have made a lot of achievements when they were appointed as Yin people in Henan. After that, they were all officials of the same DPRK and ministers of the same history. The villagers put the two men side by side, but the meaning of ballads is often better than that of Zhou Fu. Originally, there was nothing in the room, but the guests of the two men looked down on each other and attacked each other, leaving a gap for the villain to use. A party disaster, involving more than 3,000 scholars, countless scholars, exiled and imprisoned students, dressed in rags. These ten attendants and even a group of eunuchs usually fight with each other and even undermine each other. At this point, they can unite as one, practise fraud, they will kill the prestigious gentleman, and then quickly.
Therefore, the gentleman is not afraid of the villain but will die in the hands of the little people, and the villain is afraid of the gentleman but will want to get rid of it quickly. It is precisely because villains and villains can solve problems through interest exchange, negotiation and even violence. The villain worships power and always craves it. In the case of insufficient strength, he is willing to give in without any guilt (of course, if there is an opportunity, he will make a comeback and make you look good! ); A gentleman, on the other hand, will stick to his own opinions and set limits everywhere for the so-called truth and principles. This uncompromising attitude makes the villain very unhappy!
Three thousand years of bloody feudalism summed up an experience: it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain. We have offended that gentleman, and at best we will break up with you. For example, Guan Ning is for Huayun, and Guan Ning can't afford Huayun, but just broke up. In the future, Huayun will be a teacher, and I will be a white mat and a bamboo building, and I will never set foot in the land of Wei for life. And we have sinned against the villains, even if you are rich in Shi Chong, it is inevitable to property, genocide, even the favorite green beads, also want to bump into X in Jingu Garden.
However, I always think that a villain is like a wolf, who has no food to eat and is a stranger. Even if he has lived in peace with me for decades, it must be because I am still useful, or I have no threat at all. The former says I'm still a bone that hasn't been chewed, while the latter says I'm a background wall. Once anything happens that infringes the interests of the other party, I will still face the dilemma of gnashing my teeth. Or live a safe life, I can only say that you are a villain, and you are like a duck to water in such an atmosphere.
Gentlemen are different. A friendship between gentlemen is not based on status or wealth. First of all, you are lucky to have brothers and sisters like a gentleman. When the wolf is around, you can also have a brother and sister who are worried about you, and you can also leave him with a back that makes you feel safe. This is the advantage of a gentleman. Moreover, birds of a feather flock together, and when you get along with a gentleman, you will gain respect or something derived from respect. In the Eastern Han Dynasty, the fifth criminal, Shan Chao, was sent to the north. At that time, Dong Yuan, the northern satrap, was the grandson of Shan Chao, and the fifth kind seemed doomed. A man named Bin Sun, whom he had helped before, heard about it, and spent a lot of money to hire a knight-errant. He caught up with them for several days and nights without rest, robbed the prison car, gave the horse to the fifth kind, walked by himself, and drove 400 Li a day and a night to let the fifth kind. These people's selfless assistance to the fifth category may even cost us our lives, and we have to reflect at the same time. A gentleman is a metaphor of benevolence and righteousness, and his true nature can infect and impress people around him. This is what a gentleman can get, and this is what a gentleman demands.
In such a materialistic world, it is impossible to reach an agreement with the villain through compromise, precisely because the villain will not abide by the gentleman's agreement, and in the constant compromise, the original self began to become filthy and even echoed. For example, when the villain in the office has a growing appetite in your constant compromise and finally wants to step on your head, then you find that all the superior resources are out of your control. The most terrible thing is that these resources are lost in your slow compromise.
Being an open gentleman can not only enjoy the pleasure brought by the cool breeze and bright moon, but also enjoy the pleasure of stealing tea fragrance, which is better than a busy mouse!
Throughout the ages, people's standards are different, but the way of being a gentleman is recognized. This shows that no one expects to associate with villains, but instead makes himself physically and mentally exhausted, dizzy and accomplished nothing. With a gentleman, you can keep your promise, respect each other and often help each other, and you will do your own business well. Therefore, no matter what happens, we must remember the essence of being a man: be a gentleman, not a villain! The word "gentleman" has existed since ancient times and is really a model of being a man. What is a gentleman? People with high status mentioned by the ancients now refer to people with noble personality. A gentleman is virtuous, kind-hearted, modest and prudent; The villain is dirty, sinister and narrow-minded, so there is a saying that "the belly of a gentleman is the heart of a villain". The so-called "an upright man is open and poised, villains are often in the same boat" distinguishes "gentlemen" from "villains". Talented people are not necessarily moral gentlemen, and moral people are necessarily different from villains, so they are inevitably ignorant of censorship; Friends of gentlemen are as light as water, friends of villains are as sweet as wine, and friends of nobles are not for profit, but for virtue; A gentleman sympathizes with others' troubles, while a villain gloats at others' troubles. A gentleman loves money, and a villain loves money by hook or by crook; A gentleman is the master of honor, who would rather die than surrender, and a villain is the purpose, humble; A gentleman takes pleasure in obtaining righteousness, while a villain takes pleasure in satisfying lewd behavior. The moral sentiments of gentlemen and villains are completely different; Gentlemen love to praise others, while villains love to slander others; A gentleman is strict with himself, while a villain is strict with others. An upright man is open and poised, I'm worried.
Fear, fear all the time; Gentlemen make all kinds of opinions reasonable and consistent, but they don't agree, while villains agree, instead of irrationally solving differences; A gentleman who is poor still insists on integrity, and a villain who is poor can't control himself; Gentleman is calm but not proud, villain is proud but not impetuous; Gentlemen are good at scheming, while villains are good at suspicion; Those who are attached to villains must be villains, while those who are attached to gentlemen are not necessarily gentlemen. Villains are everywhere. A gentleman seeks things, Dont Ask For Help, while a villain seeks people instead of things. Normal personality means people's self-esteem and self-awareness. And villains often lose themselves. He usually shows emotional emptiness and does nothing on weekdays. He likes to inquire about confidentiality and likes to spread. The world is peaceful, and he fabricates right and wrong for fear that the world will not be chaotic. If an enterprise has such a person, it will pose a great threat to the enterprise. They are centrifugal forces within the enterprise. If they are not exposed, they will exhaust the last drop of wisdom of the masses. This little man is called "internal friction expert" and can be attributed to such a person. When the purpose of morality and utility is consistent, harmonious utility will not be put down on the premise of doing morality for society. The so-called "a gentleman loves money and takes it properly." At the beginning of Qing Dynasty, Yan Yuan once said: "Seek its benefits by its righteousness, and calculate its merits by knowing its way." To be a gentleman, we must do this: when there is a conflict between morality and utilitarian purpose, we must sacrifice profit for justice. Mencius, an ancient philosopher in China, famously said, "Give up one's life for righteousness". He thinks that life is important, but personality is more valuable. If you can't have it both ways, you must "sacrifice your life for justice."
Take justice. "During the Three Kingdoms period, Wei Yan killed the satrap Han Xuan and took refuge in Liu Bei and Guan Yu, so he quickly proposed a toast to Wei Yan. At this moment, Zhuge Liang ordered the thugs to take Wei Yan down, saying that Wei Yan "killed him for his food, and it was unjust for him to take his place and offer his piece." This kind of unkind and unfair person will definitely turn around in the future. "Liu Bei and others didn't believe him, so they left him behind. After Zhuge Liang's death, Wei Yan really rebelled and was captured by Zhuge Liang's sleeve before he died. Ma Dai is ready to stop him. During the Spring and Autumn Period, King Wen of Chu knew that people were good at their jobs through self-cultivation. Jubilee and Shen are both ministers of King Chu Wen. Yinxi is upright and upright. When he saw King Wen's mistake, he protested. King Wen felt annoyed that Jubilee had exposed his shortcomings in front of all the ministers. Shen is obedient in everything and is good at observing King Wen's every move. King Wen said what he wanted to say and did what he wanted to do. King Wen felt very happy that Shen was around. However, Wang Wen has been proved by practice that Xi's advice is correct, and many things are beneficial to the country, because he did not make mistakes because of his advice; However, Shen deliberately did something wrong that Shun did, which was not good for his country. Therefore, Wang Cai's Zhixi is a good minister and should be reused, so he was named as one of the five doctors. King Wen thinks that Shen, a courtier who loves flattery, can no longer be used and will be deported. Being with noble people will make people open-minded, such as in a secluded room; Getting along with morally corrupt people will make people narrow-minded and have low quality. As the saying goes, "pro-Zhu Zhechi will be black. The facts of life prove that if a person deviates from the way of being a gentleman, he can only turn himself into a fly flying around in society and among people, and he can never be reused. Even if he uses it for a while, he will be expelled from the ranks of successful people sooner or later.
I think, we live in this world, even if we can't be as open-minded and selfless as a gentleman, at least we should not describe it as obscene; Don't look at the problem, you can only see the point under the tip of the nose; At least understand that in this world, everyone else has to survive except you; Can see through "people are inherently mortal." In that case, you will naturally live a much happier life. May we all strive to get rid of the villain mentality and let ourselves live as happily as possible.
Insight 3:
Comments:
A gentleman follows the way of a gentleman, and the way of a gentleman focuses on self-cultivation. Self-cultivation is self-cultivation, not others. Self-cultivation can accommodate all difficulties and obstacles like a sponge. This is the way of a gentleman. The higher the endurance, the higher the way to be cultivated; The stronger the persistence, the stronger the realm of practice.
Confucius said: "A gentleman is broad-minded and tolerant of others; The villain loves to haggle over every ounce and is narrow-minded. " From the above comparison, we know that the habits of gentlemen and villains are only two extremes. Those who always like to point at others and find fault with them are some characteristics of villains. So such people don't listen to their elders' teaching at all. He is full of prejudice and won't listen to any advice. He is full of nonsense and pretends to know nothing. How do you think such people can cultivate their own way of being a gentleman? Do you know how to tell a gentleman from a villain? Grasping the following points, a gentleman aims at self-cultivation, far from being a villain.
Positive solution:
Some people explained that the Analects of Confucius said that "small people are often sad and shocked", which I think is a misunderstanding. Looking through Zhu Fuzi's Notes on the Analects of Confucius, we can see that the villain is a solid thing and worried. Just for the so-called "things" of ordinary people? This thing is desire, and villains often go against reason and look for more ways for interests and desires. The so-called lucky trip, suffering from ear loss, this is also the worry of the villain. A gentleman's life is moral, his decisions are solved by reason, and he is very calm about Shu Tai's situation. This is the so-called gentleman's generosity. If some people understand that "villains are always worried", while gentlemen are always worried about the decline of pottery, the insecurity of the country and the hardships of people's livelihood, aren't gentlemen always worried? It is the villain who is lucky enough to take risks and suffer losses! But some bullies, or bosses, are unscrupulous and look like Shu Tai. People have different spiritual realms, which are different spiritual homes. In spiritual life, everyone lives in his own home, whether it is good or bad, comfortable or uncomfortable. He must have such a home, and it is impossible to "move". Slim snobs can't benefit from the bright and open-minded psychological life of those who concentrate on hard work and have no deep thoughts about gains and losses. The most prominent thing about people's external life is nothing more than snobbery and reputation. But you don't have to be psychologically comfortable and happy to be powerful, advantageous and famous. To enjoy the psychological comfort of "sleeping slowly (sleeping safely) and waking up with peace of mind" requires another set of skills and literacy. Generally speaking, to enjoy a person's psychological life requires inner enrichment (the so-called "loyalty" of the ancients), that is, being in the Tao.
Morality, personality, knowledge, interest, emotion, etc. , are relatively perfect, have the necessary quality, to reach the necessary level. Only in this way can we have a correct sense of self-sufficiency. Only with a correct sense of self-sufficiency can we avoid being stimulated and harassed by external things, thus establishing a harmonious and rich spiritual "home". To achieve inner enrichment (truth), we must rely on the following three aspects: first, professionalism. Open-minded and generous, not only like Ceng Zi's introspection, but also like Zhuangzi's blind obedience to the secular. The most correct thing is: "don't ask for the harvest, just ask for the hard work", highlighting the input in the work process, rather than blindly suffering from the results of the work; Highlight yourself and concentrate on doing your best, instead of blindly seeking outside support. In this way, you will naturally love the work itself. Love can make life beautiful People who live a good life are naturally full of psychology. Therefore, "a gentleman is dedicated." Second, know the attitude of life. Kang Youwei believes that you can express your psychological sadness and joy in one sentence. A gentleman does not insist on natural things (such as birth, ignorance, etc.) ), don't complain about fate, encounter difficulties as usual, so you can enjoy yourself at any time. If you study successfully and discover the laws of nature and society, your mood will be more harmonious. It can be seen that understanding the attitude of life is one of the necessary conditions for an open mind. Third, eliminate delusions and selfish desires. The most tormenting thing in the world is people's desire for themselves, especially that kind of wild desire. In real life, all kinds of gains and losses stimulate people all the time. If the desire is too strong, this kind of stimulation
Every time I have a distinct personality. Kang Youwei said: people are bound by their own selfish desires, enslaved by foreign things, and suffer from loss all day long. As soon as they are freed from the pursuit of this thing and fall into the pursuit of that thing, they will have no peace for a moment.
Another solution:
Confucius said, "an upright man is open and poised, I am worried." Confucius said, "A gentleman is broad-minded, and a villain is always restless." A gentleman is aboveboard and fearless, so he is broad-minded and open-minded; Little people are worried about things, busy with calculations, and often worry that others will calculate themselves, so they often fall into fear and anxiety. Confucius said, "Be open-minded, a petty man is anxious and worried.." "A gentleman is not worried or afraid" and "What is there to worry about when a husband introspects and is not sick?" It means: an upright man is open and poised is broad-minded, and the villain is often embarrassed and sad. A gentleman is not sad, not afraid and has a clear conscience. What is there to worry about and be afraid of? Confucius also hates complaining about other people's feelings. He said, "the country has no complaints, and the family has no complaints." "Don't complain about the sky, there are many people." "Eat less food, drink less water, bend your arm to rest on it and enjoy it." This means that no matter where you are, you should not be angry, but be cheerful and optimistic. Even if life is hard, eating coarse grains, drinking cold water and bending your arms to make pillows are all fun.
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